Terfaliciousradfem

vinegar and bleach makes chlorine gas, which is highly toxic

ammonia and bleach makes chloramine, which is highly toxic

rubbing alcohol and bleach makes chloroform, which is highly toxic

hydrogen peroxide and vinegar makes peracetic/peroxyacetic acid, which can be highly corrosive

If you forget about this warning until you realise you’ve accidentally created phosgene, you need to leave the area immediately and call emergency services. (999 in many places/911 in the US) and tell them exactly what happened.

Phosgene smells like newly mown hay or green corn, but the scent is mild and you may not notice it.

Communication abuse:

abuser punishing you for not showing enough interest in what they’re saying

abuser deciding what are appropriate reactions to their words and actions

abuser humiliating you for showing excitement/happiness

abuser shaming you for not showing will to participate when they think you should

abuser punishing you for a certain face expression(s)

abuser punishing you for having a certain emotional reaction to their words and actions

abuser demanding you shut down your emotions except for the ones they find convenient

abuser punishing you for contradicting them/challenging them on anything they say

abuser punishing you for confronting them on their lies

abuser comparing you to others to point out how you’re lacking/somehow worse than everyone else

abuser using any kind of inexperience/lack of knowledge/lack of skill to humiliate and depict you as a failure or an idiot

abuser making you extremely self-conscious about how you look and sound while you’re trying to socialize/communicate

abuser making you feel like everyone is noticing the same faults in you

abuser forcing you to consider how you’re viewed by them to the point of being unable to focus on what you want to say/express/do

abuser watching you when you’re not aware of it and proceeding to humiliate/hurt you for what you were doing while you thought you were unwatched

abuser making you feel like you’re always watched and judged by repeatedly catching you off guard and punishing you for it

abuser disregarding all your expressions of needs and emotions, letting you know that what you want and need is not important, and making you feel stupid for even voicing it

abuser ignoring your expression of pain or repeatedly insisting that you stop expressing it, have no reason to express it and finding your expression of pain an annoyance or a bother or even an attack on them

abuser hurting you even worse in reaction to your expression of pain, convincing you that the more you express it, the more they will hurt you, effectively making you scared of expressing pain and connecting it to further punishments

abuser taking your expressions of emotions as a personal insult and accusing you of hurting them on purpose, or even punishing you for it, just for expressing your personal emotions

 Social abuse:

abuser showing off their control and authority over you in front of others

abuser humiliating you in front of others

abuser ordering you around, minimizing your presence and importance, and twisting your words and expressions in front of others

abuser talking in your name to others and making decisions for you

abuser making you seem selfish/cruel/inconsiderate/rude/mean to others if you disagree with their decisions

abuser publicly criticizing your appearance, actions, achievements or problems

abuser talking as if they’re the absolute authority on who you are and what your potential is

abuser talking about you to others as if you’re beneath them, and as if it’s okay to ignore your needs and interests completely, and not feel guilty or concerned about it

abuser encouraging and succeeding in having other people approve of abuse/perpetuate the abuse as well

abuser convincing other people the abuse is for your own good and getting validation for it

abuser having people on their side and rutting them against you

abuser successfully convincing other people you’re just trying to get attention and they should ignore you

abuser spreading information about you to your peers/friends/teachers that humiliates, ridicules, invalidates or villainaizes you

abuser painting a picture of you as a liar, hysterical, too emotional, delusional, crazy, unstable and not to be trusted in order to make sure you will not be believed when you try to speak out against them, or about any issue that bothers you

abuser telling others about abuse and trauma you’ve been thru without your permission/blaming the symptoms you show on trauma of their choosing

abuser telling others you’re abusive/selfish and twisting your intentions and actions to vilify you

abuser telling others about your mental illness, sexual orientation or other sensitive personal information that can easily be used against you, without your permission

abuser isolating you from your friends, support, and community and convincing you that nobody will stand on your side when it matters

abuser punishing you for who you choose to include in your social life and finding ways to make you regret it in order to dictate who you’re allowed to talk to

abuser stalking/eavesdropping/invading your privacy and using information they found against you/to control you

abuser convincing you that even people you thought care about you couldn’t possibly care because of who you are as a person, and shaming you for thinking for a second that you could be lovable to someone

abuser reacting to anything you say as if it was a stupid and unnecessary thing to say, and using it as a proof of you being of less intelligence

abuser continually reminding you how badly will others think of you if you continue doing what they disapprove of

