Teen Pregnancy for the Millionth Time

I am going to lose so many followers and readers for this, and I honestly can’t wait.

I have talked so many times about teen pregnancy in the past that it is probably a topic I have just about worn out. But in a time when men politicians are trying to decide what people with vaginas should be able to do with their bodies, I figure it’s time I jump back to this topic and wear it out some more.

Iro…

Safety Pins: How I Feel About Them Now

As things have evolved, or should I really say devolved, some of you may be surprised to know that my thoughts and feelings on the safety pin movement has changed.

If you haven’t read my previous post on the subject of the safety pin movement, you may want to. I will be referencing it quite a bit in this update. To give you a very basic summary, I feel like if you are truly an ally then wearing…

Yes, We Will Record Hate Crimes And We Will Take To Social Media

Never in my life time did I think I would feel the need to write about this.

For some reason, people seem to think it is outrageous that people record themselves being victimized and discriminated against. Ironically, those same people who think it is outrageous then want some form of proof when someone claims that they have been discriminated against. Sounds to me like they just don’t want to…

The Next 4-8 Years

The conversation I keep having lately echoes just how minorities feel right now; “How will we survive?”

We are scared, we are worried, and so many of us are wondering if we have the fight left in us to fight for our lives let alone our rights. I won’t lie and pretend like I am ready for what is coming. I’m not. I am utterly terrified for my friends, for myself, for my partner, for my family, and…

Fighting Pass Culture in 2017

I have written about pass culture so many times, you would think it is my biggest nemesis. Maybe because in so many ways it is. It’s my kryptonite.

So, what is pass culture? To sum it up really, it’s this belief that a trans person must pass as cisgender to be valid. And as toxic as this belief is, it affects so many of us. For a trans woman, it’s wanting to be seen as a woman and not trans…

A Bipolar Diagnosis for a Trauma Survivor

Trigger/ Content Warning: Talk of PTSD, mental health battles, being suicidal, and self harm.

If I go to a doctor of any kind because I suggested it, know that something is very wrong.

For me, it was feelings of helplessness. An all too familiar feeling that was beginning to lead down a road of suicidal idealizations. Though I was unaware at the time, they had already started to slowly invade my…

Supporting Marginalized Artists and Activists

For some reason it seems our culture frowns against becoming a fan of someone (ie. an actor/actress or singer, or celebrity of any form) simply for their LGBT+ identity, their race, their nationality, their views, or their activism. Weird huh?

I guess by now you are probably expecting me to say something about Meryl Streep‘s speech at the

BEVERLY HILLS, CA – JANUARY 08: Actress Meryl Streep,…

For years, writing letters both to others and myself, has been a way for me to cope. Most of the time in the recent years, I share them for one reason or another. And this one is the same. Be gentle and kind please. 

Dear 2016 Me,

Warning, it is going to be a rough year. Donald Trump is going to win the presidency in November and it’s going to shake your world. Not nearly as much as a shooting in…

How My Mental Illness Framed My Queer Identity

Trigger warning/Content Note: Talk of being suicidal, queer identity, struggles with depression, and self harm.

“Everyone will hate you, more than they already do. You’ll be an outcast in a world you never fit in to, there’s nothing worse, it’s true.

But, I think I love her…

You are better off dead. If you don’t do it, they’ll fill you with lead.

But what if she’s the one…

You’d be better off…

Dear Eugenia Cooney & Anorexia

I have stayed rather quite on this subject, despite people asking me my opinion and to talk about. To put it plainly, I wanted to stay away from YouTube drama, which is what this boils down to. But a message I received the other day convinced me it was time to say something. The following is something I wrote as a letter to Eugenia Cooney, her followers, as well as her critics. 

**Trigger Warning…

What You Don’t See: A Thank You To My Fiancé

The other day I posted this picture on my Facebook page as a part of my project of talking about my daily struggles. It had been a long Saturday and I was in a lot of pain, mostly in my back and my knees.

“Today’s reality (Dec. 10) is having to eat my dinner while laying in a bathtub that isn’t but so comfortable because my back hurts so much I can’t stand or sit comfortably.

Not to mention the…

When Self Care Is As Simple And Complicated As A Shower

*Trigger Warning and Content Note: Talk of self harm, being suicidal, depression, mental health struggles. Tread with caution my friends.*

As someone who has dedicated the last two years to openly sharing the uglier sides of their life as a queer person struggling with mental illness, I get asked a lot about self care.

It’s something I often tweet about but also something I don’t share enough…

Daily Struggles: Life With Physical And Mental Illnesses

Living with mental and chronic physical illnesses is an uphill battle. For the past few months, it seems that fight is the only thing I have energy to do; when I even have energy to do that. And I have been beating myself up over how much I have been neglecting my blog, which is such a huge part of my life.

I would like to believe that my readers, so many of you I consider to be my friends, would…

Safety Pins and Allyship

Since the election of Donald Trump in the United States, we have taken a note from Brexitand wearing safety pins. If you have been living under a rock and not heard about this, the thought is that a wearing a safety pin is supposed to show that you are approachable for people of marginalized identities. I have been asked a lot about my opinion on this safety pin movement and my opinion is pretty…

Deleting People Off Facebook And Why I Don’t

As I am sure you can all imagine, because I feel our Facebook feeds are probably all filled with it in one way or another, every time I click on to Facebook I am greeted by messages of sexism, homophobia, transphobia, racism, and Islamophobia.

Often I will post about various posts I see on my Facebook feed and I will rant with friends. Even commenting on people’s post, I am often met with…

If You Really Care, Just Listen To Marginalized Identities

This week has been a long, exhausting, and emotional week for so many of us after learning that despite Hillary Clinton winning the popular vote, Donald Trump will be the president of the United States. And like so many of us regularly do, people have taken to social media to express their feelings about the election. Now many of you may know my feelings on it, but I did take the time to write…