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Open Arms: You’ve probably been welcomed “with open arms,” which, of course, means that a person was glad to see you. At a party or in another so-cial or business situation, open arms suggest that you are friendly and available for contact. During a conversation, open arms make others feel that you are receptive and listening. Forward Lean: “Leaning forward slightly while a person is talking to you indicates interest on your part and shows you are listening to what the person is saying. This is usually taken as a compliment by the other person, and will encourage him to continue talking. Touch: In nearly every situation, a warm and firm handshake is a safe way of showing an open and friendly attitude toward the people you meet. Be the first to extend your hand in greeting. Couple this handshake with a friendly “Hi!” and a nice smile and your name, and you have made the first step to open the channels of communication between you and the other person." It is also important to end your conversations with a warm and friendly handshake in business and social situations. Combine it with a bright smile and a friendly statement like “I’ve really en-joyed talking with you!” or “Let’s get to-gether again soon.” This is an excellent way to end a conversation and leaves you and the other person both feeling good about the exchange." Eye Contact: Perhaps the strongest nonverbal gestures are made with the eyes. Direct eye contact indicates that you are listening to the other person and that you want to know more about him or her. With eye contact and a friendly smile, you’ll send this unmistakable message: “I’d like to talk to you and maybe get to know you better.” Eye contact should be natural and not forced or overdone. It is perfectly okay to have brief periods of eye contact while you observe other parts of the person’s face, particularly the mouth. When the person smiles, be sure to smile back. But always make an effort to return your gaze to the person’s eyes" " Nod: "The letter N in S-O-F-T-E-N stands for nod. A nod of the head indicates that you are listening and that you understand what is being said. It usually signals approval and encourages the other person to continue talking. A nod of the head, along with a smile and a friendly hello, is an excellent way of greeting people on the street or anywhere else. Like all the other softening gestures, it sends the same message: “I’m friendly and willing to communicate.

" Intimate distance: 0 to 18 inches (0 to 0.4 meter) for conversations between spouses, family, and people who are embracing, touching, or whispering.   • Personal distance: 18 to 36 inches (0.4 to 0.9 meter) for conversations between good friends, family, or informal acquaintances—people who want to get to know one another better and in a more" personal way.   • Social distance: 3 to 5 feet (0.9 to 1.5 meters) for more formal conversations between business or formal so-cial acquaintances."

Be responsible – Take individual responsibility for your own safety Be realistic – Take realistic security precautions Be Aware – The cornerstone of self protection “Be aware of the three STUPIDS - going to stupid places with stupid people and doing stupid things”

Think hard about other skills, which will help to do your job or make school life easier. Most people will need to use Microsoft packages such as Word, Excel or PowerPoint, but very few people have ever had formal training. Look for ways to improve your skills here and think about touch-typing skills if you have never been taught how to properly use a keyboard. All hugely valuable and transferable skills for the modern world. Work hard, but be smart about it. Set yourself a limit and stick to it. Always go into a job, a project, or that piece of coursework, with a clear view of where you want to go and how you want to get there. Always have a plan in mind. It may change over the period you are there, but always have a plan. When you have achieved the status, the goals, the level of experience or the learning you set yourself do not get stuck, do not be afraid to start to look for the next step wherever that maybe. Keep going, and do not give up. Be persistent, if something is worth doing then it is worth working at. Do not give up when the first difficulty is presented. Work out a way round obstacles and move on. Do not worry if you take more time than other people, you are learning, keep striving, always do your best. Find a mentor to help and advise you. Many companies and universities will have formal mentoring programmes for employees/students, and, if they do, find a mentor you respect to work with on your development. If your company/university does not have a formal programmes, then seek out someone who you respect and do not be afraid to ask them if they will help to mentor you. Most people will be flattered to be asked and will help.

As you grow up spend time in the company of girls or women of your age and all ages. Developing the ability to be comfortable in the company of the oppo-site sex will hold you in good stead, as you grow older. Once you are comfort-able in women’s company you will not need to come up with corny lines to meet women in clubs or bars, you will be able to start a normal conversation. Being comfortable with women who are your friends will open up a huge group of friends and acquaintances. Let friendships happen naturally, do not worry because when you least expect it things will happen. It should not need to be said but be equally comfortable around people of all different types of sexuality and diversity. Do not think of sex as the aim of a relationship. Do not make it a goal or a tar-get. Let a relationship build, let things move at their own pace and enjoy learn-ing how to romance your partner. Removing any pressure in this way will mean that you both enjoy learning about each other. Let the relationship grow organically and you will gain the respect of women and when the time is right you will know.