abuser continually finding something wrong with you and pointing out how will others react to it if you don’t change it

abuser lying to you about what others have said about you/what they think of you

abuser deciding how others perceive you and what they think of you

abuser deciding what your place is in society and reminding you to “know your place” if you act outside the role

abuser displaying anger and punishing you if others give you positive attention

abuser denying others the chance to give you positive attention (taking their attention, getting them away from you, interrupting and starting a new topic when they’re trying to talk to you)

abuser making a show of caring about you, only to change it into ridicule and humiliation

abuser putting you in situation they already know is going to end up in public humiliation

abuser having you spend time in an abusive and hostile environment, being forced to endure socializing with people who will take any chance to attack and emotionally abuse you, without the ability to confront them or escape

abuser forcing you to change what you think of yourself based on how they see you, having you look at yourself only from their point of view and deciding it’s who you are

abuser taking away your means of communication (phone, internet, and any other means you would usually use to communicate with others)

Last week, the trial of the man suspected of killing British backpacker Grace Millane finally began.

The 22-year-old from Wickford, Essex, had been on a round-the-world trip when she was strangled to death in the Auckland apartment of the 27-year-old man she had met for a Tinder date last December, the eve of her 22nd birthday.

Jurors have heard that after she died, the accused took “intimate” photos of her body, watched pornography, and went on to have on another Tinder date the following evening, while Grace’s body was kept in a suitcase in his room.

Prosecutors allege Grace was strangled to death in the man’s apartment - but the case for the defence? They claim that Grace died by accident during consensual sex, saying “acts designed to enhance sexual pleasure went wrong”.

This defence will mean Grace’s family will have to endure a month-long trial during where her sexual behaviours and preferences are openly discussed. Her parents, David and Gill, are sitting just feet from the accused.

Grace’s story is a shocking one - but sadly not unique.

‘Consensual rough sex’ defences to the killing or injuring of women and girls are successfully being used to get lighter convictions and sentences.

In fact, the consensual violence defence has been used in the case of 59 deaths of women since records began. Only in the case of 36 pf those deaths was the defence not supported by the jury, and the accused were convicted of murder.

Of the remaining cases, 16 resulted in manslaughter convictions, two were found not guilty, and in three no charges were brought. Two cases - Grace’s included - are ongoing.

Currently, so-called ‘sex gone wrong’ defences are successful roughly 45 per cent of the time.

Around 60 per cent of women who are killed in alleged ‘rough sex’ die from being strangled, and a third of the dead women just met their killers on the same day as their murder.

What’s worse, the use of the ‘consensual rough sex’ defences to the killing or injuring of women and girls is on the rise in courts.

According to the most recent available statistics, there were 20 uses of the defence in 2017, compared to just two in 1997 - a tenfold increase in 20 years.

These statistics have been collated by We Can’t Consent To This (WCCTT), an initiative looking to change laws on domestic violence, with the consensual violence plea at the heart.

WCCTT are campaigning to amend the Domestic Abuse Bill in England and Wales to end the use of these defences in court.

The bill has sadly been temporarily halted due to the dissolution of parliament ahead of the general election in December. But two MPs - Harriet Harman and Mark Garnier - have announced they will take action over the use of ‘rough sex’ defences.

Its message is a simple one: women can’t consent to their own death. And it’s one that is brutally encapsulated in the dozens of true stories it has on its website - stories like Grace’s.

There’s Natalie Connolly, a 26-year-old mum who died at the bottom of her stairs in 2016 after suffering 40 separate injuries, including serious internal trauma, vaginal arterial bleeding, a fractured eye socket and facial wounds.

Her partner of only a few months, millionaire property developer John Broadhurst, claimed it was consensual, alcohol and drug-fuelled rough sex. He was convicted of manslaughter and got only three years and eight months.

Then there is Laura Huteson, a 21-year-old who was killed by a man she had met just that day. Her killer Jason Gaskell had held a knife to her neck while having sex and cut through her carotid artery.

Gaskell, the only surviving witness, claimed he didn’t intend to use the knife to kill Laura. He was ultimately charged with murder but admitted manslaughter and got just six years in prison. Courts heard how Gaskell had strangled a woman 11 days earlier.

Chloe Miazek was a 20-year-old student who had been out drinking in Aberdeen when she had been thrown out of a nightclub for being too drunk. She was approached by Mark Bruce, 32, while waiting at a bus stop and within two hours he had strangled her.

