Dear World..

• Dress modestly: if you want to stand out from the rest, you must go against the social norms of the time, ironically, this aligns with modestly perfectly. While our society focuses on praising the displaying of skin and provocative outfits, in order to be truly elegant you must learn to see the beauty in embellishing yourself in more conservative, yet tasteful and of great quality clothing. Opt for pieces that will flatter your silhouette, depict delicate embroidery, and enhance your feminity in a charming manner, modest doesn't have to mean bland or unflattering, quite the opposite actually:

• Choose the right color scheme: elegance isn't boastful, when choosing the type of hues for your particular look, pay close attention to the way that such colors compliment your complexion, how they combine with each other, and whether the colors enhance your dainty and elegant image, or not. Safe bets are usually nudes, monochromatic outfits & all black/white looks. When going for an all white outfit, for example, choose a shade that is more sophisticated such as ivory, steam, or white dove, as examples:

• Avoid exaggerated accessories: these include extra high heels, extravagant glasses or jewelry. You should instead opt for tasteful yet striking pieces. Heels should be of moderate length, and your entire choice of accessories should serve as complimentary for your outfit, not be the main focus of your outfit:

• Do not be overbearing with perfume: much like the previous point, perfume should enhance your overall presence and it's an essential part of a high class lady's grooming, but too much of a good thing can turn sour. With your perfumes be mindful of the places you are visiting and choose the type of scent that not only fits that environment better, but also spray just enough for it to be pleasantly felt, without giving a headache to those around you.

• Maintain your nails and overall body properly kept: a woman that is seen with her nails properly styled with smooth skin that is moisturized will let others know immediately that she is high maintenance and her sense of self worth is high because she ensures her body is properly polished and groomed. Similar to the color for your clothing, make sure your nail polish is consistent with the color pattern of the outfit you are wearing. Avoid overly long nails, nails that are falling off or showing signs of major wear, colors and patterns that are extravagant, etc. Colors like white are safe bets, but depending on your skin tone more hold colors like yellow or pink can suit you better as well:

ANNIE HSIAO-CHING WANG

the man here has his mouth covered up by a woman wearing a wedding ring. meaning he is being abused by his wife. of the men i’ve known and spoken to about being abused by their wives, one of the common ways wives will try to “make up” for the abuse is literally with money. fucking crazy sad shit but women who abuse their men (bf or husband) also believe us to be super materialistic and so they can just buy us. i could go on but i don’t want to. it’s too fucking gross. 

this is clearly pedophila in the catholic church. a profoundly evil act that is is primarily aimed at little boys. 

this is child molestation in the black community that tarted little black girls overwhelmingly. usually by a family member and usually a male family member with candy being used to buy their silence. 

and this is an abused wife. the hand is male wearing a wedding ring. similar to the wife abusing the husband, an attempt to buy silence happens with flowers, candy and jewelry being the common gifts.  

Fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you

Fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you

Fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you

Fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you

Male abuse victims are just as fucking important as female abuse victims

If a man hits back, he is the one accused of violence, even if it was in self defense. Because “men can’t be abused” fuck that

Men feel that if they’re honest about their abuse that they’ll be ridiculed and seen as less than a man

Men are afraid to come forward about their abuse because no one will believe them.

If a woman hits a man, it’s because “he did something to upset her,” “he probably deserved it,” “hes over reacting,” y'know, the same shit women are told.

Not all men have the means to leave an abusive relationship. If they could, do you think they’d stay? Being a man doesn’t automatically mean they have financial stability.

So fuck you if you think male abuse victims don’t matter. Fuck you if you think men can’t be victims of abuse. Fuck you if you try and diminish male abuse victims. Fuck you if you ridicule men for talking about their abuse and seeking help. Fuck you if you patronize men who can’t escape their abusive partners. Fuck you if you act like male abuse victims aren’t a real thing.

Now, his girlfriend was a measly little bitch (I know it’s bad to throw around that term “Its so harmful to women blah blah” she was barely human, and I dont even think she’s worthy of being considered a “woman” so I’ll call her what I like for this story) barely scraping 5'3, not a muscle on her, the bone and body structure of a 12 year old. You may be thinking “I get how she could abuse him mentally, but how on earth could she physically abuse someone who could easily put her through some drywall” the answer: People like y'all.

This worm of a human would slap and punch him in the face as hard as she could, hit him in his groin, kick him in his bad knee (he broke when he was younger and it never quite healed right); stab him with things like crochet needles, forks, her nails, small eyebrow scissors, etc. If she was mad at him she would put allergens in his food (He was lactose intolerant to a pretty bad degree and would get horrible stomach aches, cramps, digestive problems, and nausea if he consumed dairy) so she would put regular milk in his coffee instead of the lactose free milk he drank, as well as regular dairy products in things like desserts she would bake, soup, smoothies she would make him; Anything she could hide milk, cream, or cheese in without him noticing.

