Tails whines

Anyways, my question.. Why are endos inherently bad? I believe I’ve been too harsh on anti-endos and I just want to understand them instead of saying “fuck off” like other people have been doing.

I do not want to seem like a threat, I just don’t understand why people still fight over this.

I do get hating some sides of the endo community, though. (The odd labelling for people who “choose” to be systems is an example of what I mean.)

1– hate group origins

2– overall bad community behavior. on a main blog, one of my stars got misgendered by endos because he was anti endo. we also get harassed by endos daily so.

3– ableism. they're taking the "fun" parts of a disorder and mimicking it. considering endogenic used to mean endogenic DID. willos openly mock RAMCOA/OEA/programming victims, calling them hypocritical for being anti-willo because "willos and programming is basically the same!" (it's absolutely not and a vile thing to say)

4– harassment. this falls under the 2nd one but needs to be mentioned because endos looooove harassing anti endos instead of blocking.

5– transphobia (and ableism again). endos use "traumoid" "traumascum" "sysmed" "sys****" (r-slur) against anti endos, simply because they are anti endo. they also compare being anti-endo/endo to being trans???

6–endos also invade spaces for anti-endos. a lot. tags as well.

7– they compare themselves to an oppressed minority which. they aren't.

I don't think we should be convincing impressible young teens to force themself into systemhood, especially if that teenager actually turns out to be an traumagenic system later on. Encouraging people into splitting, pressuring them to focus mainly on alters and basically dismissing other parts of systemhood.. Like, being a system is not something to larp. Especially for young kids who aren't mentally ready to unpack their trauma like that at an early age. What if theyre still going through shit at this moment and forcing themselves straight into systemhood only hinders their life at home and makes things worse? We never know whats going on behind the screen, yet endos keep making it into a big deal to "GROW YOUR SYSTEM! SPLIT CONSTANTLY! You're several alters now!! Plural is the fun way of living!"

I have somewhat of a headache typing this, but i hope this makes sense. This community takes vulnerable people and stunts their systemhood. Constantly. Not just the unfortunate kids to fall into this community's hands, but also anybody else who is involved who are genuine systems without even realizing it. Even if you tore yourself away from the endo community and dropped the system act as an singlet, im sure it could do damage to the perception of yourself, how it could've affected your relationships with others, ect. All that talk about being something you weren't would be very embarrassing, even when you recall the things they told you to do to become the better plural.

If anyone wonders why I hate endos, its because they invade CDD spaces, steal medical terms, strive to demedicalize a very debilitating disorder, and put young teens into risks. There's also an concerning number of radqueers in the endo community. And those kinds of people are often too unhealthy to be around, especially if you're an 14 year old endogenic with no real grasp on what systemhood really actually is. Someone like that could rub off on someone who barely knows any better and potentially lead to that child's mental decline in horrible ways. Especially with how these people fling death-threats like christmas presents anytime you slightly disagree with them.

I feel we need to talk about this more. It's more serious than what people are brushing it off to be.

“You’re looking for any excuse for your hate to seem ‘okay’” okay yeah so explain the racism. Explain how many (not all) pro-endos accept transracial people but anti-endos do not tolerate this bullshit. Explain why when we were on discord we were all tone policed. Explain why our only pro endo friend treated us like a spectacle. Explain why pro-endo communities are notoriously hush hush about CDDs being ugly and hurtful sometimes and censoring it. Explain why some of them actively encouraged us to research into OEA/RAMCOA without the fucking warning that if we do that “hey dude there’s a chance you’re going to die!” which activated programs for like 2 weeks straight on and off

Also it’s a very normal trauma response to dislike a group of people (from a non-minority— I think it gets iffy once it’s marginalized groups) that fucked you up. I don’t trust white people because of what they did to this system. I don’t trust fictional communities and game communities because of what they did to this system. Finally I don’t trust pro-endo communities for what they did to this system. Typical trauma response, I don’t see why a trauma response to this absolute bullshit is “spreading hate” god forbid someone have a trauma response against certain groups out of fear for their fucking lives