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The Honourable Tatiana Grace Farnsworth was born on April 19, 1977

On April 19, 1977, the Burgrave and Burgravine of Weyward welcomed their fourth and youngest child. The baby, a girl, was met with a lukewarm reaction from her parents, who were hoping for a second son, a spare for one of the oldest aristocratic families in the country. The families of John Spencer Farnsworth (1940 - 2008) and his wife, Lady Grace (née Burke; 1952 - ), had been closely allied with the Sunderlandian Royal Family for the past century. Their mothers, Ellinor Farnsworth, Countess Farnsworth and Sylvia Burke, Duchess of Lewisham, were ladies-in-waiting to Queen Katherine. Sylvia’s grandmother was the Russian-born Princess Anna Felixovna Obolensky, a confidante and lady-in-waiting to Queen Alexandra. The newest addition to this historic brood was named Tatiana Grace, after her mother and a maternal great-great-aunt who was once considered as a bride for George Nicholas, Prince of Danforth. Her family called her “Tush” because, according to her mother, she was “a sore bottom.”

Tatiana joined three older siblings: Peter “The Great” (1968 - ), Elena (1970 - ), and Anya (1974 -). The children were brought up on the Wolferton Estate, just a stone’s throw from the main house. King Louis V, or “Uncle Loo” as the Farnsworth children called him, was not a stranger to the family, nor was the rest of the royal family. Lady Grace was a close friend of Queen Irene—“too close,” Louis V once grated. Despite the king’s ambivalence, it was Grace who convinced Irene not to divorce Louis in 1982. Little Tatiana played with Princess Jacqueline and Prince James, who was just two months older.

“It was a wonderful childhood, really,” Tatiana would later state. “But so lonely.” By the time Tatiana was a toddler, her older siblings had been sent off to boarding school, and she was raised as an only child. Tush was placed in the care of a governess and confided to the nursery, where visits from her parents were infrequent. By 1978, the cracks in the Weywards’ marriage had turned to canyons, deepened by a twelve-year age difference. To distract Tatiana from the marital strife, her father provided her with an abundance of household pets, including rabbits, hamsters, a cockatoo, a tabby cat called Marzipan, and a pair of Shetland ponies. Although Spencer rarely set foot in the nursery, which resembled a zoo, Tatiana was extremely loyal to her father.

When she was seven, Tatiana’s mother “ran off” with Charles Foy, heir to a drapery fortune. Although Grace later returned home “heartbroken and humiliated”, Tatiana never forgave her mother and grew to resent her. At Chester Palace, Queen Irene worried that Grace’s flight was a “cry for help” but didn’t dare to pry. Louis V’s third child, Prince Phillip, later claimed his parents were disturbed by the Burgrave’s tendency to treat his wife like “the disposable lid of a microwave dinner.” Although rumours of abuse and extramarital affairs persisted, the couple remained married until Spencer’s death.

“We were the laughing stock for that whole summer. I don’t think my father ever got over it.” - Lady Anya Villeneuve as cited in "Meet the in-laws: Who are the Farnsworths of Weyward?", SBN News (December 1, 1998)

When she was nine, Tatiana joined her sisters at Abbey Wood, an all-girls prep school. Classmates described Tatiana as a walking cliche. “She was shy but not boring; she just needed to come out of her shell. She had these stunning green eyes. She never wore tons of makeup, just mascara. You know. She was beautiful, but she didn’t know it.” Tatiana was not academically gifted, failing math twice and having to take summer school a handful of times. One term studying at a Swiss finishing school did not improve her grades. “She was intellectually dormant,” her mother claimed. “She didn’t want to study or learn. All she wanted to do was dance.”

The year before Abbey Wood, Tatiana’s brother gifted her a book of ballerina paper dolls at Christmas. The gift, a thoughtless stocking stuffer gifted by a teenager, had a profound impact. From that moment on, Tatiana became obsessed with classical ballet. After months of tears and begging, Spencer enrolled Tatiana in tap and ballet classes. Soon, ballet became Tatiana’s whole world, consuming every inch of her free time and occupying her dreams, both day and night. She idolized Natalia Makarova just as much as she did Mariah Carey and Paula Abdul. By thorteen, Tatiana was en pointe and the winner of several national ballet titles. Royal biographer Agnes Stuart wrote in 2007 that ballet was the only thing Tatiana was “truly, exceptionally, good at.”

“She wasn’t particularly intelligent or charismatic. Her mother had few positive words to say about her. She got that validation from dance. And she clung to it.” - Agnes Stuart "Royal Brides and Bodies", The New Yorker (April 2005) “I told her: you can’t make a career out of that. I had read a magazine. All these gymnast and ballerina girls were miserable and anorexic. It’s not what people want nowadays. They wanted ladies in the office. Secretaries or typists or whatever.” - Countess Farsworth as cited in "Meet the in-laws: Who are the Farnsworths of Weyward?", SBN News (December 1, 1998)

Parallel to ballet ran another obsession, just as passionate but far more consequential for Tatiana’s life. Tatiana began dating her childhood friend, James, the Prince of Danforth, in 1992. The relationship was on and off again, but started ramping up once the couple completed secondary school. Until that point, James and Tatiana had been separated, Tatiana confined to the rural Wolferton Estate and James living in the city. As adults, the pair were granted independence from their parents and a closer proximity. James was at Warwick Met, studying a mix of history and philosophy, and Tatiana was at the National Ballet School. The two campuses were just five blocks away. By 1996, Tatiana and James were attached at the hip; a fact that wasn’t missed by their families—or Sunderland’s press.