Bruce claimed it had been an accident and denied murder. He pleaded culpable homicide - the Scottish equivalent of manslaughter - and got just six years inside.

The examples make for tough reading - yet unbelievably, the subject of ‘consensual rough sex’ remains fraught with grey areas, legally speaking at least.

But for WCCTT founder Fiona Mackenzie, it reads starkly black and white.

“The law should be clear it shouldn’t matter if she consented to rough sex, that shouldn’t matter at all, it shouldn’t be part of a case,” she tells Tyla.

Fiona was inspired to create WCCTT when she heard MP Harriet Harman speak about Natalie Connelly’s death on BBC Woman’s Hour.

She - like a lot of other women she knew - were horrified by John Broadhurst’s short sentence and concerned by the frequency in which these kinds of cases were appearing in the news.

On Christmas Eve last year, Fiona decided to collate all of the cases she could immediately and launched the website.

Fiona explains how in some cases, even police officers investigating these cases, coroners, and crime scene officers are then “writing them off” because they look like sex accidents gone wrong.

“This defence allows people to switch their brains off,” she explains. “They think ‘other people must get up to this, who knows what goes on in the bedroom, maybe she asked for it.’

“That’s why it’s so successful. It’s the ultimate in victim blaming - blaming women for their own death.”

In all cases, jury’s have to go off the accused’s word alone. The victim can’t offer their side of the story, as is the sad situation with Grace.

“We need a change in attitude in the criminal justice system so people know that women do not consent to this violence,” Fiona adds.

Aside from changing the law, Fiona hopes WCCTT can help to raise awareness about the dangers of violent sex more generally.

“There’s a huge issue with young women being choked, punched, slapped or just horrendously assaulted as part of consensual sex by men that they are dating,” Fiona explains.

“We know this, we know its really dangerous to strangle someone, but for some reason young men are able to override this knowledge and are choking their partners.”

Recent figures from the ONS showed an estimated 4.3 million women have experienced some form of domestic abuse, and one in five have experienced some type of sexual assault since the age of 16 in England and Wales.

Police receive a domestic abuse call every 30 seconds, while two women are killed by an ex or current partner every single week in England and Wales alone.

It’s a disgusting act that was commited, but it was the result of two parties.

Oh my g o d

I have a family friend who worked at our local Salvation Army headquarters as a a secretary. This particular office took all the Christmas donations for children in need, put them in a warehouse, and on a designated day the staff and their friends picked through them all, taking whatever they wanted. She saw people hauling away bikes donated for specific families. Some local children had hundreds of dollars of gifts donated in their name, and on Christmas they received three cheap things, items likely not even from the person who sponsored them.

My friend quit, and I’ve not given them a dime of my money since then.

I’m a wildfire and disaster logistics specialist.

I deal with a lot of agencies who provide disaster relief.

I used to say the Salvation Army’s disaster services were the one (literally the ONE) good thing they did.

They would come in, set up a canteen trailer, make and pass out hot coffee and donated food in a disaster, usually being one of the first agencies to get there and the last to leave.

Then I found out.

Every time they did this, regardless of if they were actually invited or deployed by the agency in charge (usually FEMA, sometimes others) they would SELF-DEPLOY. Meanjng they would just show up. Ok. That’s not TOO bad, sometimes agencies have to take initiative and get there before the red tape is sorted out. BUT. They, after they left at the end of the incident, they would send FEMA or the host agency a BILL. They used one or two paid employees (usually the driver of the truck and a supervisor); and many VOLUNTEERS, but they would bill for EVERYONE’s Labor at standard federal rates. They would bill for the food they distributed even though it was all donated by another agency or private parties. They would bill for the coffee they made and the supplies. Except they would use electricity from the shelter location, water from donations or from the shelter, and in many cases, they would get the coffee and industrial filters DONATED, but bill for them at retail prices.

A lot of the deleted comments are recommending cameras on the house and the cars

a lot more of them are recommending OP file a complaint, and refuse to leave until he gets the forms he needs

and a few are discussing the way small-town cops work with little to no oversight, and that it might be good to talk to someone higher up the chain.

She felt undeserving when she was appointed as UN Women goodwill ambassador and sought out Gloria Steinem to learn about feminist activism.

She thinks the criticism she received for being a white feminist was useful because it made her educate herself.

She says there’s a desperate need to reform the education system in the UK to change the way they are taught the history of how Britain has been involved in foreign affairs and how they profited from slavery.

