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Last Updated: September 21, 2024

Introducing Me

Introducing Me

Manifestation

When It Comes to Practicing Manifestation, Remember: You Do You

Why I Don't Like the Idea of "New Self"

Should You Purchase Spiritual Coaching?

Why Manifestation Isn't an Exact Science

I'm Redefining How I Practice Manifestation

Manifesting Friends During a Loneliness Epidemic: My Experience

Twin Flames

Coming Soon!-- My Twin Flame Experience: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Calling All Twin Flames

Twin Flames: Unconditional Love Doesn't Mean Being Treated like a Doormat

How Societal Influence Makes It Difficult to Navigate a Twin Flame Journey

Synchronicities

Date or Wait: The Dilemma of Being in Separation with Your Twin Flame

Focus on You During Separation

As I still continue to navigate and make sense of my twin flame journey, I can't help but notice a double standard lately.

I'll read articles that say things like, "the runner may ghost or block the chaser" then read "You should never block your twin flame runner."

Or something like "the runner may begin a relationship with a third party. This will lead to a lot of character growth for the runner, as it will help him realize you're the one he's supposed to be with." Yet I'll see statements in the same article such as, "It is dishonorable for the chaser to engage in another relationship during separation" and "the universe will try to sabotage the chaser from forming a relationship with someone else."

I've also read while the runner can be miles behind the chaser and underdeveloped spiritually, it is up to the chaser to do enough healing for the both of them in order to bring reunion.

Why does the runner get to have all of the fun?

Why does the runner get to have other relationships?

How come the runner doesn't have to take any accountability or experience growth?

Why does this theme perpetuate of the chaser having to abide by all of these rules while the runner is free to do what they want? We're expected to endure a painful separation, sit back, and remain celibate and when the runner is ready to reunite with us we welcome him back with open arms. This relationship is basically on the runner's terms. It's unfair, and I don't want to resonate with those ideas. I personally find those examples to be kinda toxic. But sometimes, I worry--like it or not--it will happen regardless. As I've been planning on attending events in hopes of connecting with other people, I find every time something happens that prevents me from going. A migraine, a road closure, a nearby fire, the event itself gets canceled... I'm just thrown for a loop. If the Universe really wants me to be with my twin flame, then make it happen. It's unreasonable to expect us chasers to wait forever.

I'd like to know your experiences. Did you ever try to move on from your twin flame? Did you find love with someone new or run into roadblocks?

This twin flame journey has brought so many ups and downs over the years. It's crazy to think how much growth I've experienced in one year. A year ago, I was in separation from my twin flame and all I focused on was affirming all day long to manifest the reunion into existence. I felt so burnt out, so unhappy. I manifested him back, but the reunion had not been the fairytale I envisioned. The cycle of reunions and separations had continued. I finally said enough is enough.

As I'm in yet another separation, I could not be happier because I let go of affirming for him all day. I focused on my own wants and needs and focused on filling my own cup. I immerse myself in activities that make me happy like my art, my music, and my games. I spend time with friends. It's ironic how focusing on myself also finally allowed me to manifest/attract friends who truly care about me and value spending time with me. We go out to cafes to catch up on life, I meet with a group of beginner guitarists, etc. Regardless of what happens with my twin, I've focused on and nurtured my relationship with myself. When you focus on making yourself happy and loving your life, you radiate an energy that makes people drawn to you, and that is a very beautiful thing. I think like the friend situation, focusing on myself in time will lead to the right relationship, be it a fresh start with my twin flame or someone new showing up for me in the way I want.

Since day 1 of discovering manifestation/law of assumption in 2020 one of top things I wanted to manifest was a group of friends. I already had friends, but I didn't feel like my wants and needs were being met. For years, I was the only one reaching out and I didn't feel I was getting much in return.

Prior to discovering manifestation, I had a group of friends in my early 20s, and they got me excited in a way like no other friend group. They were always doing something. I never felt bored. I was seeing them every 1-2 weeks. We went to state parks, movies, grab food, bowling, bar, clubs, plays. There were birthday parties, pajama parties, sleepovers. Yet, overtime, a lot of these individuals came with drama, and after a conflict with the unofficial leader of the group, I suddenly found myself lonely and friendless.

