Your friendly neighborhood bisexual!

Stop telling boys to man up.

Stop telling boys that they should just move on and get over emotionally/physically traumatic experiences.

Stop telling boys that their girlfriends are “always right because women are always right.”

Stop making fun of boys for parts of their body that they were literally just born with an HAVE no control over.

BOYS. NEED. EMOTIONAL. SUPPORT. TOO. BOYS. HAVE. BODY. IMAGE. ISSUES. TOO.

What people never understand is that depression isn’t about the outside; it’s about the inside.

It’s difficult to help a loved one with depression. Especially, when you don’t know what to do. It can be hurtful seeing a friend or family member struggle throughout the day. At times you may want them to snap out of it, but trust me it is not as easy. Telling a loved one to “get over it” or “just do this” will not help the situation. This will cause them to become distant. Here are nice things to do for someone who has depression:

1: Prepare a nutritious meal:

The eating habits of those with depression changes, and most of the time they don’t pick healthy meals. Food directly impacts how they feel and by eating the correct foods their mood will improve. (mood boosting foods)

2: Go for a walk around the block:

Depressed individuals don’t produce enough vitamin D because of the lack of sun exposure. A couple of minutes outside can help them immensely.

3: Help them clean their room:

Remember depression zaps people’s energy and cleaning can be impossible. A messy room will bring down the depressed person even more. Make it fun by…

✦ADHD is not a personality quirk

- some things that tag along with ADHD are:

        ~sensory processing disorder

        ~executive dysfunction

        ~poor fine motor skills

        ~sensory overloads (that lead to meltdowns)

        ~sensory seeking (self stimming)

        ~hyperfixations

        ~moderate to severe memory problems

        ~Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria- is an extreme emotional sensitivity and emotional pain triggered by the perception that one is being rejected, teased, or criticized. The emotional response is complete with suicidal ideation and people suffering from RSD often get misdiagnosed with serious personality disorders. RSD is only seen in people with ADHD and the emotional sensitivity/reaction is much more severe than that of a neurotypical person.

✦Some other “fun” ADHD things! 

          ~inability to regulate emotions

          ~no concept of time

          ~noticeable public stimming (resulting in stares from neurotypicals) 

          ~no impulse control

          ~insomnia

          ~listen but cannot absorb what is being said 

          ~no volume control 

          ~increased inability to focus when emotional

          ~difficulty stopping a task and transitioning to the next 

          ~social anxiety

          ~higher levels on generalized anxiety

          ~extremely forgetful 

          ~”all or nothing” mentality  

@ neurotypicals- some things to be aware of: 

- you cannot hyperfixate. only people who are neurodivergent can hyperfixate. please don’t use that word when describing your latest obsession :-)

- please don’t stare at neurodivergent people who are stimming in public

- be respectful of those who actually need fidget toys so they can subtly stim in public 

- if we forget something you tell us it is not because we don’t care, we just have a million other thoughts racing through our mind and no way to filter through them. 

As an adult I notice I still will catch myself lying about things that make no sense to lie about. And it isn’t a conscious decision. I have to fight to break a coping skill, that even though once kept me alive, is now toxic.

If you have a partner or friend who grew up in an abusive household, don’t scold them for lying. Help them to feel safe enough to challenge those coping skills. Talk to them open and honestly and if you see them do it, don’t say anything until you can talk to them privately. Calling them out in front of people is hurtful. (this does not include things that could be actively harmful of course)

And kids and adults who still catch themselves doing this, don’t feel like it makes you an evil manipultive person. You did it to stay alive, but now you need to challenge that. If you are safe to do so.

I still struggle with this, and everyday I try harder. But it’s the people who tried to understand and be kind that helped me. Anger over something that once saved my life did nothing but make me hide more.

1. the eight-hour work-day is cruelty

2. capitalism is forcing people to work. i could just quit my job and hang out at home - but then i would lose my house and most likely starve to death, because of the way our economy works.

3. breaks for most establishments are a mere 30 minutes for an 8-hour shift; at my first job, for a 6-hour shift, your break would only be 15 minutes and any longer shift would only get 30. studies say people are more productive if for every hour you work, you get a 15-minute break - meaning, for an 8-hour shift, you’d need an hour-long break, and so on and so forth.