tldr, i dont think youre this person who secretly holds a bunch of bigoted views. i believe youre wellmeaning and frustrated, but the way you expressed it made people feel unsafe and you refused to acknowledge how you caused harm
im not really one of the people talking shit about you, but i might as well tag you if im gonna air my thoughts out
i think the main problem people are having with you recently is you posted something as an angry response to the people who are trying to pretend they know better about a condition you have, but in doing so, you are hurting other people. i see this as something similar to a transfem lashing out at transmascs after dealing with a load of transmisogynistic harassment. your intended audience might be receiving the message, but so would other people, and humans rarely fit into the boxes we think exist
and in the replies of a deleted comment, you did acknowledge that your main problem is being talked over, and that your overgeneralization might be a problem. in your main post, you were very bold and confident with your wording and denying people with that kind of tone can be harmful especially when talking about disability stuff like this. i acknowledge that you said all of that out of frustration, but other people can be frustrated from you saying it like that as well. in essence, you are also talking over other peoples experiences as a response to other people talking over yours.
i also think it makes sense to criticize you because you talk a lot about political issues and people trust your word for it. i myself enjoyed seeing you in my feed because i agreed with a lot of your posts. you have a lot of reach within this space and your words does affect peoples perception of things. when you say things like
...if you are perisex and assigned male at birth you do not FUCKING have endometriosis! No matter how validated it would make you feel you don’t fucking have it and lying to claim to have a condition that causes nearly unmanageable pain for a quarter of your life or more is disgusting. You don’t have it...
that does affect people. im not well versed enough with the human body and all that to talk about what people presented to you in the reblogs of that post, but i am aware that perisex cis people do get assigned the wrong sex every now and then, and that in itself shows that you are wrong. i understand what youre trying to get at, but your usage of agab language is flawed, and so i believe your usage of it is intersexist. i dont believe you yourself are, but i believe the way you worded it is.
you claim to accept this criticism yet you refuse to acknowledge or apologize for it.
you act smug and cocky ignoring how your post was harmful and people are rightfully condemning you for it. like what even is the point of you reblogging that? you feel smug about people calling you intersexist, ableist and lookist?
anyway idk how to conclude this so ill just use your own words