Work hard on your ability to talk to and listen to other people, the art of communication is a valuable skill. Think about holding reasoned conversations, work at your general knowledge and your understanding of current affairs so that you can discuss the world. Have an opinion and be prepared to discuss and debate with your friends. Understand that a conversation is a two-way thing, not one person berating another about their point of view. Learn to listen, appraise and respond. Be calm, collected and confident when talking to both young and older people. Find an older person who you like and respect and talk to them, ask questions, give your opinions. Learn to do this in a friendly environment and you will find it much easier when you move out into the wider world. Spend some time focusing on learning about non-verbal communications, as a large percentage of our communication is not the words we speak. Learning about body language is an invaluable skill to master from an early age.

when you are dealing with other people you will stand out. Find a way to train yourself to stop, get someone to point out every time you do it and even if you must do it with your friends find a way to switch it off when not with them. Clear speech, a good use of language and a broad vocabulary will take you far. Be calm in your manner of speech, also be audible.

Treat everyone equally, men and women. Do not pick on any weaknesses, ei-ther physical or in a particular area of knowledge. Continue to learn even when you have left school or university. Read books, magazines and newspapers, scour the Internet for knowledge. Do not get bogged down in your group of friends on a social media site. Go out, learn more about the world, meet new people, have new experiences and broaden your outlook. Be aware that as a young man you have a different way of looking at things. This may allow you to create something to-tally new and revolutionary, think of Steve Jobs, Richard Branson and Bill Gates, to name but a few. But be aware that many older people will find your youthful zeal and enthusiasm a threat, so tread carefully and listen to what your elders have to teach you, and then plough your own furrow. against your own internal moral code. Just because someone is in a position of experience if you think what he or she are telling you is wrong then question and challenge it, but do so with politeness and humility. Never be afraid to show your emotions. Holding or suppressing your emotions in is not good for you.

You will learn as you grow that there is a fine line between self-belief and swaggering over-confidence. You need to de-velop a very affirming self worth and self-belief. It is best to learn to be positive, develop a ‘can do’ attitude. This is a very impor-tant element of your personality. For some it may come naturally, but other smay have to work at it. Be an original rather than a clone . Do not slavishly follow fashion. Look for a role model or someone you respect and learn from them but do not be afraid to be your own person, develop your own style and your own personality. Whatever you do, do not take yourself too seriously. While there are limited op-tions for clowns, taking yourself too seriously can be as bad. Learn to relax and evaluate social trends and do not follow every turn slavishly.

For outside of the box dates, think a walk, a museum, a picnic out (weather permitting) or a historical walk with a private guide and there are many others. The PG team have taken dates to Bookstores, the Zoo, the Planetarium, Wine Tastings and many more. think about the impression you want to give of yourself, the date you choose will reflect that. Planning a walk round a Museum and then a casual lunch? Think about what message that conveys as does dinner at a very fancy restaurant that is generally out of your price bracket. Think comfortable for you and the date. Think about your choice and make it relevant. As for style, dress appropriately to your date. We would always say dress one level higher than you think, as your date generally will. If it is dinner wear a suit and a good shirt, in more formal restaurants you should also wear a tie. If you are going out on your date during the weekend, perhaps wear a good pair of trousers, a shirt and a jacket. Please wear good shoes, not trainers as they make a stylish statement that you are no longer a boy. Shhh Listen First The art to any relationship is the ability to actively listen and this is no different on your first dates. One of the secrets to being charming is to be really interested in other people. This is even more the case during first dates. Conversation should flow naturally, though you should listen more than you speak. You should ask questions about your date, their likes and dislikes and fully listen to their answers. Hopefully this will lead to discussions on those areas in which you share a mutual pas-sion. We are not saying be passive in your conversation, but only interrupt to agree or confirm points. To get you going, good and open-ended topics of conversation are about places you have been or want to travel to, or music, movies or books that you like. You should be willing to open up and share your feelings about people and things, but you should always avoid previous relationships at any level, you should be focused on this budding one not previously fallen ones. Whatever the outcome of your date, you should always be interested in the other person and their life. It is not yours and therefore is interesting. Generally, you should appear relaxed and comfortable. So as a male, keep your gestures smaller and movements slower, the person across from you is a stranger after all and you do not want to trigger their limbic sys-tem to run away! As you become more relaxed in each other’s company then the gestures can get bigger, though it is best not to turn into an Over the Top Preacher! A Gentleman is never late and should be early. If you are picking your date up then you should be a few minutes ahead of time. If you have a mobile phone, unless you are expecting a family emergency, it should be on silent and not removed from your pocket for any reason except to find a location if you are lost! Your attention should be on the date and nothing else, looking at the phone will break the spell of intimacy. Do not forget to send some kind of Thank You for your lovely evening, even if it will not go beyond that first date. The very least should be a phone call, do not text it lacks intimacy, but even better, and if the date has gone well, would be a handwritten card or note. It shows thought. Good Luck!

