The inherent tension between "no one post can capture every facet of the human experience, and you need to learn to ignore stuff that doesn't apply to you," on the one hand, and "some people's existence is forgotten or disregarded constantly, and it's legit to be mad when you see a statement claiming universality that does not and cannot apply to you, especially when this happens many times per day every single day," on the other hand.
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Merry Christmas to all the families whose spitefully convoluted holiday parenting time schedules I had to help draft as part of divorce settlements back when I was a legal assistant. May your McDonald’s parking lot child handoffs—four of them total in the space of 24 hours, because just alternating who gets Caidynn and Brantleigh for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day every year would’ve meant giving an inch to your heinous bitch of an ex—be merry and bright
This cuffing season I am begging you all, if you remember nothing else I ever tell you, remember this: Do not get married without a prenup. Especially if there’s even an inkling of a possibility that you might have kids.
“But I’m worried my betrothed will get mad if I ask for one!” If even a hypothetical discussion of how the two of you would handle splitting up makes your would-be spouse get angry with you, imagine how maturely they’d handle an actual divorce! Don’t marry that person. Don’t have children with that person. Don’t share finances with that person. Don’t even adopt a pet with that person.
“But bringing all that paperwork into a relationship isn’t sexy or romantic!” Hard disagree + marriage isn’t always gonna be sexy or romantic either + you’re already bringing paperwork into your relationship by getting a marriage license. You can stay together and keep sexily filing your very romantic income taxes single.
“But prenups are only for rich people! I can’t afford that!” The median U.S. wedding cost in 2024 was $13,195. Approach a normal, run-of-the-mill family law attorney in your area at least sort of in agreement already about how you’d handle splitting up assets/debts/children/spousal support/etc and you should be able to get a prenup for under $1000. Either factor it into your wedding budget or start saving up for a divorce, because hooooooo boy, you don’t even wanna know how much pricier that is! (Fun fact: Even before everyone hires their own lawyers and things get messy and drawn out, just *filing* for divorce costs a few hundred dollars in court fees!)
“But this is true love! Me and my spouse-to-be are soulmates! We have the same cutie mark! We’ll never get divorced!” Oh, sweet summer child.
"Well, some of us CAN'T get married because of [societal injustice]!" You're right, that sucks. I’m not talking about that though. "But it bums me out too much to think about my relationship ending!" Okay. Sounds like a great thing to seek support about and bond over with your betrothed. “So you're saying love isn't real?" No. But I am saying it's been 5 years since | last worked for a family law attorney and I can still feel the papercuts on my fingertips from folding and mailing out all the invoices on monthly bill day to people who once earnestly believed they were the exception
comments under a post about autistic hyper empathy. like you can’t really believe that 80% of people don’t wonder or care or think about anything can you
You may have heard me talk about (or read the fics I wrote for) Battleship in the past - it's not running this year, but instead a very similar event called Taggle is running.
The way this event works is that ANYONE can leave prompts, and then the players write fics (or make art or podfics) for those prompts in order to strategically hit tags on a gameboard. Every fanwork has to be a gift in response to a prompt.
Unfortunately, because it's not official Battleship-branded Battleship, Taggle has way fewer participants and has gotten way fewer prompts, which means that right now there are ZERO PROMPTS (other than those I've left) in many of my fandoms! Which will make it hard for me to write anything!
In particular, Supernatural, Check Please, Baby-Sitter's Club, and For All Mankind currently have no prompts from anyone but me (I haven't even gotten around to writing prompts for some of them yet) - last year I wrote fics for all of these, but I can't without prompts!
But even if you and I don't share any fandoms, I encourage you to create prompts for the fandoms you are in, so that people can create things in those fandoms.
How do I leave prompts?
Go to the Taggle 2026 prompt collection and click "Sign Up" - don't worry, you're not actually signing up to play. Signups are closed, so you can ignore anything in the instructions about signing up. You're just here to leave prompts.
A few things to note:
Do NOT click that you want the prompt to be semi-anonymous. If you don't want your AO3 name listed on the prompt, you'll have to make a sockpuppet account.
Do NOT put any tags other than the ones in the collection's tagset in any of the fields!
DO make sure your account can receive gifts! (Preferences -> Collections, Challenges, and Gifts -> make sure "allow anyone to gift me works" is checked)
DO write something in the Optional Details section, even if it's just "I don't have any DNWs" (are you sure you don't have any DNWs?)
If the fandom and/or relationship you want isn't in the tagset yet, you have to nominate them first - read the nomination rules first, they'll be rejected if you don't follow them. You'll probably have to wait a few hours for a mod to approve them before you can prompt with them.