I would go on to find other friends, both in groups and individuals, yet they didn't have the same energy as my former group of friends. While I was happy to be free of the toxicity of the former group, the new group left me feeling unsatisfied. My new friends just never seemed to ever want to go anywhere or do anything. I spent more time on my own than I did with them. Maybe it's the Sagittarius in me? I don't necessarily need to travel the world to have fun but I just felt so bored beyond belief by these new friends. Then, the pandemic hit and that certainly didn't help. As restrictions lifted and the issues persisted, my mom would suggest, "maybe they're homebodies" as a source of the problem. If that's the case, they never want to do homebody things either like play video games, bake gluten free cookies, or share a bottle of wine while watching The Bachelor.

When I discovered manifestation, I began to internalize the behavior of my friends. I thought maybe I had limiting beliefs and was assuming them to act in a way I didn't like or giving them free will to do so. I suddenly focused my efforts towards manifesting them to be better. I would affirm things like:

My friends always make me a priority.

My friends always invite me places.

My friends always text and call me.

My friends never forget about me.

This was met with mixed success. I had gotten an occasional once-a-year invite extended my way, but I wasn't getting out as frequent as I wanted, and this dynamic wasn't allowing me to develop any substantial closeness with these individuals.

Over time, I redirected my efforts towards manifesting new friends with commonality. Again, this was met with mixed success. I had made a new friend who I would text with on a semi-regular basis, and eventually we hung out. We had so much in common, such as love of animals, nature, spirituality. She also was understanding of my physical limitations, as she had limitations of her own. She invited me out two weekends in a row! "Lucky me!" I had thought, as I was used to only getting invited to do something once a year if at all. But this new friendship began to burn out a quickly as it started. I began to notice a side to her that was very pushy and domineering, she would give unsolicited advice, and generally was always trying to tear me down or challenge the way I do things. I began to distance myself from her for my own peace.

Fast forward to 2024, I'm wondering:

What limiting beliefs are still there?

What affirmations do I need to do?

What am I doing wrong?

Am I bad at manifestation?

What do these experiences say about my manifestation abilities?

And then this year I began noticing videos and articles surfacing about the loneliness epidemic. Suddenly, I resonated with so much. The constant trying and not getting much in return. Maybe I don't suck at manifestation? Maybe this is how a lot of my millennial and gen z peers are? The irony and confusion of how we're more connected than ever yet lonelier than ever is often stressed. I think what it is, is that on social media, we curate and present whatever we want to about our lives online. Perhaps, people no longer feel the need to reach out via call or text or invite you to get together and catch up because they look at one facebook post or snapchat selfie and assume that encapsulates it all. They don't need to ask how you're doing because they just saw it for themselves online. Maybe they think it's enough to "like" your post or "view" your story to show that they care. Maybe I'm an old soul, but that's not enough for me. I don't feel many articles or videos on the loneliness epidemic address friend groups like the one I found myself in. It baffles me that I encountered so many friends over the years that are content to do nothing and not have irl interactions when presented with the opportunity to go somewhere or do something fun at home. I'm not sure manifestation/law of assumption is an exact science. The night I met these friends I assumed they were much more adventurous based on the stories they shared with me. Contrary to what I assumed, they did not meet that need of mine.

My discovery of the loneliness epidemic gives me hope that there are others out there like me that strive for connection and maybe more opportunities for friends will arise with time. It also has allowed me to give myself some grace. I will continue my journey to manifest friends, but I will no longer be hard on myself if I encounter frustrations along the way. Ironically, once I dumped the affirmations and began focusing on myself, I've attracted more like-minded individuals that actually want to get together at a cafe and talk about life. I wanted to write this article for those who have encountered the same struggles to know they're not alone. I hope you will give yourself some grace as well.

Hey everyone! So it's been a bit since I last posted. Where do I begin? I've been doing a lot of reflecting lately. As always, I continue to see lots of signs from the Universe. He misses me, he's thinking about me, he loves me, we can't stay apart, he's coming back for good. All very promising things, some of which I've seen evidence of as he continues to watch all of my snap stories. But then it hit me: has it really been a year since all of the problems started with my twin flame?