She felt anxious about approaching 30 because there’s a lot of pressure to have a husband and a baby by then and she’s still figuring her life out.

She was so young when she was casted in Harry Potter that she doesn’t remember much of her life before it and she went to therapy to deal with her issues with fame. She used to feel very guilty for being unhappy because she thought she should enjoy fame more.

The interviewer is a transgender woman and they discuss transgender issues for a while. Emma is in regular contact with a trans child which makes the topic of trans rights emotional for her because she’s very anxious for this kid’s safety.

She talks about her role as Meg March in the new Little Women movie and defends that unlike what many people say choosing to be a wife and a mother doesn’t make Meg a less feminist character and quotes a line from the movie, “Just because my dreams are different than yours it doesn’t mean they are unimportant.”  

She wishes more people would realize she’s not Hermione Granger but also understands why they want to see that in her because Hermione is a symbol for her too.

She used to think she could never be happy without a partner and now that she has learnt to navigate that better and is genuinely happy single she’s started to think of herself as self - partnered in contrast to the time when she thought of herself as single = lonely.

CBD and THC use during early pregnancy can disrupt fetal development

But males sure as fuck do! Stay mad that radfems are going to continue to point out that males are males!

And reddit is just gonna let this thrive. Almost a quarter million members (MEN) endorsing and fetishising rape.

In case anybody doesn’t know about Woody Allen:

Woody Allen was accused in 1992 of molesting his girlfriend Mia Farrow’s daughter, Dylan Farrow, when she was seven years old. He later married Soon-Yi Previn, Mia Farrow’s then-teenaged daughter. He was Mia’s children’s father figure for many years.

This case is extremely controversial for a lot of reasons, but I’ll just list some of the facts:

source 1 - source 2 - source 3 - source 4 

Dylan’s claims have been consistent her entire life. She said that the molestation began when Woody Allen took her into the attic of Mia Farrow’s home.

Woody Allen had been in therapy for “inappropriate behavior” with a child psychologist before the abuse allegations were ever presented to the authorities or made public.

Seven-year-old Dylan Farrow’s pediatrician was the one who first reported the molestation to the police.

Allen initially said that he had never been in the attic where the molestation allegedly took place, but his hair was found in the attic, so he changed his story and said that he had been in the attic just a few times. The investigation later concluded that his account of that day was not credible.

Ronan Farrow, one of Dylan’s brothers, who today is the journalist who wrote the infamous Harvey Weinstein exposé that helped spark the #MeToo movement in Hollywood, has said that he remembers witnessing Allen “climbing into her [Dylan’s] bed in the middle of the night” and “forcing her to suck his thumb.”

Three other adults besides Allen were present in the Farrow home the day Dylan was molested. A babysitter told police and gave sworn testimony that Allen and Dylan went missing for 15 to 20 minutes. Another babysitter told police and also swore in court that on that same day, she saw Allen with his head in Dylan’s lap facing her body, while Dylan sat on a couch “staring vacantly in the direction of a television set.” The third adult, a tutor, told police and testified that on that day, she’d found that Dylan was not wearing underpants under her sundress after disappearing with Allen.

Multiple employees of the family testified that Dylan used to be terrified of Allen, and that Dylan once locked herself in a bathroom for four hours when Allen came over to their house.

Allen refused to take a polygraph administered by the police during all four court cases about Dylan’s molestation. Allen lost all of these cases.

In his 33-page decision, Judge Elliott J. Wilk found that Allen’s behavior toward Dylan was “grossly inappropriate and that measures must be taken to protect her.”

You can read Judge Wilk’s full original court ruling here.

Woody Allen was never prosecuted in a criminal trial - some claim he was never prosecuted because there was no evidence, but the state attorney, Frank Maco, said publicly that there was probable cause to press charges against Allen for child molestation, but declined to do so due to “the fragility of the child victim” and the toll the trial process would’ve taken on her.

Read Dylan’s story, in her own words, here. 

Woody Allen has famously said about his relationship with Soon-Yi: “I was paternal. She responded to someone paternal. […] I was happy to give her an enormous amount of decision-making, just as a gift.”

So, here’s a list of celebrities who love Woody Allen, worked with him, and/or have defended him:

Jeff Goldblum — defended him

Kirsten Stewart — repeatedly defended him

Cate Blanchett — defended him

Stephen King — called Dylan a “bitch” after her 2014 article was posted

Emma Stone — worked with him post-2014 and expressed her love for him/his work

Blake Lively — worked with him post-2014 and said that Woody Allen is “empowering to women”

Kate Winslet — defended him and said: “I think on some level Woody is a woman. I just think he’s very in touch with that side of himself.”

