this is an awk question to answer bc its gonna be hard to not talk about him w/o sounding so biased, esp since he’s my bias?? but i’ll try my best to answer.

as what i can think of rn, the biggest reason why ppl tend to hate on him is bc he said the n-word and made a colourist comment towards hoseok and taehyung on camera. he did apologize for saying the n-word (but many ppl believe that it wasnt sincere enough), and he kinda? sorta? indirectly apologized for the colourist comment on twitter after getting death threats. but other than that he’s an awesome guy.

like aside from the problematic things he’s said a lot of ppl dont like him bc he’s simply not as cute as the other members, which i think is silly, bc they’re missing out on a really great guy

he’s really smart (top 1% in of korea like damnnn and an iq of 148?? what the hellll???) and he’s on a show called problematic men w other really smart guys. and he’s fluent in english which sounds soooo hot, he wrote a speech on same sex relationships in high school??

he’s not only a rapper but he’s the leader, and he writes a lot of their songs!!!

he’s kinda a big dummy tho but it’s cute. his nickname is ‘god of destruction’ bc he always breaks shit??? he’s like the hulk

oh yea speaking of hulk look at those arms like damnnnn

he has a dog named rapmon. how cute lame??

he doesnt like spicy food (he has a weak butthole)

speaking of butts, he has none :( which is probably the biggest reason why ur friend neglected him. she probably has a butt fetish and he disappointed :( 

he also commented about how disrespectful it was of mino to rap about gynecologists being sexualized

he’s an ugly sleeper and eater but who cares he’s still cute

he has such nice fingers (DO U NOT WANT TO HOLD HIS HANDS????)

“i can beat ur pussy up like u’ve never felt before” NAMJOON UHHHHVHDFIUV

he’s a big pervert (according to jimin, he’s the biggest pervert out of them??? and also his porn is the reason why their computer has viruses)

kid CAN NOT dance which is probably another reason why ur friend didnt like him. it’s ok, i understand

HE ISNT A VOCALIST, BUT HE CAN KINDA? SING. he has weak vocals but it’s still cute and he sounds nice awwwwwhgdif

he’s the daddy of bangtan hohohohohoho

His lyrics are the shit, tbh. (again his mixtape)

He’s very openly perverted (just check out yankie’s prometheus, he’s saying that he “kisses his own tightness and pokes himself often” also he just states outloud that he is a pervert with narcissistic tendencies)

HIS DIMPLE

-AND ONE THING AN ARMY SHOULD NEVER FORGET: WHEN BAND-PD ASKED HIM IF HE WANTS TO GO SOLO OR BANGTAN, HE CHOSE BANGTAN AND SEE WHERE THEY ARE RN (THO THEY STILL HAVE A LONG WAY TO GO)

the msg asked why ppl hated him and i did my best trying to answer the question w/o sugar coating it.

if u dont want to accept his apology ok, i understand. no one is forcing u to like him it’s ok. he apologized after bc he didnt realize what he did was so srs until he got the threats? im sure he learned his lesson.

And regarding all the stupid shit he’s done, no mater how bad what he says is, there is no reason for people to threaten his life. Absolutely none. I don’t think you guys realize how scary it is to be a celebrity, and to have to go to a concert (anywhere really) and fear that you might not come back home because someone made an open threat to your life on the internet. It is hella fucking scary. I am black, and i was greatly offended by all the stupid things he’s said over the years, but I’ve come to realize that not every country and society has the same values and things they look out for. It’s normal for a Korean to tell another one “you’re dark” (that does make it okay but it’s part of every day life). Korean society is still closed off to Black people, so it’s not a shock for them to use certain terms without really thinking of the connotation said words have. The less contact you have with a certain type of people, the less you realize that what you say hurts them. It’s okay to be angry, and you really don’t have to bias him, or love him for that matter, just recognize that cultural differences play such a big role on the way people interact at an international level, and not being educated about this makes communication even worse. Nobody batted an eyelash when he said he speaks black simply because no one understood that you don’t say that. if he were in america, he would have been explained that. For those of us who know, we know Namjoon isn’t that kind of person. He’s educated and generally pretty open (within constraints of the upbringing he’s received). And you forget he taught himself english, which i’m sorry to say was probably through the medium of Rap. How do you think he;s going to speak? I learned English in the North, and therefore have an accent characteristic to the Northeast. My friends back home also speak like that when they speak english because people learn english from rap, and then proceed to speak like the rappers (who are primarily black).

@zeurin explained certain cultural differences about Yoongi and being lazy while being hardworking at the same time a while ago and i don’t think she could have said it better. IF YOU ARE GOING TO STAN A GROUP/ARTIST FROM ANOTHER COUNTRY, YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT THEIR REALITIES ARE DIFFERENT FROM YOUR REALITIES. And despite you educating yourself, (which he wouldn’t even have time to do, as we all know) there is no way to throw out 21 years of conditioning. Trust me.

I guess what i’m trying to say is, while he is very problematic, we can’t just assume it’s because he’s a  horrible person, and while he isn’t the best looking or even the coolest in BTS, he’s a hardworking person, who has given up lots and lots to be where he is, so let’s try and give the guy some appreciation, because even if you don’t like him, you gotta recognize that the hare runs faster than you.