Relationships, like any living and breathing entity, need to be worked at, tended to, nourished and giv-en love. It is a frequent refrain from Ladies that their Men tend to drop all the romance when a relationship be-comes formed and stable. The Gen-tleman will always treat his partner like a person who deserves to be wooed and not just leave it to Valentines Day. Flowers, Gifts & Poems As the saying goes “it is the thought that counts”, therefore when getting a gift, make it something that your partner wants or likes. It does not have be a grand gesture or an expensive gift, it could just be a small bunch of flowers or a hand written card with some terms of endearment. Date Night Make time for each other. In our modern hectic lives, we tend to run along without taking time to stop and get away from the drudgery of life. You should al-ways be dating your partner, so regular date nights would be a great thing, even if it is just a home cooked meal. Go Crazy Have fun! One of the best things is make sure you laugh together. You should be best friends and best friends share jokes and have their own shorthand. Do not loose that sense of fun; occasionally do something crazy together. Shared Experiences One of the things that bonds us is the value of shared experiences, so make sure that the majority of these experiences are positive and special. One tip is to get a glass jar and write little notes to put in it with things that you have done either together or that you are thankful to the other person for. At the end of the year open the jar and remem-ber together!

This is something the Gentleman of yesteryear never would have done, but times have changed and he moves with the times. Online Dating is now a respectable part of the dating landscape. As with everything in the world of the Internet, there is an infinite amount of possibilities and challenges as we navi-gate this new landscape. Which Site? You only have to ‘google’ online dating and you get dozens and dozens of sites each with different target audiences and kinds of profiles. Take time to peruse, look at the people on the site, both the potential partners and the male profiles to see whether you will fit in and attract the partners you are looking for. The ones that are modest but clearly descriptive of themselves, the relationship sought and the ideal partner. The Hard Sell is equally off putting on-line as it is in the real world. If you are not the best wordsmith, read it out loud and see how it sounds. The Picture The single biggest male error is the photo. If the way you dress sets the first impression when you meet, the photo is the online equivalent. No ‘Mug Shots’, Selfies, nights out shots and no topless shots (even if you have the body of Ado-nis). Either have a professional one tak-en or get someone you know whom is good with a camera to do it. Make an ef-fort and Smile! first email/phone call will make a very lasting impression. As with the face-to-face approach, discussed above, write with respect and care. No braggadocio, this is neither a CV nor a boasting competition. Show that you are a Gentleman from the start, mention items in their profile, especially mutual areas of interest. Be open and honest. Moving On If someone approaches you, take the time to do them the courtesy of engag-ing with them, you never know it might be your perfect match under a slightly different profile. If you do move on, as any gentleman would, be polite, especially in your email to them. Also be a gentleman and ac-cept rejection with an equal amount of good grace.