For each prompt you'll need to specify:
A fandom that is in the tagset (gifter will have to work within this fandom)
1-20 characters or pairings that are in the tagset (gifter will have to include at least one of these)
1-3 mediums (fic, art, podfic) that you're willing to receive (these are listed as characters, ignore that)
1 or more Freeform tags from the tagset (gifter will have to include at least one - see notes under cut for more details on these)
A list of things you Do Not Want (if you've never made a DNW list, see details under the cut) (your gifter is NOT allowed to include any of these)
A list of things you do want, whether specific prompts or just vibes (you're not required to provide this but it's recommended; your gifter is not required to include these, but most will try their best)
Let me know if you have any questions! If I don't know the answer, I'll ask around for you.
A few other notes to keep in mind under the cut:
There are 400+ Freeform tags to choose from (the first 20 can go in Additional Tags, the rest in Optional Tags, these fields are treated as the same). You have to choose at least one, but can put as many as you want. Much like warnings, even if you don’t list a tag, you might get it unless you DNW it, so it’s a good idea to go through the list and compile a "Tags I DNW" list.
Luckily there is a spreadsheet here to make all this easier - just check off tags and it will create a magic list for you to copy and paste, whether into the tag fields or for a DNW list!
Your gifter will be required to use at least one relationship and one freeform that you’ve selected - but be aware that they can choose ANY relationship + ANY freeform, so if there are, for example, some kinks you like with ship A but not ship B, you’ll want to make separate prompts so you can choose different freeforms for the two ships.
All DNWs (whether freeform tags, or just other things you Do Not Want) must be listed in the Optional Details box for every prompt. Many times your gifter will not even see your other prompts, so don’t expect them to read what’s on another prompt. Just copy and paste that shit. Be as specific as possible - just saying “no kinks” will leave potential gifters wondering what you think is kinky. Don’t worry about your list being too long, as long as you don’t DNW anything that you chose in your tags (like a brother/sister pairing + DNW incest).
Do NOT explain why you don’t want your DNWs - that’s your business, and sometimes it can sound judgmental even if you don’t mean to be (hopefully I don’t have to tell you not to intentionally write anything judgmental, but: don’t). Just list what you don’t want, and gifters will avoid it without questioning why you don’t want it, whether it’s scat/watersports or Modern AUs or a specific character.
Note that if you choose an individual character, gifters are allowed to put that character in a pairing, so DNW any pairings you don’t want them in (or you can just say “DNW Mr X in any romantic/sexual pairing”)
You can (and should) also put things you like, either generally or for that fandom/ship, as well as specific prompts, in the Optional Details box, but these are optional, both for you and the gifter. The gifter only has to hit one relationship and one freeform (though most will do their best to make a gift you’ll like).
You can submit up to 25 prompts per AO3 account.
Prompting will stay open throughout the event (which started today and will probably go for about 2 weeks), so don’t feel like you have to submit all your prompts at once!
If you do get a gift, be sure to leave a nice comment! ♥️
ok one way i comment on fics is by saving my favorite quotes as i read a chapter & then putting them in a comment. is that normal / good yes or no. pls help me am i annoying the authors ?????
commenting your favorite quotes from a fic — good move?
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tumblr staff will not contact you through anything other than email or their official accounts, which will all have this badge:
DO NOT ENGAGE WITH THIS OR SIMILAR ACCOUNTS AND ABSOLUTELY DO NOT CLICK ANY LINKS FROM IT.
report and block. i'd also appreciate it if you shared this post, bc that blog was JUST created and was already tagging a LOT of people, and i know not everyone has the scam-sensing instinct, even if this might seem obvious to some.
hey @staff @support this is the kind of thing YOU should be making a big ole banner about. Especially if you’re rolling out ID verification in any regions right now. Get on it.
Adding alt text for the images because this is very serious information everyone should have access to since their accounts could be at risk if they follow these fake instructions:
[Image description: a screenshot of a Tumblr account impersonating Staff with the username "support61871", the blog name "Tumblr staff" and the Tumblr logo as their icon. Their bio links to the real Staff account and profile.
Under the bio there is a post that reads as follows:
"Account Verification Under New Terms of Service
Dear Tumblr Community,
We're writing to inform you about an important change to our security procedures.
Effective immediately, following the updated Tumblr Terms of Service and Community Guidelines (version 2.5.1.), all users will be required to complete identity and account verification.
Why we're doing this:
Recently, we've seen an increase in policy violations – including bot activity, automated content scraping, and unauthorized data access. To protect our community and maintain a safe environment for everyone, we are introducing mandatory verification for all active accounts.
