So, I dont post, or talk to many people, because I get panic attacks trying to text. But ive been getting past that slowly, and the other day I saw a post that made me upset. Not because they were hurting transphobes, but because they were just doing the same things the transphobes were doing.

So I reblog with a reply in hopes that maybe they can come up with a better way of discouraging transphobic behaviors. Then they reply saying I'm not gay because I support biggots?? So I try and clear up that I wasn't defending them but trying to have them see that that kind of shit is no better than what they do, in fact its the same. They also assumed my sexuality wrong (I'm demi)

But instead attemting to understand what I am saying, they label me as transphobes and say I can't be demi (nice of them to change it with no argument) so i reply with what i thought would have at least had one sentence that they can actually understand and not misconstrude.

They then make a reply I can only see the first sentence of (because they blocked me) that says I am comparing them, a trans person, to a transphobe.

PEOPLE, IF YOUR GOING TO GO AGAINST SOMETHING YOU SEE AS MORRALY WRONG, NEVER STOOP TO THEIR LEVEN AND START ATTACKING PEOPLE WHO ARE ONLY TRYING TO HELP.

And if it just so happens that screeching opossum is reading this, i hope you can understand, I used to like your posts and thought you were a great person, but when I learned that that hateful shit dont help, it got to be too much, you just come out as hysterical hypocrite, the way you debate like a trump voter. I still don't hate you, if you can understand where I'm comeing from and talk to me without belittleing me, then I wont hold you to the past, we could talk about other stuff, and reblog memes from each other.

Hey there,

This is a really difficult situation to be in. If you have any knowledge on how their consideration of “curing the illness” is it may lead to whether go at all is a good idea or not. If they reject it and essentially try to make you believe you’re your Assigned Gender at Birth, then it may not be a very good place to go to. If they try helping by hormones that would help with gender reassignment, then that may be good to go to but it really depends on what they believe and what you are going for. If you can find any LGBTQIA+ safe spaces they may not have a direct counselling or clinic to go to, but they may have resources to people around you that are trans-friendly and will be supportive in anyway they can. Finding communities near you, finding people who are also trans that live in your country, find what they did, who they went to, their experiences with anyone they went to. Every person you go to in the world has a chance of bias or not, sometimes in an extremely bias world there is at least one or two people who are safe to go to.

If you are unaware of anyone near you, there’s nothing in any searches for even safe LGBA+ places, then it is a matter of what is going for and what there is to be respected. You could focus on things that may relate to trans but focus on something completely different. Set boundaries as well with what test/examinations you are comfortable with if it is physical health based. Mental health based mostly it would be discussions that could help with coping with anything you are dealing with like depression or anxiety. Finding places online for support on dealing with dysphoria, ways to pass, things that can further benefit your transition process until you could either move to a safer place or find support in your community. Starting a fund now to save up for any possible thing you would like to get be it hormones or transitional surgery (not all people who are trans wish to transition of course!) but it could almost be like a fund that is dedicated to you, your gender, almost like self support so that it isn’t a too far off option when you do find the support you need. If you send in the country you live in I could try doing some research into communities near you, safe places to go to or if I even know of some people from tumblr or fb that are trans where you live and know of any places that are good to go to and I’ll connect it to the ask. But things really are changing, sometimes more slowly than fast, but change always has a chance for the best and in a positive direction. It may really suck now, but growing up and seeing the change, seeing what there can be and what there is to come is a beautiful thing. It really really is. If there is any family or friends that could support you or help you to search for medical help that may also be really beneficial. You may find some of these links could be helpful as well. There will always be support, in real life or online, but it is there, it really is. Live long and prosper!