There is a lot to unpack and eventually I plan to in a much lengthier article on my twin flame journey. In summary, I've dealt with getting the run around when it comes to making plans to see each other in person, opening up only to become avoidant, ghosting after talking everyday for 5 months, reuniting briefly only to be blindsided by a third party (who clearly he had no problem making plans with her--still kinda salty about that not gonna lie). I've had multiple separations and reunions--the latter of which did not live up to expectations. Through my work with spiritual coaches/psychics I've built up the reunion to be my twin flame telling me everything I wanna hear. I am so sorry, I fucked up, I made a huge mistake with her, I love you and you're the only one I want to be with. I expected to get the commitment I always wanted. Instead, the reunions to date have been him trying to be a part of my life without acknowledging what happened, no apology, no commitment, and repeatedly asking can we be friends?? can we be friends?? can we be friends?? I've set boundaries from the day I discovered the third party (3p): no. To my knowledge the last few times he reached out he's been a single man. But it is important to me that he acknowledges what he and I had before the 3p, that he takes accountability for his involvement with 3p, and works with me to find a way to move forward with me after the 3p. And I let him know that. I won't settle for less. It definitely is progress that he's no longer involved with her, and that he's been frantic over losing me (even though he hasn't yet offered the commitment). But until that day comes, we'll remain in separation.

So what's a woman to do? If you're reading this article, you're likely a chaser dealing with some twin flame pain yourself. You can't deny how drawn you are to your twin, even when apart. The runner feels it too, but because your twin is not as enlightened as you are they will behave in ways that don't make sense logically, and therefore difficult to comprehend. During my first separation after the ghosting incident is when I began to learn about twin flames. I always thought it would be a cut and dry straightforward one and done separation and reunion. So I held onto every sign. I turned away other guys who expressed interest in me because my twin flame is coming back. "Universe, if you're testing me I'm making it clear to you who I want!" Never ever would've expected to reunite only to be confronted with a 3p. Welp. The ghosting was a little over a year ago and the 3p was about 7 months ago.

The twin flame dynamic kinda forces you to tune out logic. If you haven't read my article on how logical societal influence can get to your head check out the link below!

How Societal Influence Makes it Difficult to Navigate a Twin Flame Journey

I'm a hopeless romantic, so of course I still want to believe that one day my twin flame and I will be reunited. I definitely think by dating someone else he can learn I'm the only one for him (though it really fucken hurts that it happened). But I can't deny while I'm waiting on that ultimate fairytale reunion, I'm putting my wants and needs on hold. I'm not in a relationship. I'm not going on dates. I'm not having sex. Would it really be the end of the world if I did those things with a man who's not my twin flame? Would I be happier if my wants and needs were being met now?

I recently was diagnosed with cancer, and although the type I have is treatable and I'm optimistic about my prognosis, it's impossible to hear the word cancer and not worry about your mortality, and all you still wish to accomplish. Suddenly you wonder will I ever be in a relationship again? Get married? Have children? and then maybe it doesn't make sense to put all of your eggs in one basket. Life is too short.

I've debated waiting for my twin and dating other men for quite sometime now and I come to a different conclusion every time. I can't tell you what to do; you know yourself best. But I've wanted to share my experiences to show you you're not alone on this journey. So today I tell you this: I still love my twin flame, and I still hope we'll reconnect in the way I want someday. I want to see everything the universe, spiritual coaches, and psychics said would happen unfold in real time. But, also another amazing man has messaged me, and I am learning to embrace male attention again after being hurt, go with the flow and see where it leads. I wonder what tomorrow will bring. :)

I wanted to start off this article by thanking everyone that has been supporting me so far. It means a lot to know that people like reading my blog and to be connecting with like-minded people. I kinda wanted to expand upon the last post so I'll link it if you haven't already read:

Why Manifestation Isn't an Exact Science

I've been doing a lot of reflection lately and it's crazy to see how much I've grown since I began practicing manifestation 3 1/2 years ago. When I first discovered manifestation, I immersed myself in this new way of life. I applied manifestation to getting a specific person (SP), career, health, friends, and many more. I had manifested so many things I had wanted, but not in the way I had imagined.

There are so many people that preach about don't give up, don't ever take no for an answer, keep persisting. Less commonly do I see people discuss walking away from situations and people that no longer serve you.

I don't want to sound like a pessimist. I do believe in manifestation. I've proven it works time and time again, but I've also applied manifestation to everything and everyone to the point I became overwhelmed. I used to affirm affirm affirm all day long, to the point I wasn't focusing on much else other than my manifestations. I used to ignore the 3D and suppress my emotions to the point that I couldn't anymore. I used to blame myself every time someone treated me poorly because of everyone is you pushed out (EIYPO) or maybe something is wrong with my self concept or maybe I have some limiting beliefs to work through. Yes, these can be true, but it's also important to recognize sometimes the way someone treats you has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you.

