#true masculinity

I am a submissive woman and an obedient wife. I'm aware however that there is a huge amount of misleading information about what this actually means for a relationship and why it is important. Lest anyone get the wrong idea I will make clear what marital submission and obedience really means. Not all men are capable of being true, masculine men, not all women are willing to fulfil their destiny as feminine women. Feminism clouds the issue and creates false equalities.

There is EQUITY in marriage. I bring to it many things which my husband, bless him, is totally incapable of; he cannot bear children for instance! Nourishing babies, balancing a food budget and infant childcare are not his responsibility or his forte. He stays out of my kitchen but knows there will always be plentiful food on the table. Likewise he brings things to the mix which I cannot give; leadership, authority, practical help around the house and protection. While there is equity, I am not my husband's equal. He is my Lord and Master. He earned that right by demonstrating that he can temper authority with care. I submit to him, I keep house and obey him. He leads and protects me. He will not let anything harm me. I therefore appreciate and respect his dominance over me. Men and women are not equal, neither do they need to be. A call for equality ignores biology and millennia of evolution. Men and Women are complementary to each other.

I am a wife and a mother. I was married early, barely out of my teens. My husband and I share 4 beautiful children. They are now grown respectively into wonderful young men and women. We know therefore that creating life is one of the most important things anyone can do in life. It is a God given instruction. We should never devalue motherhood or fatherhood.

A woman is first and foremost 'she and her' not 'it'! To call her anything else is to deny her femininity, her skills and abilities and to make a grave mistake. She faithfully serves her husband in a million tiny ways; making his life easier, willingly bearing and caring for his children, supporting his decisions, nurturing her family and raising them with intelligence and love. She cares for herself well, always presenting herself in public with a smile and with femininity.

It is a silly fantasy to imagine that girls and women shouldn't be educated. You expect us to care for the home prudently with what you provide. You rely on us to care diligently for a household and educate your children well; teaching them how to be upright citizens; to learn their letters as well as prayers and to have faith. All this needs sense, abilities, skills and education. I am a matriarch appointed by you and will raise as big a family as you choose make me bear, with love and honour: A family that will look up to you.

A God ordained, male/female marriage is a team. Yet the roles within it differ markedly. It can have only one leader; the husband. You, as the man, must lead; that is your destiny and your role. You represent our family to the world, with pride. It is what you were destined for. You cannot avoid that imperative and if you do, society will judge you harshly. You have a duty to provide well and to give direction, protection and discipline to me; your wife and your family. As a wife, I am on the same side as you. That means that I will never contest and argue with decisions you make. You may ask my opinion and consider it but your word is final and I will obediently abide by it without question. In return, I will make our house a home; bear your children and care for them in a way that makes you proud. I will bring them up to respect traditions and values that underline our faith.

You must use discipline to establish your authority and for everyone's good. Discipline should never be gratuitous and without reason but always fair and deserved. You decide how much and when it should be administered. That is your right and duty. I willingly accept your need to correct me if I fail in my responsibilities or let you down. I also know you will discipline me at times simply to remind me of your superiority, lest I lapse and forget. I will please you, my husband at all times and do your will. If you fall short of the mark, you will, I know apologise to me and your family. Knowing your own failings and putting them right is the mark of true masculinity.

Do not dismiss this as right wing nonsense, it is common sense and reflects a God given truth that is as old as the scriptures themselves. It is the basis on which all good families are formed, will stay together and will thrive; children will grow up well adjusted and a credit to their parents. It is a code to live by.

He’s shown me that safety and reliability are what I desire, not haughty displays of faux masculinity, but true stability I can count on.

He’s shown me that I never hated men, and I never wanted to be independent. Rather, I had yet to experience a man who could so naturally make me feel soft, feminine, and beyond safe.

Any man can be a husband. But very few men can be called a "Qawwam"

I can't get enough of N wearing pink/girly PJs! It's sooooo cuuuuuute!~

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