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Exactly! Fuck, just. I know so many survivors who keep to their own lanes and try to keep into themselves as much as possible, and usually suffer because of it, because they don’t feel like they’re allowed to cope with things that actually really help them. And then we get self righteous assholes trying to tell survivors how to cope as if survivors haven’t gone through horrible things and should be? Allowed to cope as what helps them most? I would much rather just have to use the blacklist or block people than yell at a survivor to stop coping with x thing because it’s “”bad””. Like yes. Survivors know the thing is bad. They went through it. That is why they are coping with it by viewing the thing in a healthier way so they can come to terms with and accept what happened at their own pace. 

Some people don’t do that. And that’s okay! Everyone works differently. But there are so, so many blogs out there for people who don’t cope like that, and not a lot of blogs who do allow people to cope as they do. Is it really so bad that we allow that? Especially when most if not all of our mods are survivors who, to some degree, use ships and stuff to cope. This is a safe place for them. It would be damn hypocritical of us, I think if we just... didn’t allow it. “Oh no sorry we don’t allow x asks even though we use x to cope”? It’s ridiculous. We can handle these asks. We know what it’s like. If someone wants help with a canon, or if someone wants something they can cope with, then why not.

Why punish survivors when we could be actively helping them in a safer, more controlled environment? Idk it just. Annoys me. We put the warning in the rules to keep people safe, because we know that we can’t appeal to everyone. But people don’t read the rules, and then try to change how we run. No. We won’t. We’re here to help. That also means survivors who cope with their canons or use their canons to cope in different way. 

Coping is so much different than normalizing something or saying “x thing is alright!!!”

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