This past January, I had a moment where I became so burnt out I couldn't keep actively affirming to control every situation, every person, every outcome. Instead, I decided to control how do I perceive things when they happen so I don't spiral. Some events I look back on in a neutral lens, rather than a negative lens. I'm evaluating what did I learn from this instead of this happened to me. I'm learning to go with the flow a bit more, and focus on myself. Once I let go, stopped worrying about manifesting this and that, controlling this person and that outcome, took a breather, and started doing things that made me happy, it's allowed me to naturally attract more positive people and events into my life. I saw a quote on FB awhile back: as soon as you choose YOU everything else chooses you too. And for now, this is how I'm manifesting, by nurturing my relationship with myself first and foremost. This has allowed me so much growth. I've come to a place where I finally love myself and am finding enjoyment in my life.

It's been 3 1/2 years since I discovered manifestation and lately I've been reflecting on my experiences. When I first discovered manifestation, I completely immersed myself. I became fascinated with this new world, this new way of life. I, like many others, assumed if I consciously manifest, I would never have to endure any sort of hardship ever again. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way. It's more about how you respond to life's ups and downs. You will have some wins and some losses, but you pick yourself up each time. I think many view manifestation as a way to control everything and everyone.

I remember early on in my journey I was randomly added to a manifestation FB group and one of the girls used to describe walking down the street pointing her fingers at people like zap! zap! zap! I control you! and you! and you! and...

Yes, you can utilize manifestation to have people treat you better in general. Yes, you can manifest an SP who never had feelings before to suddenly see you as relationship material. But you're gonna drive yourself crazy if you use manifestation to micromanage every person you have to deal with. There's still gonna be people in your life who are lazy, unreliable, rude, and just downright assholes no matter how many affirmations you throw at them.

Manifestation has taught me I can have what I want, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't still find myself in situations that no longer serve me. Manifestation has shown me my self worth. For example, I had manifested the specific jobs I had wanted but I've also been mistreated by coworkers and employers, and had to make the decision to choose my self respect and move on. I've had success in manifesting specific friends (that never wanna hang out) to extend an invite my way on occasion but I've also realized I may be better off going general and manifesting a new set of friends that meet my wants and needs. It's not always about "everyone is you pushed out" (EIYPO) or self concept or limiting beliefs. Sometimes the way a person treated you had everything to with them and not with you.

Controlling health is tricky territory. Yes, I believe you can improve your health or the health of loved ones through manifestation. But I don't think it should be used as a substitute for medical advice/treatment. Think of manifestation as a supplement to that, not a replacement for it. I see so many people who rely on manifestation and beat themselves up if they don't get better with affirmations alone. Use manifestation to help you find the right doctor, the right treatment.

Practicing manifestation doesn't mean you'll never have a hardship again, however, it can help you feel empowered and confident that you'll overcome the challenges you're faced with. I hope this makes sense, and I hope it helps you. I've seen so many people go to extremes with manifestation over the years and beat themselves up over the any inconvenience that comes their way. Manifestation is a beautiful thing, and it can lead to success in so many areas of your life. I just don't like seeing people be too hard on themselves if not every single thing goes their way. Remember: manifest not micromanage.

My recommendations/tips, My experience

I was someone who debated about getting coaching for the longest time and now that I have I wanted to share my opinions and experiences. If you're like me and have been thinking about it for awhile and still unsure I'm hoping this will serve as a guide of things to consider.

How much time have you invested into your manifestation so far?

So many people are quick to give up on their manifestation after only a few weeks or months. It can take time to see results, as you have years of limiting beliefs you need to unlearn. Give yourself some time. Reassess where you're at 6 months, 1 year, 2 years. You don't necessarily need a coach but if you're really struggling after a lengthy period of time a coach may be able to help identify your pitfalls and point you in the right direction. It's also possible you can be doing everything right, it's just taking time for results to physically show up in your reality (while movement is occurring behind the scenes). In my experience, it took 2 years for me to manifest my specific person (SP), but he told me he had been missing me for awhile.

Do your research to make sure you find a coach that suits your needs.

For example, if you are really into Law of Assumption you wouldn't want to pick a Law of Attraction coach. Some coaches are really into using spells, chakras, and crystals to bring your desires to fruition, while others are into using affirmations, visualization, and scripting. What techniques are you willing/not willing to try?

For me personally, I had been manifesting my SP since 2020. I got him in 2022. I successfully manifested him to contact me after 2 years of no contact. I successfully manifested him to finally confess his feelings for me. However, I ran into issues when it became apparent my specific person was also my twin flame. Anyone who has experienced a twin flame relationship knows there is a lot of push/pull, highs/lows regardless of your self concept or limiting beliefs. So I decided I needed a coach with knowledge of both manifestation and twin flames.

