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She is not straight

She has never (according to Wikipedia of course) explicitly made clear her orientation, but in the mid 90s she was in a relationship with Alice walker, author of The Color Purple

Listening to fast car, I was listening to the lyrics and felt a gay vibe to it kinda, and so I decided to Google her and she's also a feminist and does all kinds of stuff

Got babygirl to take some flicks of me. I usually don’t take fit pics, she wanted to capture me

Coming out in a country like Sri Lanka has quite alot of ways people react to it, Like if you come out early in an age of 11, in my case I wasn’t even familiarized with the word “Lesbian” itself, until my peers decided to bully me up until I got done with my finals, so yes you might loose some close friends right, then you’ll have those really close friends who wants to still stay with you, but they keep giving advices on how unnatural this whole thing is and to not shame them, and you won’t listen of course so yeah they leave you out of their circles as well, so yeah basically you used to be the popular kids sister to the loner kid who nobody really wants to but is popular through word or mouth, then again school staff limits your interactions with women and you get all the batter if you hold a girls hand, or hug or share a cheek kiss, all the blames on you, then there comes a point where you have to confront the constant bullying, so you come out to your family, so if you have siblings they send you messages as to “stop ruining the family’s name, and you’re such a shame” and down the siblings goes to the “disowned list”, then comes the grandparents, mine took 11 years to properly accept me, but is still scared of some stuff, then your male birthgiver indirectlys takes you to conversion therapists and forced hiv tests, in my case I went through all that, and even suggests if you’re going to meet his relatives, you should be a puppet and not be so out and proud around them, so yeah, the relatives goes off to the “never accepting or in short, the disowned list” so yeah, basically coming out as a lesbian in Sri Lanka, you get so used to people you grew up with leave you, treat you like you are going through a phase, but working with the community I’ve seen many lesbians who come out, and doesn’t have 1 supporting figure around their family, are thrown off, basically disowned, its like, you really can’t stop it from happening, because people are living with so much fear, even earlier today, some random dude texted saying “What I have is un-natural and that there’s cures” but these kinda messages are so common right, so I didn’t talk about how APA literally stated how homosexuality isn’t a mental illness, but those kinda people really won’t care to learn right.

Loosing is a part of life, loosing loved ones when you’re a Lesbian Woman in Sri Lanka, but if you kind of think about it, they have lost you and you are finally free from their delusions, in fact you’re free!