Hey, I saw your recent post and was wondering how old you are? Sorry if it's too personal, it's just I feel so stuck because I'm not on T and I don't even have a binder. I really want to do it as soon as possible but there's so many complications. It seems like every one else is progressing sooner than me.
Hey, no no. Itâs not about when others do it, you shouldnât measure your progress by comparing it to others. Think about it this way: You took the biggest step already by accepting yourself. Thatâs the hardest part no matter how old are you or where you are in your life.There are indeed complications, transitioning is not only hard on the mental health of a person, but itâs also really expensive, and everyone has different ways to approach their own transition accordingly to the possibilities, difficulties and challenges that may temporarily block your way. The most important thing is that you take all the time you need to process this and to understand that this is your story. Youâre a man no matter how you look on the outside. Looks are constantly changing and gender is not only a physical thing. Yes, you may be hating how your body looks now, but you also have to understand that not because your chest isnât flat youâre less of a man. It doesnât matter whatâs between your legs, it doesnât matters how your voice sounds now, youâre still a man. One thing is biological sex, other completely different thing is gender.I know how it feels, the gender dysphoria is strong and you must be feeling tired, but changes will come and the discomfort will eventually go away, and come back from time to time, and go away again, and you have to understand that this is -okay- because transitioning itâs a process and it takes time.Surround yourself by people who you love and love you as well, you need stability and support in this process, and be patient with yourself. Measure your progress by the steps you conquer on your own, not by what the rest does. You can look up to people, yes, you may also be inspired by what others do (I know, watching things like timelines of how their voices changed on youtube is like a drug, I love it), but donât compare your own victories to others, because youâre not them, they are not you, we all have different stories, we all live different lives and we all move through our lives at a different pace according to our possibilities.Stay strong, make little changes, keep going at your own pace and take your time because itâs never late. You may transition now, you may transition when youâre a teenager or when youâre 30 or 40 or 50, it doesnât matter, you will get there.Hope this helps.And one last thing in case you wanna make an investment; I purchased my binders at Underworks and they work great. There are other companies that also make FTM binders. Just remember to wear it safely, alright? Try not to wear them for more than 8 hours a day and cough a few times after removing your binder. Here are some tips http://point5cc.com/binding-101-tips-to-bind-your-chest-safely/ and also more websites to purchase them (there are even donation programs!) And yes, never ever use duct tape, okay?BIG HUG, FRIEND.Â
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