First time asker here. I know you have said the suffering of someone in denial makes you tick. If you’re willing, would you be open to explaining why/what it makes you feel? I’m curious as someone who’s considering the other side of things.
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Thanks for the ask! Sorry for the delayed response, I wanted to put some thought and time into this before I responded.
Sorry I'm yapping a lot in my response here.
The truth about all BDSM is that submission is a gift. It's not something that I as a dominant take from my subs, it's something they offer to me. I feel like sometimes there is a misconception that in a D/S dynamic the Domme is the one to make all the decisions and have complete control.
I can ask a sub to edge all I want. I can ask a sub to not touch. I can ask a sub to stay in the restraints, even when it's uncomfortable, even when it hurts. I can ask them to stay there while I torment them with my belt, cane, paddles, clamps and whips. But at the end of the day, this is their choice to allow me to do this to / with them. They are the ones who always hold the power to say no, not today. They have the power to tap out at any time and I'll gladly help them to fall off the cliff, experience the release they crave. It is always their choice, whether they cum or not. I can't do endless amounts of roleplay, telling them all the reasons they can't cum, telling them why orgasms aren't for girls like them, praising them for being my perfect little denied slut. If they are into punishments as a way of reinforcing the dynamic (not everyone is into that). I can devise endless ways to make them suffer and remind them of their place. But it's her choice to go though it. To fully submit and comply.
So any time my sub tells me to stop because she's too close. Anytime she begs for an orgasm because she really needs to cum, but doesn't actually allow herself to fall over the edge. Even as she is sobbing with need, convinced she can't take it anymore. Anytime she begs to stay denied. Anytime she begs for an edge instead of an orgasm. She's deciding that my pleasure. The joy I get out of seeing her denied and suffering so sweetly for me. Is more important, more fulfilling, better overall than her own orgasm. Or all of her orgasms, I mean, I don't know about you... But I rarely just cum once. And trust me, when I do let my subs cum... They aren't just cumming once either 😉
That is something I will never get sick of.
I'll add the addendum that of course with certain dynamics, like TPE. It can feel like the sub has given over control completely, same with CNC scenes. But the truth of the matter is that the Sub always has the right and ability to revoke consent (this is what separates BDSM from abuse). As the Domme it is my responsibility to ensure, no matter how intense the scene or dynamic that my sub feels able, and okay, to use their safe words if they want or need to. Hopefully I'll pick up on their needs before they have to safeword but that safety net is non negotiable.
