#trans misinformation

before i took T, i was running on a system predominantly (at least, this is the science as i understand it currently) running on E and i was raging damn near constantly. having therapy has helped in through both puberties when it came to regulating my feelings but internally, the thoughts were angrier, the build up to the anger was bigger, the feelings were more overwhelming, i was struggling to feel sane. now on T for several years, i can safely say ive mellowed tf out. its not that im not angry anymore or that i havent noticed a change in my emotions, i absolutely have. what im saying is that i am Not more aggressive. im saying i Dont feel significantly angrier. [im also Not saying that E will make you more emotional/aggressive/dysregulated. this is My experience having started an E and T based puberty.]

@ridafi14 you could not have given a better argument to make my own point for me lmao 😂

I’m sure this is gonna come across as a huge shock, but to be an amputee? You have to have at one point HAD a limb… and then lost it. This is obviously completely different from never having had a limb in the first place.

A female losing her uterus bc of either an injury/illness or elective hysterectomy is not even remotely the same thing as being born with a male reproductive system and taking estrogen pills

I can’t have phantom dick pain bc I simply wasn’t born with one. Trans identified males can’t have phantom uterine cramps bc they don’t f u c k i n g have one. The insane hormone cocktail they’re on can cause gastrointestinal distress and pain tho. But that’s not the same thing at all. Not even a little.

@iwantthesouptube @etotheoneeyeowl I know teachers are already working overtime but our health education obvs needs a revamp this is sooo embarrassing 😳

PMS is absolutely part of your period. PMS is an acronym that stands for pre- or post- menstrual stress. “Menstrual” refers to a period. Your menstrual cycle is approximately a month long, and it includes several weeks of internal work by the uterus to build up to ovulation, and build up the endometrial lining of the uterus

The “cramps” that cause period pain are literally contractions of the uterus trying to shed its endometrial lining once a pregnancy has not occurred. Any associated bloating or pain is fully and directly related to the healthy functioning of the organ itself

(Excessive pain can be indicative of reproductive disorders such as PCOS or endo, but again those are only relevant for women who actually have uteri)

"How about “transgenderism isn’t a choice and suggesting that just anyone can claim it is a dangerous notion.” If it were as simple as identification, I could identify as trans now, I wouldn’t have to justify my reasoning to you, and I would have just as much weight in the conversation. You didn’t even offer an alternative criteria to being trans. I’m aware that medical transition is not always on the table for financial reasons, but I’m not saying surgery is required for transness. Unfortunately when it comes to marginalized demographics, a gate has to be kept somewhere to prevent bad actors from claiming to be part of a group. Some sort of meaningful metric so your community can protect itself from people just claiming to be trans willy nilly….I’m sorry that you’ve been treated like a confused girl. I don’t think you’re confused personally. I believe you have a vision in mind for your life, but I disagree with the tools you’re using to achieve it. Personally I think it only provides short term fixes. However again, you’re your own person and all I can do is hope you live a long happy life in safety."

i didnt offer a criteria for being trans because it is not a mental illness to be diagnosed. (before anyone jumps on my throat, im well aware of dms-5 and the medical steps necessary to start physical transition.) im not going sit here on the website of chronic misinterpretation to list the "signs of symptoms of being trans." thats not how it works. it really is centering the identity of the beholder. you didnt say surgery is required but you did say that wanting it is. you did say you have to hate the current body to be trans and theres really only two known ways to help that. 1) surgery or 2) acceptance and love (which is done with or without physical tools like packers). and you didnt view body love and self acceptance as a viable option. there isnt a little trans box that will perfect encapsulate the trans experience.

"how is it then, huh?? how do you be trans??" well you take the gender you started with and then you transition to a different gender and start living your life as your transitioning gender. and if that sticks, congratulations, you are trans now. thats sort of a basic understanding of what "trans" is doing in front of "gender."

one more time with feeling: physical transition is not everybody's end goal. it is not always about accessibility. but the lack of it can be a big factor.

heres another kicker for you: Gatekeeping is bad. a really hot take, i know. suggesting we set a rule book for being trans is half a step away from transvestigation. "weed out bad actors" is just "trans people are faking" in different clothes. you cannot, especially cis people, police someones identity and then judge the validity of said identity.

im noticing very pointedly how you dont think im confused girl but you very clearly still disagree with the notion that im a man. your operating under a set beliefs about a person and their life that you have absolute no fucking clue about. im almost fascinated on what vision you think im trying to achieve and what tools i should be using instead. you dont agree because you THINK it doesnt help that much? really? wanting to live my life for the first time in 19 years is a temporary solution to you? you think being able to hear my own voice and look at myself in the mirror without want to fucking kill myself is a short term fix? you are either fully misunderstanding what HRT does for a trans person or you are choosing to view it ignorantly.