Jesse Eisenberg — expressed his love for Woody Allen and has worked with him, both post-2014

Richard Ayoade — repeatedly called Woody Allen one of the greatest directors of all time and implied “art” is more important than real life victims

Diego Luna — worked with him post-2014 and has said he doesn’t regret it

Javier Bardem — defended him

Diane Keaton — defended him

Adrien Brody — defended him

Scarlett Johannson — repeatedly defended him, and has been called his #1 fan

Zach Kornfeld (of the Try Guys) — said he loves Woody Allen (post 2014)

Alec Baldwin — defended him

Louis CK — defended him

Miley Cyrus — worked with him post-2014

Selena Gomez — worked with him post-2014

Elle Fanning — worked with him post-2014

Justin Timberlake — worked with him post-2014

Jude Law — worked with him post-2014

People who worked with him before Dylan’s 2014 article which made the case much more well known, and have made no comment for or against Allen since:

Owen Wilson, Tom Hiddleston, Larry David, Meryl Streep, Colin Farrell, Rachel McAdams, and Hugh Jackman.

And here’s a list of celebrities who worked with Woody Allen but later regretted doing so, or have publicly said that they support Dylan Farrow:

Susan Sarandon — said “He sexually assaulted a child” on stage at Cannes

Ellen Page — called working with Allen “the biggest regret of my career” and said she supports Dylan

Natalie Portman — said that she supports Dylan, that men should support and believe female victims “not because you have a daughter, not because you have a wife or a sister, […] but because we’re human beings,” and is also one of the only celebrities to say she regrets signing the Roman Polanski petition

Reese Witherspoon — said she supports Dylan

Shonda Rhimes — said she supports Dylan

Oprah Winfrey — led a discussion about Woody Allen and Time’s Up and supporting Dylan

Hayley Atwell — “I stand in solidarity with his daughter and offer an apology to her if my contribution to his work has caused her suffering or made her feel dismissed in any way. It’s exciting that I can say this now and I’m not going to be blacklisted.” (Atwell’s first film, in 2007, was a Woody Allen film)

Michael Caine — “I’m a patron of the NSPCC [National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children] and have very strong views about pedophilia. I can’t come to terms with it, because I loved Woody and had a wonderful time with him. I even introduced him to Mia. I don’t regret working with him [in 1986; five years before the first allegations], which I did in complete innocence; but I wouldn’t work with him again, no.”

Freida Pinto — said she would not work with Allen again, “Because I don’t know how some people can get away with it.” 

Colin Firth — said he would not work with Allen again

Evan Rachel Wood — said she would not work with Allen again

Timothée Chalamet — expressed regret for working on a Woody Allen film and pledged his salary from the film to RAINN, Time’s Up, and the LGBT Center in New York

Greta Gerwig — “If I had known then what I know now, I would not have acted in the film. I have not worked for him again, and I will not work for him again. Dylan Farrow’s two different pieces made me realize that I increased another woman’s pain, and I was heartbroken by that realization.”

Rebecca Hall — said she regrets working with Allen, and: “My actions have made another woman feel silenced and dismissed.” She also donated her salary to Time’s Up.

David Krumholtz — said “I deeply regret working with Woody Allen on Wonder Wheel. It’s one of my most heartbreaking mistakes. We can no longer let these men represent us in entertainment, politics, or any other realm.”

Griffin Newman — said he “believes Allen is guilty,” regrets working with him, and called himself a coward for not quitting the film he worked on with Allen

Peter Sarsgaard — said he would not work with Allen again

Mira Sorvino — wrote an open letter to Dylan, saying: “I cannot begin to imagine how you have felt, all these years as you watched someone you called out as having hurt you as a child, a vulnerable little girl in his care, be lauded again and again, including by me and countless others in Hollywood who praised him and ignored you. As a mother and a woman, this breaks my heart for you. I am so, so sorry.”

Joaquin Phoenix — said he had no idea about Dylan’s letter when he worked with Allen in 2014, but: “If you were a part of supporting something with someone that did, in fact, cause pain, how the fuck would you feel? You’d feel shitty.”

Marion Cotillard — said that if she were asked to work with him again, she would do much more research and that before working with him in 2011, she had not heard of his allegations