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A hit spy novel or a love letter? Anything you type using this vintage typewriter from the 20s is bound to make a mark.

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Why I started the process of setting goals at the end of every year When I first started intentionally setting goals in 2017, I intended to organize my life and clear psychological clutter. I wanted to track how I invested my time in the new year. I bought a book titled “Organize Your Life,” which had me investigate my habits (both helpful and unhelpful). I sought to improve my quality of life…

#TeamIntrovert: 5 Posts on Staying Sane as a “Quiet” Person

If you’ve been following me on social or keeping up with the blog, you’re aware that I’m proudly #teamintrovert. Being an introvert is an integral part of how I experience social aspects of my life. I’ve also written about how my introversion when affects my professional life. Socially, it’s still confusing to some people what we’re not just shy people who hate the company of others. Sometimes…

Black Feminist Therapy: A Primer

For me, this is the beginning of an exploration, a path I’m trying to shape for myself. I’ve accepted that if I’m going to be forced to produce under capitalism, I’ll at least try to disrupt where I can. Recently, I’ve been spending time thinking about what Black Feminist Therapy looks and feels like in praxis. How I got here Last year, I read the book Feminist Theories & Psychotherapies.…

Mental Health Crisis? Alternatives to Calling the Police

Why do we need alternatives to calling the police when in crisis? Because police are not trained mental health professionals, NEITHER are they examples for de-escalation. In 2020, we were unfortunately inundated with reminders of what happens when police become involved in community matters. Too often we’ve witnessed individuals finding themselves in crises being tragically taken away from us,…

(Black) Gifted and Insecure

Adapted from a previously published post on my former blog “The Boujeeratchademic” As a Black girl and Gifted student, I felt like I was expected to assume a certain humility. Insecurities heightened by a redirection of support away from me because I was doing alright, since I was smart. In Kindergarten I was placed in the Gifted and Talented program and would essentially remain there until high…

On Stacey Abrams and the Mules of the World.

Sister Zora told us. Black women are the mules of the world. Somehow the hardest, most thankless work lands in our laps every time. But it’s not a mystery. It is the legacy of white supremacist patriarchy that keeps us writhing underneath the burden of carrying a people that hate us, on our backs and in our minds. When the hard work is on the table, it’s conveniently catapulted into our hands to…

How to Find a Good Therapist (for you)

So you think you need a therapist? (Hint: Even if you don’t think so, you probably do). Given the content of this blog, being asked about how to find a good therapist is a frequent inquiry. Usually, it’s either how do I find a good Black mental health professional? Or, I get questions about what my own process was like in finding the person for me. The short answer: it’s both art and science.

Journal for Self-Care: 3 Reasons Why

Self-care takes many forms. For some, it’s bubble baths and spa dates. For others, it’s drawing boundaries and saying no. And sometimes it’s identifying and changing demoralizing behaviors. For me, it’s all of the above, with the added commitment of authenticity. I’ve hardly wrapped my head around mindfulness, but I’ve identified that I journal for self-care. It’s the awareness of myself in those…

Help! Introverted Black Girl at Thanksgiving

I know the pandemicis supposed to be slowing down Thanksgiving for some of us. But I can’t help but think about my love/hate relationship with this holiday as an introverted Black girl. If your Black family is anything like the ones on tiktok, you’re getting ready to come through dripping just to sit on the couch with socks on to ask “who made the [insert very important Thanksgiving meal…

How to Fight Seasonal Depression

Depending on where you’re located the sun is basically playing peekabo from now until spring. You may have heard of “seasonal affective disorder”, now being referred to as Major Depressive Disorder with a Seasonal Pattern. (Source: NAMI). You may have also heard people casually refer to it as seasonal depression. I’ll refer to it as such in this post. If you’re anything like me, losing sunlight…

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Authenticity is Self-Care: A Follow Up

If you haven’t read the Part I of Authenticity is Self-Care, then go check that out first. I love that post because it pissed off someone that hollered like a hit dog. It made me realize I was probably on to something.

Black women don’t get to be their authentic selves without being bullied into believing THEY are a bully or worse, ghetto/low-class/ratchet. Considering I don’t see any issue…