Again, some of you might be thinking “Why didn’t he catch on, fight back, leave, etc” Well, I’ll tell you why: It’s because he was not only a victim of abuse who was regularly told he was loved by his abuser, despite all the abuse, but he was also a victim of a society which regularly told him that he was not a victim of anything. He was larger than her, smart, financially stable, and everything you think would be needed to magically “Get out and survive” as you say.

She made sure he didn’t fight back, she would tell him things that no person should be told, like how “she wish she was the man in the relationship so she could rape him”, or how she could kill him and he wouldn’t be able to fight back without her telling her father he was beating her, to which her dad would promptly “Stab him in the neck”; she told him he was useless, pathetic, weak, and “nothing but a dick for her to ride”. After all these things he would still not leave, ya wanna know why?

Because after she was done, she’d tell him she loved him, that he didn’t have to worry about talking about his interests with her because she loved hearing about them, how he didn’t have to worry about crying in front of her because she wouldn’t think any less of him. She would speak of their future and her amazing laughs and smiles she would share with him, she would comfort him when he was sad and tell him everything he wanted to hear.

And that’s how he didn’t “escape and survive” for 2 years, and tolerated endless abuse. He finally left when his brother-in-law invited him and his “girlfriend” to his house to play games and hangout for 4th of July. Unbeknownst to the maggot, his BiL had security cameras around his house from a former break in, and those same cameras caught her punching, kicking, and swinging at him with a metal knife-sharpening rod (I don’t know what they’re called but they’re the heavy ass metal ones the chefs use) because he said that he wasnt comfortable with her driving after she drank the whole night.

His BiL promptly kicked her across the room as she was hitting him and got him locked in a room and her out the house with threats of the police. It took a solid 3 weeks of slowly opening up to his family, telling stories, ignoring berating texts and calls and threats from her, and having to move all of his stuff out of their shared apartment in the 6 hour window she was at work because he was genuinely terrified she would show up.

Endless nights were spent having panic attacks, nightmares, being coaxed into getting therapy and counseling, and finally admitting to himself that he had been abused. And after that, was a flurry of him trying to get acceptance.

Almost every domestic abuse counselor was marketed to women, as well as meetings where he was the only man in the room; people assuming he was gay and had to have been abused by a man, or that his girlfriend was a martial arts master or other countless ridiculous things instead of just accepting that he was a victim of domestic abuse by a woman, as a man.

Does the domestic violence against women outweigh the violence against men? From the studies, most likely. Does that make either violence easier, more acceptable, less traumatic or less debilitating? Fuck. No.

So, in conclusion, men can be, and are being abused. Is it different than female abuse? Yes. But poisoning someone’s drink is different than poisoning someone’s food, but it is still poison. So get y'alls heads out of y'alls asses and help men instead of spouting a bunch of shit at them to make yourself looks like the bigger victim. Say “Our cases are different, but are both traumatic and painful, and I will do all I can to help”

https://youtu.be/Ue7U2hdNz2I

so if i’m not being clear enough fuck every single one of you that think men can’t suffer from abuse, can get away much easier, FUCK YOU!

According to a 2014 Harvard study 70% of domestic violence (includes psychological and economic abuse) was initiated by women. Alumni was so furious about it they demanded the study be removed from their website and scrubbed from the Internet. The number one couple demographic showing domestic violence are lesbian. The #2 are heterosexual. The least amount of domestic violence occur among gay male couples. The running theme here is clear.

The courts are a major problem. The gun in the room:

He leaves, he pays.

They agree to split up, he pays.

She leaves, he pays.

Is it any wonder marriage is at the lowest it’s ever been since marriage rates began being recorded, some 150 years ago? There is zero benefit to a man to risk himself in this way, not even co-habitation. And birth rates are at its lowest rates, too. Why bring a child into this current mess. The new adage is gaining steam: Women are the gatekeepers of sex while men are the gatekeepers of marriage, co-habitation. More men are finally realizing this and just saying “No”.

Amazing photo of a wild Snow Leopard 🐆 resting on a cliff edge in the Indian Himalayas 🏔.

📸 Photo by Vikram Singh @wildvikram

🐆 Caption by 🐾 @bigcatswildlife

Snow leopards are found in the harsh high mountain ranges of the Himalayas, southern Siberia in Russia, Tibetan Plateau and across a range that stretches from China to the mountains of Central Asia.