Donny

"Hoteps" can be classified as many things but these things all parallel or align with each other. Most notably they're known as Black Nationalists or Black Conservatives; which means their beliefs are rooted in the general prejudices of society, but the most significant factor is that this is applied to the Black community and overblown with conspiracy theories. The reason hoteps utilize conspiracy theories in debates or in their content or speeches is because it's a baiting measure to reel in Blacks who basically don't know any better and who are feeble-minded or gullible. Their target demographic is Black people in the Black community who've been desperate for leadership due to wanting to combat oppression; seemingly the people they hook are old heads or old folks in general initially, because older folks or people with old-head belief systems align with the general prejudices -- homophobia, transphobia, misogyny/misogynoir and etc.

Hoteps claim to be pro-Black but are very limited in their pro-Blackness due to the fact that they typically only support Blacks who aren't the following -- black women who are either independent (or on their way to independence), black women who combat patriarchy, black men who are gay or have gay tendencies or align themselves with things to be socially-perceived as gay, black women who are gay or have gay tendencies or align themselves with things to be socially-perceived as gay, black folks who interracially date or have previously interracially dated or pro-created interracially and etc.

I'd really like to encourage men in general to do some reflective work when trial-dating or attempting to. It's important because when you're talking to women, it's imperative that you remain humble and aware of yourself and what you represent (or what you at the very least hope to represent). You have to be able to identify who's in your league and who isn't.

For instance, you can't be a guy working part-time at a minimum wage job making $12/hr and expect a woman who explicitly says she's into business management (and has her own business venture or networking laid out to allow her into that space) to lower herself to want to be with you. She doesn't want to and that's fair. She's valid in not wanting to be with you, considering how she's elevated herself (and her standards) to where she is (financially and psychologically, even). So any further pursuit of her is redundant of you.

You have to be emotionally-intelligent and emotionally-secure going on these dates and even when making the effort to set up these dates. Remember that you're not entitled to a fucking thing -- not pussy, not her time, not her space or anything else. And it's a privilege and honor to be in her presence (especially since you deliberately reached out to her and made the effort to try and arrange it and she accepted the offer).

I think that when you're in these spaces with women and you're that regulated emotionally, you have more clarity of yourself and what you're willing to share with her. She's the prize anyway. I mean... you shot your shot at her, remember?

So as long as you move forth with the agenda of truly getting acquainted with someone who either shares or understands your fundamental values, is equally regulated or on their way to being such and you understand that her standards are hers and they are indisputably valid (just as yours may be)... you'll be aight.

Essentially everyone with a purpose to entertain on social media is "clout-chasing;" from the comedians to the bloggers. Everyone's trying to attain a certain level of distinction. The issue is how tasteless some of these figures tend to go about it.

The "whatever-will-get-people-talking" mentality usually surfaces once the relevance deteriorates. Then you get the pathetic content of sorts because the person wants to experience a sense of accomplishment.

And these individuals oftentimes end up neglecting how lame their actions to indulge in this gratification are and it ultimately dwindles their core following.

It bothers me when men say things like -- "Why do women claim they want honesty and then still get mad when you’re honest with them? Fellas, try this… walk up to a girl you’re attracted to and let her know she’s very pretty and you would like to have sex with her. Let me know how the honesty works out."

To simply walk up to a woman you have no ties/history/emotional bearing with and to suggest that the two of you should have sex with each or to express that you'd like to express that you'd like have sex with her is entitled as fuck.

You're a complete stranger and she doesn't know if you carry an STD, if you're an abuser/narcissist, what you represent, your intentions beyond the scope of sex, how trustworthy you are, how good you'd even be in bed (to determine whether or not you're worthy of getting pussy from her) and so forth. All of those factors she's considering are valid.

This is one of the most gas-lighting takes to have, by the way... because it means that you genuinely feel as though you should be able to be honest with her about absolutely everything - stranger or not... but with no real adverse counter to your honesty. There's a certain capacity of being upset that isn't simply "getting mad." Men overuse this belief because they just don't want to accept the fact that women don't have to automatically accept your honesty with no emotional investment on their end if your honesty is demoralizing or warped. What this implies is that the men who feel this way don't truly and fundamentally care about these women and that they don't have range mentally/emotionally to be honest without being complete bozos all because they choose not to unlearn the catalyst(s) that led them to not having range in those areas. And you probably should leave because, chances are... they're not listening to your outcries about and never will because they're more hyper-focused on what serves and benefits them because they're pieces of colossal-sized shit.