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However, what is always malicious is the way these people react when they're confronted with it. They get angry, they sigh, they add a snarky little comment about how they totally support us but we just didn't hear, and of course it's not their fault. They didn't mean it. They forgot. They're just venting. They're just focusing on their own (more important, more real) oppression that we wouldn't understand. Their theory is for us, too, if we just squeeze ourselves in and don't ask for any more.

She did not deserve transmisogynistic stalking and harassment. That's disgusting and unacceptable. Her racism and antiblackness is equally disgusting and unacceptable. Her experiencing violent transmisogyny doesn't negate her active and willing participation in violent white supremacy. You need to acknowledge both. I've seen some (white) people downplay her racism to focus only on what she's experienced.

(I do hope our tags help other white folks who are browsing the tag see exactly why the name demand sentiments are weird)

-gettinontopics main

I joke but there's something truly stunningly racist in complaining we don't have racial enough names. English proficiency and white names have a major and proven impact on everything from job applications to housing to criminal sentencing. I was trained to never speak in an accent and hide my hairstyles so I'd get a job when my uncles couldn't. The audacity of complaining we don't act "right" for our race when we've often had to act white just to survive is disgusting. We get our culture beaten out of us and then people whine that we don't dance like caricatures.

I don't think Whipping Girl is awful. It makes a well-meaning start. But it does approach gender from a primarily white position, and that gets grating. Oppositional sexism is an issue. It's even worse for POC because we never get to choose whether or not we defy gender roles: perversion of white gender is something inherently seen in us. Femininity is killed and maligned (I'd know) but masculinity of color is also a reason to kill us. The idea that marginalized masculinity is rewarded rather than seen as a threat (especially to white women) is willfully ignorant.

There are hard-won truths of racialized femininity and masculinity that I'm not going to toss out just so I can be accepted by white gender theory. I physically cannot fit into white ideas of gender, even when those ideas are from trans people. It's a nice start that, like all theory pioneered without regard for race, cuts me and my siblings out.

My serious response is: Being allowed to challenge gender is inherently tied with the liberation of POC and all trans people will benefit from it. Once we're no longer sexualized third-gender subhumans, it'll likely be easier for white people to challenge those norms without being degendered as well. So it's a dumb idea that white trans people would somehow benefit more from white supremacy than from liberation, but white people would rather cry about how their privilege makes them feel sad instead of actually helping us, I guess.

One of the major parts of gender and biological essentialism is that men and women are a certain unchangable way. Women are feminine and men are masculine and behave appropriately. Or more accurately, white men and white women are this way, which is why they're considered real, worthy people.

Black and brown people are masculinized and brutalized for it. Asian people are feminized and brutalized for it. We don't get to be "real" men and "real" women because our entire race is seen as biologically incapable of doing so. Our inability to have a normal gender is seen as biological and unchangeable in the same way that white women and men are seen as biologically, unchangeably women and men.