What you need to do:
Please click the official verification link below and follow the intructions provided:
[link to a fake verification page posing as real]
We kindly ask that you complete the verification process within 72 hours of receiving this notice. Accounts that are not verified by the deadline may be subject to temporary restrictions until verification is completed.
Thank you for your cooperation and understanding as we work to keep Tumblr safe.
Best regards, The Tumblr Support Team."
End description.]
Needless to say, this isn't how Tumblr verification works. For starters, it only applies to users from countries with governments that unfortunately require it (because otherwise Tumblr wouldn't be able to operate in those countries; it sucks but they're not the ones calling the shots here). Also, it's done via a third party, k-ID.
This is the real link with instructions and information on how to verify your age. Anything else is a scam or bots trying to steal your account:
As OP said, Tumblr will only contact you via e-mail or official accounts, which don't have a bunch of random numbers in their usernames. Please stay alert and report them!
I feel like to really get this circulating as it should, we need it superimposed over the picture of the turkey going in the fridge. (I can't do it I'm on my phone.)
whenever I see archeological remains of a human who suffered from a terrible disease that couldn’t be treated in their lifetime but could be fixed now, this wave of sorrow and mourning washes over me. a woman in the 14th century who spent her 35 years of life bent at the waist because of congenital scoliosis. a man from the 18th century who died because of a non cancerous mass on his jaw that made eating progressively more difficult. remains of a woman from the Neolithic who died in childbirth having evidence of peri-mortem trepanation on her skull.
and yet she survived to 35. and yet the physicians in his time tried to strengthen his jaw. and yet someone 4,000 years ago tried to save someone they loved from dying of preeclampsia/increased cranial pressure. we tried. we tried and we tried and we tried. we failed and we learned but we tried. that’s what makes humans so beautiful.
My mom sometimes talks about a child in her neighborhood who was born with hydrocephaly and died of it. His parents strove to keep him alive for years, but he ultimately passed after a long decline. No treatment available. No hope at all, and the parents knew it from his birth.
Several decades later my sister had an MRI, as a long shot, to try to figure out why she was sick and deteriorating with a number of symptoms that were close to being written off as anxiety. She was sent straight to the hospital for adult onset hydrocephaly. Two days later she had brain surgery to put a shunt down her neck into her stomach and drain the fluid out. (No, you cannot usually get brain surgery that fast. Yes, it was that urgent.) Recovery was long and squiggly but it happened.
I think of that boy every once in a while. The one who died. I have no doubt that treatments developed for people like him, and tested on people like him, saved my sister's life.
He never knew he made the world better. His condition was severe, he never knew much of anything, I don't think. I think if I ever track down a God or something like one, that'll be somewhere on my List of Wishes. To make sure people like him know that they helped.
I've been type 1 diabetic since I was about one and a half, and was incredibly sick. If my mother hadn't also been type 1 and recognized the signs I likely would have died.
I was born in 1982. Insulin was first given to a patient in 1922, and he survived. Before that, type 1 meant death, often very slow and agonizing. Before insulin, doctors advised a super strict "keto" diet to prolong life, and it could work for awhile - up to a year, I believe. But it was a miserable existence as the body was literally eating itself as the blood turned acidic until the patient eventually died.
60 years. Only 60 years before my birth did that procedure work for the first time. That's absolutely nothing given the span of human history and I think a lot about the people who died from it throughout time.
But yes, people tried. Healers and doctors of all sorts tried all manner of things to allow these (mostly!) kids to live. The fact that it was accomplished at all is nothing short of a miracle. The fact that I've been alive 42 years is fucking insane considering my body doesn't produce a hormone necessary for survival. If you think that doesn't blow me away on a regular basis you have another think coming. It's nothing short of a miracle.
Every medical advancement is. The amount of work that goes into it and the vast amount of luck necessary to get it right even when all the research and information is sound is just astonishing.
Thank you, humanity. Thank you ingenuity and determination to save lives and make them better. Thank you to every medical practitioner and medical researcher in existence now and through all of time. Thank you to all the people who died so I could live.
Diabetes is one of these illnesses that really throws medical history into perspective. It's so common, everyone knows someone who has it, people live pretty normal lives with it. And yet, a hundred years ago, it was an instant death sentence. And then we were able to treat people with insulin and yet - it was extremely disabling. The insulin was extracted from animal pancreas had severe side effects, even with how similar the hormones are, there is always an averse reaction to proteins from foreign species, especially during long-term treatment. Injections had to be given every few hours, at-home-tests were only available from the 70s onwards. Insulin pumps entered the market in the 80s. Genetically produced insulin - humanized insulin - was first available in the US in 1982, in many countries only around the year 2000.
