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👻 LINK IN BIO 👻 In this week’s #valleyvspot .... . . "What is it that you want out of a relationship? . . Is this guy capable of providing you with that kind of partnership when he can’t even return a text?". . . http://yanatallonhicks.com/2018/05/ghosted/. . . #sexeducator #sexeducatorlife #datingadvice #sexcolumn #relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #valleyadvocate (at The Valley Advocate)

** Content Warning: This week's sex column mentions childhood and adult sexual abuse and violence. ** . . ✨LINK IN BIO✨ “On the one hand, it’s somehow comforting to know that your body and brain remember trauma and rise to the occasion to prepare for the worst. . . On the other, this can block you from feeling open to pleasurable sexual experiences if your brain and body are jumping to attention at the wrong, safely partnered moments". . . http://yanatallonhicks.com/2018/03/hesitant/ . . #valleyvspot #sexeducatorlife #mywork #valleyadvocate (at The Valley Advocate)

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✨LINK IN BIO✨ In this week's #valleyvspot ... . . "Think of how much confusion you could clear up by simply asking someone if they’re interested in having sex or not, if they’re open to something other than a one-night stand, or if they want to be just friends, etc. . . Sure, it’s not “slick” but it certainly helps keep expectations and your date’s boundaries clear and intact". . . ✨LINK IN BIO >> http://yanatallonhicks.com/2018/01/igetghosted/ . . #valleyvspot #valleyadvocate #sexeducatorlife #sexeducator #sexcolumn #sexadvice #sexcolumnist (at The Valley Advocate)

"This person isn’t the only person in the world whom I’ll be excited to date. I’ve survived unmatched crushes before and I can do it again"... ✨LINK IN BIO✨ . . In this week's #valleyvspot, we're talking codependency, attachment styles, self-worth, and new crushes. Phew! . . http://yanatallonhicks.com/2017/11/soexcited/ . . #sexeducatorlife #valleyadvocate #valleyvspot #sexadvice #sexcolumn #sexcolumnist (at The Valley Advocate)

✨LINK IN BIO✨ In this week's #valleyvspot, a reader wonders how to strike a balance between breaking up & bouncing back... . . "Trying to fit an OKCupid date into the ex-shaped hole in your heart will prove to be fruitless, frustrating, and a painful reminder that no one will be your ex. And they won’t! And that’s okay".... . . Link in bio >>>> http://yanatallonhicks.com/2017/10/exshapedhole/ . . . #sexeducatorlife #valleyvspot #valleyadvocate #sexcolumn #sexcolumnist #datingadvice #breakups (at The Valley Advocate)

🎊📰✨ HAPPY 7th ANNIVERSARY to my Sex Column THE-VSPOT! ✨📰🎊 . . . Writing the #valleyvspot every week for SEVEN YEARS has brought me so much. An editor read it on her VT vacation, hired me to write for @mashable, and that article was read by someone in Vienna, Austria which scored me an invitation to give my TEDxTalk at @tedxvienna. . . . Clients book me because of the column, strangers talk to me on the sidewalk about sex & relationships because of the column, and every week something I write is printed! . . . But most importantly my sex column gets me emails & messages weekly telling me success stories of changed perspectives, permission granted, pleasure unlocked, and healing started because of 700 words I write once a week giving people I'll likely never meet sex & relationship advice. It keeps me fueled in ways I often take for granted & though I'm sure some day I'll no longer be the local sex columnist, for now it feels as real and natural and necessary as my left arm. . . . On the bottom right is my first #valleyvspot ever written! In it I say "I'm just a lowly sex writer. I don't have a PhD or an LSW after my name. So who the hell am I to be giving you sex advice?". And then later in the column I promise to work on the PhD part if you continue to read. This May I got my MFT. Let's call it close enough? . . . Thanks for sticking with me, y'all and for writing in & reading. The column & likely my career would literally not exist without you. ✨✨✨✨✨✨ . . . #keepitconsensual #mywork #sexeducatorlife #sexcolumnist #pleasureposishops #valleyadvocate (at The Valley Advocate)

✨LINK IN BIO✨ In this week's #valleyvspot, a reader wonders where oh where have her orgasms gone? . . . "One of the best things about solo masturbation is that you have no audience. You can fantasize about your freakiest kinks, try out the strangest positions, take a snack break, and make the ugliest of O-faces. Literally no one will ever know or care". ✨LINK IN BIO✨ . . http://yanatallonhicks.com/2017/08/absentorgasms/ . . . #valleyvspot #valleyadvocate #pleasureposishops #keepitconsensual #mywork #sexeducatorlife #sexcolumn #sexcolumnist #sexadvice (at The Valley Advocate)