What are you trying to manifest? Does your coach have a success story of their own?

Be weary of coaches who claim they can help you manifest an SP if they have no experience consciously manifesting an SP of their own. I mention the SP example a lot because that seems to be what people most commonly try to manifest, but this can also apply to career, finances, friends, health, etc.

Be weary of coaches who increase their prices without adding value to their coaching packages.

For example, some coaches who charged $50 for their services in 2020 when manifestation was just starting to become mainstream now charge over $500 for the same exact service. Everyone has a different price they are willing to invest into bringing their desires to fruition so it's a personal decision. Manifestation and spirituality are very real, but many coaches are quick to take advantage of it for their own gain.

How much will this coach allow you to delve into circumstances?

Yes, circumstances don't matter when it comes to achieving the end result. However, I personally believe if you are limited to a number of characters or not allowed to discuss your circumstances at all the coaching may not be 100% beneficial. How can your coach help you identify your pitfalls if you don't have the opportunity to explain what you tried and what successes and setbacks you may have experienced in relation to what you're manifesting ? You already know I love to talk lol so I asked my coach prior to signing up if I had a limit to how much I could write, which I did not. :)

Understand there are no guarantees.

Your coach can't bring your desires to you. You still need to put in the work to bring your desires to fruition.

Understand your coach may change your perspective for better or for worse.

What resonates today may not resonate 3 months, 6 months, a year from now. I gained a lot of insight from my coaching. I learned a lot about twin flames, about self concept, about myself. All in all I had a great experience, but over time some advice my coach gave me resonated less with time, and that's okay. Part of your spiritual journey is being able to grow, adapt, and evolve. :)

So I'm still navigating my twin flame journey and I've noticed a common theme of "you need to act out of unconditional love" and "you need to forgive the runner" Yes, I agree this is crucial to move forward and get to union. However, I've also noticed this being misconstrued with just tolerating/allowing the runner to do things you don't like and continuously being okay with it/letting the runner off the hook.

My concern is if the chaser constantly puts up with behaviors from the runner that they don't like, they are unconsciously rewarding the runner. The runner essentially becomes classically conditioned into believing "it's okay to treat you like this because you'll always stick around. I can do things at my own convenience and you'll never complain." If your runner is treating you in a way you don't like don't be afraid to set a boundary. It may be what gets you closer to the result you want. You gotta let go of the fear of losing them and voice your opinion so you're not stuck in the same cycle. Communicate!

"I don't like it when..."

"When you do... it makes me feel..."

If communication doesn't work and you're really getting fed up, don't be afraid to say "until you treat me right, I'm not gonna talk to you."

In my experience, I believe setting a boundary is necessary sometimes in order to see the behaviors you want. If you don't always cater to the runner's needs, eventually they'll wise up and cater to your needs. No matter what you see in the 3D deep at their core they don't want to lose you! Your runner will continue to be drawn to you as you are drawn to them no matter what conflicts you face. So don't diminish your value or compromise your self respect for your twin flame. Speak your mind. Be willing to forgive, but only if your twin flame is willing to grow and take accountability.

Raise your hand if you ever felt victimized by the following quotes:

"If he wanted to he would"

"If he truly loved you, you wouldn't have to question where your relationship stands"

"Actions speak louder than words"

If you've been on your twin flame journey for awhile, you probably already know the formula. There's always a runner and there's always a chaser in the relationship. If you're reading this, you're likely the chaser, otherwise known as the one more spiritually awakened than the runner. The runner is not nearly as awakened as you are, so they panic. As a result the runner may ghost, withhold a commitment from the chaser, get involved with a third party (or 3p for short).

I've been through all of the aforementioned examples in my twin flame journey. This really put me through the ringer emotionally. I'll be honest, some days it still does affect me. Twin flame relationships are meant to trigger you--bring insecurities or fears to the surface-- so that you work through it and grow as an individual and as a twin flame. It's not an easy thing to heal from, yet this healing stage is a piece of the puzzle that guides you to reunion with your twin flame.