In 1930, having diabetes type I would basically mean being hospital bound, being woken every few hours for regular injections.
In 1965, you'd be able to live at home and get by with a very strict diet and a few timed injections. You'd struggle with chronical side effects. Having children wasn't done - passing on your genes would be immoral, and it might not even be legal for you to marry.
In the year 2000, you'd have a device clipped to your belt that would measure your blood sugar and distribute insulin, you only need to change the needle a few times a day. You might even be allowed to join in P.E. class
In 2025, you stick on two patches that do the same thing. They're synchronized through your phone.
That wasn't fate. It's not natural development that made diabetes a common chronic illness. It was hundreds of people who cared. It was the people who created the keto diet. It was the people who came up with tests. The ones who went through different species, trying to figure out the closest analogon to human insulin. It was the people who fought in court to get genetically produced insulin approved for medical use. It was people who looked at a rare, incurable disease and said "but what if it wasn't?"
Back in the 1960s, my dad was one of the first 100 successful open-heart surgeries in the world. He needed it to fix a hole in his heart, a condition that up until then was basically "take him home and make him comfortable."
He's lived long enough that three of his grandkids have been born with the same condition, and he's been there to assist with the recovery after the laparoscopic version of the same surgery he had.
He has a scar from collarbone to waist that's as thick as my finger--thicker, in some places. My nieces and nephews have scars so tiny you could mistake them for being from a particularly bad cat scratch. And their recovery was measured in weeks, instead of months.
Medicine has improved so much, so fast, that he's lived to see the research done on him save his grandchildren.
2) We both lecture my psychology students (I almost always use at least one of his crash course and/or sci show videos in class)
3) We're both Hodgkin's Lymphoma survivors.
Hodgkins is a really rare cancer - it makes up .7% of all the cancers in the US annually. And yet in my experience, most people know someone who's had it, for two reasons: It hits young (peak is 15-35 years old) and these days, almost everyone survives it. So most people who get it are around for decades and decades to be the Hodgkins patient somebody has met.
At the turn of the 20th century, the survival rate was basically zero. Although it's slow-growing, like most cancers if untreated it will eventually metastasize and take over an important organ - but even before that, you have lymph tissue in some organs such as the lungs and liver, so it doesn't even have to metastasize. When I was diagnosed at age 24 I had tumors in both lungs, and was basically doing my best impression of someone dying of consumption. Without treatment, I doubt I would've had months left. Maybe weeks.
In the 40s and 50s they started being able to treat cases caught very early with radiation. In 1964, the first chemo protocol for Hodgkins was created, called MOPP, which was a miracle drug, increasing the survival rate to 35-50%, which was insanely high for a cancer at the time.
In 1975 ABVD chemo, the kind I had in 2005, was introduced, which had far fewer side effects than MOPP and increased the survival rate to nearly 90%, with most deaths happening in people diagnosed over age 70 (like Richard Harris, who died of Hodgkins at age 72). Even Stage 4, or metastasized, Hodgkins has a survival rate of 75%. In less than 50 years the survival rate went from 0% to 90%.
Side note in terms of the people who suffered to make this possible: The M in MOPP is for mustine or mustard, as in nitrogen mustards, which were the very first chemo drug and are a class of compounds that include mustard gas. We owe chemotherapy to the people of Bari, Italy, who had mustard gas released on them during an air raid in WWII. Scientists found after the fact that the victims had a lower number of lymphocytes, the type of white blood cell affected by lymphomas. This, coupled with research already underway at the time by a group of Yale scientists, led to the development of the first chemo drug out of a compound closely related to mustard gas. It was not enough to raise long-term Hodgkins survival rates by itself, but it led to longer remissions until it was combined into MOPP.
My mom got diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer (metastasized to about a dozen bones by the time they caught it) in 2008. The five-year survival rate was 15%. It's been 18 years, and she's still here. None of her doctors know anyone else who's lived with Stage IV breast cancer for that long.
I hope that someday making it this far will be much more common. I know that the treatments my mother has had since getting diagnosed have been much less physically debilitating than the treatments my grandma got when she had Stage II breast cancer in the early 1990s (and Stage II is significantly less advanced!).
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In light of recent events, I have begun submitting bug reports when I see mature content labels applied inappropriately to posts, especially if an appeal has been rejected.
for what it's worth: after a few months of submitting help tickets as 'feedback' when i saw a post inappropriately flagged as mature, i tried following this suggestion instead. today i got my first-ever response from tumblr support on this issue, letting me know that a post i'd submitted a ticket before has had its mature content flag removed.
"why would you follow someone called 'reference that means nothing to you' if you have no interest in watching the thing they're referencing and therefore don't even know it's a reference"
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