#turningourbacks

The hard part for any of us, is knowing when it’s time to turn our backs on someone or something. There are two trains of thought here.

Understanding what we’re turning our backs on and why perhaps it’s time to give up.  If it’s someone or something that we’re struggling with and have been for some time and it’s making us stressed and ill, then it’s right to walk away. I would say necessary to walk away.

If we’re in a position to help other people and those people are making our lives difficult, then it’s also right for us to walk away. No one should have to settle for bad behaviour. There has to be a compromise if we’re to stay. People must meet us half way and if they can’t and we’re okay with that, then they mustn’t take advantage, or make our life difficult.

The problem we have, is the guilt we feel when we choose to walk away. That in some way we could have done more to help that person; that they may even change. Speaking from experience and I’ve had a few, however much we try to help other people, unless they really want help, they may simply choose not to accept help.

If those were the circumstances, there would very little we could do to bring about a positive outcome. On a personal level, if it’s something we’re trying to achieve for ourselves, after two attempts we must surely know that what we’re trying to achieve isn’t going to work. If we spent a little more time thinking about why, we would know earlier that we we’re not getting the result we want.

It would certainly cut down on our stress levels, and allow us to utilize our time better, working on something that we know we can achieve.