In 1997, Tatiana, who had since become Lady Tatiana Farnsworth following the death of her paternal grandfather, was invited to Collingwood Castle, the royals’ summer home. From there, she joined the royal family aboard the HMSY Sunderlania for a weekend cruise to the Canadian/American Thousand Islands. Tatiana was received well by the King and Queen, as well as by James’s grandmother, Queen Katherine. However, Tatiana’s family had mixed feelings about marriage, especially her brother and mother. The Great rejected the idea that Tatiana loved James, telling his little sister, “he gives you attention. And you love attention, Tush.”

Marrying James would also mean giving up her ballet career. Throughout the late 1990s, Tatiana was fielding several professional offers from ballet companies in Warwick, London, and Los Angeles. Her early career part of NBS’s Corps de ballet was marked by acclaimed performances in Giselle, Don Quixote, A Streetcar Named Desire, and Tchaikovsky's The Sleeping Beauty. The New York Times described Lady Tatiana as “buoyant and refined [. . .] Perhaps one out of 25 wunderkind in North American ballet.” In January 1998, NBS’s principal choreographer a Natasha Allred, gave Tatiana frank advice. Marrying James meant sacrificing a career as a soloist. “You’ll be turning your back on NBS. On Broadway.”

“I think you will regret it, is all I’m saying.”

James proposed to Lady Tatiana at Rockcliffe Palace in June 1998, and the pair were married that December. The wedding ceremony took place at the colossal St. Andrew’s Cathedral, which offered majestic views to nearly 600,000 spectators. Eyebrows were raised when Tatiana vowed “to obey”, a line that was not included in the 1997 wedding ceremony of Princess Jacqueline and Earl Belmont.

As Princess of Danforth, Tatiana’s life revolved around public appearances and childrearing. Her first child, Prince Nicholas, was born in April 2000, followed by Prince Alex in July 2002. In May 2001, Tatiana attended her first Opening of Parliament. Her inaugural international visit was to New York City in March 2002 to commemorate victims of the September 11th attacks. In 2003, Tatiana accompanied James, Nicholas, and a ten-month-old Alex to Western Sunderland. In August 2004, Tatiana was made patron of NBS, her former school, and twenty-five other institutions across the country. 2006 was dominated by international visits to Thailand, France, Canada, and an extensive tour of the Arab states of the Persian Gulf, where Tatiana highlighted women’s development in the region. In 2003, Tatiana confided to Second Lady Lynne Cheney that she “didn’t expect” her life as Princess of Danforth to be “so exhausting.” The late 2000s were characterized by a string of publicized family tragedies, among them a stillborn baby girl and her brother’s salacious divorce and remarriage. In 2008, the tragedies crescendoed when Tatiana’s father died following a stroke. Her mother married a Spanish aristocrat the following year. Tatiana resented her new stepfather, refused to meet him, and threw a “temper tantrum” upon hearing that photos of the wedding ceremony had been sold to PEOPLE for a rumoured $70,000. Tatiana was “glad” when the couple divorced in 2011, although by then it was reported that the damage to Tatiana and Grace’s relationship “had been done.”

Throughout the 2010s, several news articles about the princess’s behaviour hit the mainstream press. Allegations that she was unkind to teachers, nannies, and female journalists were frequent, as well as unfounded rumours that she was unkind to her sister-in-law, the Duchess of Woodbine. “She was, and still is, inflamed by all female attention. She viewed them as a threat to James and their boys,” Stuart claimed. “James was the true object of her affections. Her beloved. Her One. So, when he died . . .”

James’s death in 2017 was a major turning point in Tatiana’s life. “To say she was devastated would be a profound understatement.” When Peter visited his sister in early 2018, he was alarmed by her “zombielike” state and accused the palace of neglecting her and Princes Nicholas and Alex. In contrast to Princess Ruby, Tatiana's similarly widowed predecessor, Tatiana rejected the title Princess Dowager. Later in the year, Chester Palace clarified Tatiana’s role: “Her Royal Highness remains a valued member of the family and will continue to carry out duties as the mother of a future sovereign.” Louis V’s private secretary later summarized: “Poor lady.”

In the decade since James’s death, Tatiana has been inconsistent, flighty, and increasingly protective of her two boys. In a 2025 television interview, the Dowager Countess Farnsworth spoke candidly about her daughter’s future. “I believe Tatiana needs to find purpose and security from within. This will be most challenging for her, as she struggles with her self-esteem. James was the bandage for a chronic situation [ . . .] some of that is on me, I guess.”

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