I feel my healing hasn't been linear. I'm much better mentally than I was when these incidents happened, and I'm proud of how far I've come. I think societal influence has played a factor in why my healing has come in waves, and I'm sure other twins can relate. This goes back to the quotes I placed at the beginning of this article. There is much more awareness on social media nowadays about toxic relationships. On the surface, one can see the runner's actions and say "this relationship is toxic", "it's not logical to pursue", "the writing is on the wall", etc. When we have negative experiences, it's human nature to want to seek comfort from family, friends, maybe even a therapist. In my experience, seeking comfort can be both helpful and harmful. I say harmful, because the ones we seek comfort from usually tend to give unsolicited advice. And, if that person is not as spiritually enlightened as you are, you are likely to get a "logical" response in return. "You deserve better", "he's a douche", "there's other guys out there who wouldn't put you through this"--believe me, I've heard it all. I've always been a hopeless romantic and I truly want to believe in all the good that comes from a twin flame relationship. Once you and your twin conquer all of your triggers and heal and come into union, it's said to be the greatest love of all--you'll never have to relive any of that bullshit ever again.

So part of my healing includes trying to kill the noise. Take "logical" advice with a grain of salt; most logic is influenced by ego to begin with. Now, that being said, there are times you should reconsider if you want to persist with your twin flame. The ghosting, non-commitment, 3p-- we're human, we're flawed, we make mistakes. If the runner can grow from that, take accountability, and treat you like a queen/king going forward, I say explore the connection and see if you both can move past it. However, if mistreatment and disrespect is a constant you may decide you want to reconsider. We all have our limits for what we can tolerate. NEVER condone abuse. The Universe will often provide you signs for what path you should take. If you still have love for your twin and you decide it's worth persisting for the reunion, you need to try as much as possible to tune out logic. After reading others' experiences, it seems like a common theme that the runner usually behaves out of fear or insecurity. Maybe your runner felt you were TOO good for them and didn't think they deserved you. Maybe your runner ran to a 3p that they felt was more attainable/in their league because they have a low opinion of themself. Evaluate and see if it's possible one of these deeper underlying meanings could've been a reasonable explanation for their actions rather than what you can see in the 3D, or on the surface.

I'm not sure I agree with this notion that you have to be an entirely new version of yourself or undergo a complete personality change in order to get your desires. By all means, I think you should work on your inner dialogue, speak kinder to yourself, and stop putting yourself down. You should work on valuing yourself, viewing yourself in a positive light, uplifting yourself, self love and self respect. But I think there's so many people who hear of this idea of "new self" and suddenly feel the need to become the loudest people in the room. You don't have to be! For me personally I was always a bit shy and reserved growing up, so it just feels fake to suddenly have to be the most bubbly person in the room. For me, it feels more natural to have a quiet, reserved confidence. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I know what I bring to the table, but I don't have to shout it from the rooftops.

I also see this idea of "new self" become a limiting thing when it comes to manifesting an SP, that you can't have insecurities or imperfections, you have to be 100% confident 24/7 --essentially perfect-- or you won't get it. Okay first off, why are we told we have to hold ourselves to that standard? Chances are your SP has insecurities and flaws of their own. So if your SP can be human, I think you owe it to yourself to do the same. Give yourself a break. You're doing the best you can. You wouldn't be practicing manifestation if you lived a life prior where you were so used to getting what you want. Many people who decide to pursue this journey are those who have had failed relationships, failed careers, financial struggles, fake friends, etc. When you embark on your manifestation journey, you will learn with time and new experiences how to move forward from the past. There are many of us who have mental health struggles too, and I think the idea of "new self" can be detrimental if suddenly there is this expectation to have a different personality in order to get your desires. I think a long as you are making an effort to work on yourself, and giving your best that's all that matters. We all have bad days sometimes. It's okay to get emotional, as we continue to work through limiting beliefs. Don't ever let anyone in the manifestation community condemn you from having emotions. It's unrealistic to suppress this. And going back to the example of SP, your SP should love you at your best but also your worst.

So I've been practicing manifestation for a few years now and I can't help but notice there are so many contradictions in the manifestation community.

Some coaches may advise doing the inner work to identify limiting beliefs, areas you may have resistance and/or blocks that are getting in the way of your manifestation, while others may advise not to acknowledge these things as it may create more of those issues.

Some people live by "what you focus on will grow" and repetitively affirm all day long, while others swear by the "let go method", that once they let go and stopped putting so much energy into their manifestation that's when they got it.

When I first started out I was taught "you don't have to believe the affirmations you're telling yourself, just believe that it will work." Years later I switched coaches and my most recent session was told "if you don't believe your affirmations all the way through, they won't manifest." Guess what? I've had manifestation success with things I NEVER believed I'd get and other manifestations where I struggled for a bit until I could get to a point where the situation felt believable.