@kitsujoo replied to your post:
@odatodeath replied to your post:
Heteroflexible is a thing that MOSTLY describes that, but saying she is bi with a strong male preference is an option, too... I agree labels are hard tho lol ngdjg
@wingsmashed replied to your post:
Plenty of bi people have preferences for one gender over the other--and usually that attraction feels a little different for each gender? my own attraction to women feels different than my attraction to men.
(( Thank you all for your input ! ^^ I had forgotten about a couple of those labels...and yeah, there are definitely bi people who have preferences for one gender over the other. And I agree —– even though I’m a bi woman who doesn’t have a preference, my feelings of attraction for women definitely feel different than my feelings of attraction for men. XD ))
(( Preferences and types of attraction are something I’ve definitely taken into consideration with my muses I’ve already labeled as bi or pan. Sakon doesn’t have a preference, while Kiyomasa leans towards women but can still feel attracted towards men. Then there’s Katsuie, who can feel attraction to anyone, but who doesn’t feel attracted to someone until he has bonded with them on a really deep level over a fairly long period of time. ))
(( And then there’s the whole —– how well does my muse understand themselves and who they’re attracted to ? For example, my Katsuie has such a HUGE crush on Oichi that he hasn’t even considered anyone else as a partner, man or woman or whoever else, and just assumes that he’s straight (until he meets someone special who doesn’t identify as a woman and figures out that he isn’t straight). And since my muses are at least sort of based in history, there’s also the question of —– how much do the social norms of the time/place impact how well my muses understand who they’re attracted to ? With my portrayal of Sakon/Kiyouki, he pretty firmly identifies as bi in his Sengoku-era verses, but in his modern verse, I feel like he wouldn’t have seen/heard about as many openly gay relationships as in his Sengoku-era verses, so he’s not as sure about who he’s attracted to (hence why I labeled him as questioning in his modern verse). And also, he’s young (15 years old) and frankly not very experienced in his modern verse ! He didn’t have to grow up as fast in a (relatively) safe and stable modern verse compared to his Sengoku-era verses. Fifteen-year-old Modern!Sakon doesn’t have to be anywhere near as responsible for himself as fifteen-year-old Sengoku!Kiyouki has to. And then there’s society’s definition of ‘adulthood’ to think about, too. In his modern verse, Sakon is still considered a kid at 15 years old, but in his Sengoku-era verses (17/18 years old), he’s probably been considered a full-fledged adult for at least a few years. ))
(( Anyways, in regards to Oichi...I’ll think about her some more. ^^ She definitely has a strong preference for men, but she would occasionally feel attracted to a woman...I just need to think about how best to word that. And as for how Oichi would describe her own orientation...I feel like she’d probably consider herself questioning in both her Sengoku-era and modern verses ? Even after marrying/starting to date Nagamasa, Oichi definitely understands that she occasionally has felt / feels something for certain women, but she’d have trouble articulating what exactly that something is, and she just hasn’t interacted with enough people to feel very sure of her orientation. In her Sengoku-era verses, she’s a princess who only leaves the castle to fight for the Oda or Azai, and in her modern verse, she’s a somewhat-sheltered girl from a rich family who doesn’t really interact with other people outside of her own family and students at Basara Academy. Once Modern!Oichi is a little older and has interacted with more people (e.g. once she graduates high school and has gone to college for a couple years), though, I feel like she’d gravitate towards the ‘bi-curious’ label. ))
