Ruby Lou Dewitt Claypoole was born on April 13 in 1916
Ruby Lou (also spelled "Rubylou") was born in Cincinnati, Ohio, without causing her mother much "undue suffering." She was a quiet baby, and the nurses were baffled when she didn't cry but only stared up at them "as if being born was no great feat". Her mother later wrote, "she is peaceful [ . . .] despite the times of which she was born." It was 1916, just under two years after the start of World War One.
Ruby was the seventh of eight children born to Wall Street stockbroker and lawyer Isadore "Issy" Collins Claypoole and suffergest socialite Gladys Cecile Dewitt, of Ohio cornfield wealth. The name Ruby was from her fortune-hunting paternal grandfather, Ruben Cohen, the son of a Polish immigrant who'd struck gold on the New York stock exchange. Ruben's marriage to multi-millionaire heiress Eliza Stamp Claypoole caused a social stir in the 1870s. The Claypool family were as "new as money could get", and while everyone in New York society knew who they were, few could say what they were. "They were New Yorkers who preferred New Haven over Manhattan. They owned land but didn't shoot. And they were, in part, Jews, but they hid it well." Ruby's siblings were Gordon, Constance, Adela, Joseph, Francis, Isadore Jr., and Hyacinth.
The United States entered the war just weeks before Ruby's first birthday. Under the Selective Service Act of 1917, Gordon, Joseph, and Francis were all conscripted, to the great dismay of their father, who strongly opposed American involvement in a European war. While Gordon and Joseph both returned home, Francis was killed during the Somme. In his grief, Isadore Sr. relied on his two youngest daughters, Ruby and Hyacinth. Ruby especially charmed her father, who described her in his memoirs as "that bright, clever daughter who was the sunshine of my life."
Ruby's relationship with her mother was more strained. Gladys was a dominant woman of staggering girth. A budding suffragette at the time of her marriage, years of hot-blooded political activism had turned Gladys into a dragon, the fire-breathing monster that occupied Ruby's nightmares. "Wicked, wicked, wicked," Ruby would later describe her mother. "And she never knew what she wanted. She hated Catholics until it was time to cook fish on Fridays." Although, Ruby's opinion of her mother in later years, "Without my mother I would have never learned to stand up for myself, or say the things I really ought to."
Gladys Dewitt Claypoole was obsessed with the education of her daughters. She wanted them to be "well-read, well-bred, and well-bed" representatives of the modern, twentieth-century woman. Gladys fixated on Ruby, who wilted under pressure and wouldn't grow past five foot one. Ruby was educated with her sisters at Spence School, a private school that focused on sympathy and human connection more than science and mathematics. Her former headmistress labled Ruby a star. "I am certain she would have landed at Princeton if she were a boy."
By 1935, Ruby Lou was well-bred and well-read, but she had yet to be bedded. Her father since died after a spiral of alcoholism brought on by the Wall Street crash of 1929, but Ruby's mother remained an ever-dominant figure, insistent that Ruby marry well. When Ruby first met the Prince, she was a student at the all-girls Barnard College. At the time, she was a top student eyeing an internship in Washington, D.C.
Before I met John, I wanted to be First Lady. I thought that would shut my mother up. But also, I'd felt I'd earned it. Even at 19. But then I met John and I forgot all about it.
Johnnie (properly George, the Prince of Danforth) was the eldest son of Sunderland's George II and Queen Anne. He was in New York City, avoiding his family and moping, still not over the death of his close friend, Evelyn, who had toppled from a highrise balcony the previous year. The romance started as a petty rebellion and ended as a loving but ultimately doomed marriage. They married in 1938, after Ruby graduated, at Chester Palace's private chapel, a small wedding in light of the economic downturn. Queen Anne bowed her head to the bride, signaling a "changing of the times."
I wanted him from the moment I saw him. I didn't register it at love, not at first. I remember him being this tall, blond, cute-as-heck guy. All the ladies would flock to him, you know, and I wanted him. He was the Prince, and I would be Briar Rose. If only for one night. At the time I wasn't sold on the whole monarchy thing. There were things I still wanted to do and say. Plus, I was horrified that people wouldn't like me. [ . . .] A pack of schoolboys swarmed us while we were on a drive. One of the fellows yelled out, "Are you an American or are you a Jew?" and I leaned out the car window and shouted, "I'm a Sunderlandian." I remember this massive cheer going up. It was wonderful. [ . . .] On the balcony, after [the wedding], my mother, as smart as she was, said, "Oh, Ruby Lou, I hope this wasn't all for me." That was the victory; that was vindication. It was the first time I'd ever told her no. And I remembered telling myself "O.K., steady on, Rue, no more dwelling on childhood or if this was the right thing. Now: the future."
Just as German troops annexed Poland, journalists in Sunderland noticed that Princess Ruby had gained weight. The public braced for news of a confinment, but the announcement never came. Ruby's three pregnancies had all ended in miscarriage, and when her husband was assassinated in 1943, George II's second son, Prince James, became heir apparent. Ruby spoke openly about her husband's death and the "pure chaos" in 1996:
I lost our three children, and around the time we were coming to the terms that we'd never have children. I justified it by telling myself that, no matter what happened, I'd still have Johnnie, so when he was taken from me, too . . . It was angoy. Pure chaos. But when I came out of it, I found that I still had the capacity to be kind. I still had my wits. I still had people who loved me. Life is beautiful like that.
Ruby struck up a friendship with her sister-in-law, Katherine, who had replaced her as Princess of Danforth in 1951. Katherine was ill-tempered and moody whereas Ruby was jolly, tall whereas Ruby was short, rail-thin whereas Ruby was increasingly pudgy (ironically resembling her now deceased mother), but it turned out to be the "perfect little duo." Both women had lost brothers to World Wars, and both had trouble navigating their married lives. The pair became confidantes and "best buddies". Ruby was heavily involved in the upbringing of Princes Louis and Clarence. She fascinated the two children with stories of her travels and escapades. Ruby and Katherine remained close companions until the prior's death in 2006.
"She was the happiest person I ever knew," Katherine said. "She even died happy. I'm proud to have known her for so long." At her death, Ruby was one of the most decorated and well-educated women in the royal family. Countless hospitals, schools, and non-profits were named in her honour. Her loss was greatly felt. Ruby's three "orphaned" pomeranians were taken in by Louis V and Queen Irene. When asked to describe his aunt in one word, the King said, "Unsinkable."