One of the most daunting aspects of any relationship is the initial encounter from the daring of approaching someone in a bar to the relative safety of being introduced to someone at a party of friends. The initial contact plays a crucial part in your romantic journey. Get the Look First things first, how you look is impor-tant, so make sure that you have taken care of that element. We have already discussed in the previous chapters with tips for style, dress and grooming. Remember first impressions count. Right Time, Right Place Make sure the situation is appropriate. It might not be best to talk to a work col-league in front of everyone nor approach a waitress while she is working. Just Say Hello No cheesy chat up lines and no strategy from ‘The Game’. Just walk up and say hello, in a quietly confident and calm manner. Start a conversation; make it about a shared point, whether that’s the coffee, the music, a book or something in the News (good news only). Introduce yourself and then listen. If you have a point of introduction from someone else then your job is easier. This is the hard-est part. The Eyes Have It Eye Contact is key. The right level of eye contact is crucial, you do not want to come across as a glaring mad man nor do you want to be a catching every movement. It is said that about 7 seconds of direct eye contact is comfortable. You do want to know what colour eyes she has at the end of the conversation. Do not Fence Me In Physical presence is important, our body language and positioning is key. Be non-threatening, be calm and do not back the lady into a corner or trap her in anyway, she will want an escape route. It does matter if you are not as physically imposing as Arnold Schwarzeneg-ger, but you are still a male and there is always a possibility you are not a gen-tleman in their mind. Listen, Listen, Listen   Make sure that they have heard you first and then ask a couple of questions and actively listen to the responses, not only will it give you the opportunity for continued conversation but will highlight the way the initial encounter is going. Should I Stay or Should I Go? Unless it is exceptionally obvious, for example she has walked away or you have immediately gone for a coffee, then you need to make a judgment call. Put simply, if she is maintaining eye contact and is pleasant and conver-sational then ask the lady out, if she is short with you and looking around then excuse yourself and move on. Talking to someone for the first time is daunting, but a gentleman should chal-lenge himself and be able to face his fears. Remember that Courage is one of the values of the Gentleman.

Respect It is one of our founding principles and it is the founding principle in the building blocks of relationships. Demonstrate that you respect the lady’s opinions, career, hobbies, minds and their bodies. Romance The little acts of love; buying flowers, writing love notes, lighting candles, kissing and so much more. Do not for-get to use them all the time, not just at the beginning of a relationship. Time Time is probably the most precious commodity in today’s world, so remem-ber to treat the person you love as the top priority. Spend time with them, even if it is just doing the washing up and talking. Communication The ability to communicate is key. Communication is not talking; communication is the ability to be understood. So make sure that you listen to what is being said and also seek to be understood, a grunt just will not do. Passion & Ambition Passionate and Ambitious people are infectious; people will be drawn to them as friends, work colleagues and lovers. Be passionate about who you are and be ambitious about what you can achieve. Confidence   In most surveys this generally comes top of what most people find attractive. Confidence in yourself is key and can be built, as we have mentioned earlier. Humour This is always on every list of things that women look for. We are not expecting you to be a stand-up comedian, but a good sense of humour and the ability to make people laugh, even at yourself, will go a long way. These are just the key principles to helping you become that Romantic Gentleman. You should take them to heart and develop them. We are here to help you, so let’s start at the beginning. Be able too tell the difference between a real woman and a money oriented woman and always listen to your heart and your head.

"• If you must use a slide show, make sure you use mainly pictures and that all text is 30-point font or greater. • Never read the slides or turn your back on your audience. • Breathe In and Slow Down. Most people speak too fast; slow down and take your time. Breathe In through your nose only, it slows you down and gives you time. The Queen speaks like this. • Maintain eye contact with your audience. • Be entertaining, think about humour, passion and movement. Remember it is not a talent show. • Practice, Practice, Practice. You can never have enough. • NO JARGON. You never know who is in the audience so do not as-sume that they know the jargon you are using. Explain it simply and clearly. ‘I had a Nocturnal Disturbance’ is not as effective as ‘I have a dream.’ • Speak to the back of the room as clearly as you can. • Most of all, have fun!

"• Set an agenda or purpose: have a list of items that you are going to cover and do not go ‘off topic’. • Meetings have a start and an end time. Almost always keep it short. • Set a rhythm, set regular meetings at regular days and times. • Be Punctual and prepared, no one wants to wait for you to arrive or to muck around trying to get your papers together." • Listen and do not interrupt, your turn will come. • Make sure you address people correctly. • Keep Minutes and Log Next Actions with who needs to do what. • Have meetings while standing; people do not dawdle if they are standing. • Keep it positive, suggest solutions and never judge. • Make sure you post the notes and review. • TURN OFF THE PHONE

• Remember the law extends to so-cial media, remember what you post about others.”