Moving Forward and Freely by Letting Go of Your Past
It is so important to break bonds with people and things that are bad for you. One of the hardest challenges I am consistently faced with in my life is picking people who lift me up over picking people that need lifting.
Just like you should spend your money wisely, you need to spend your time and energy wisely too. Spending your time thinking about the past and cyberstalking your exes for hours is wasting energy on people who are no longer part of your life for a reason. It’s essentially like throwing your precious energy and time in the trash because you have nothing to gain from seeing a picture of them and feeling sad about it. They’re having the time of their life without you, probably not even thinking about you at all, and meanwhile, you’re only thinking about them and watching instead of doing the same thing yourself. Why let them have all the fun? Stop caring and start doing your own thing. If they can move on and become better people, so can you.
One of the motivating factors that lead me to travel was so that I could be with someone I had my eye on for years, but I realize now that if it worked out the way I wanted it to, we would have held each other back and I actually would have gone nowhere that I wanted to go and would have missed out on meeting a lot of awesome people. We were supposed to be on different paths because we had different challenges we needed to overcome on our own and we needed to explore our own individuality independently at this time in our lives.
I’ve learned that you can never really forget the past because it makes you who you are, and the memories will always return eventually, but what you can do is start living in the present moment and look forward to the future instead of remaining stuck thinking about what you could have done differently to make it work. It didn’t, and nothing you would have done could have changed that. Accept it, forgive, and move onto the next lesson.
If you don’t, you’re stopping yourself from meeting anyone else that might change your life, and that person might just be yourself.
