My latest tinder story: Cute boy profile who mentioned he was an Aussie living in Stockholm. So I thought I'd tell him he was cute - since we were in different countries. But apparently we're in the same country. Awkksss for me. Anyway I assumed cute boy would stop talking to me which was absolutely fine but then we chatted and he eventually said to let him know if I was interested in getting a drink with him. Phone numbers were exchanged, a few texts back and forth - nothing crazy, literally just 'hey how's it going' - and then he disappeared. Since I'm so used to rejection and being ghosted, I moved on. Deleted tinder because it's the 5th time this year I've downloaded it and had zero luck so I'm in the 'cannot be bothered' phase. Flash forward to Valentine's Day and there he is again. Short text exchange in which I remind him of this drink he suggested we should get and he agreed that 'we could get a beer' π€¦πΌββοΈ Okay then. A few more texts back and forth until finally we get to Saturday. I grapple with the decision to even bother messaging him because let's be honest, I've done enough in this situation, I don't think I should play the guy at all times. But I'm impatient so I ask if he's up for a drink. The response I get: 'are you thirsty?' πππππ What? Like are you kidding? So I asked are you not? Anyway I got confused and there was a text exchange and he said there's nothing to be confused about and asked what I was up to and by this point I'm googling 'ways to figure out if your tinder match is a crazy person' in which I say the same to him. Then he says he'll take a nap so I say 'okay then' and he tells me 'you're giving me nothing'. I tell him that I initiated the conversation, I asked you for a drink and now you're being all coy and creepy. He says he's 'definitely not a creep' and asks what gave me that impression. So I get worried I fucked up and just say that I'm probably overthinking it so we should meet up at a shopping district for a drink. He has no idea what I'm talking about and then says he doesn't know what I look like because I deleted him from the app (FYI, I actually deleted the whole app π) so I send him a photo and ask for one back - conveniently he's in bed and can't send me one. Yup, that's the winning line. He's dodgy. Weird. Alarm bells are ringing. It's done. I say 'okay then. Have a good nap'. I'd like it to end there but it keeps going! He asks what I'm talking about and then tells me he's in bed and doesn't want to send me 'that' type of photo and that he's going to have a nap and then do something but 'if you have plans, don't worry' π (kiss emoji included). Manipulation accomplished. So I apologize saying I wouldn't ask for THAT kindve photo and that I don't have plans and explain that I'm not playing games but being cautious. I then say if he's interested in that drink to let me know. But he doesn't reply because he's probably taking this nap or whatever. So I'm sitting here stewing over it and getting angry and annoyed because I sound like a crazy person. I'm not crazy - and I'm not rude - he is. And I thought he was quite nice - and legit - until today when he decided to be really weird. So I'm letting it go. I just messaged him and said 'I think I'm a little too crazy for you' and to enjoy his night. He thinks I'm crazy, fine. But I'm not tolerating idiots. And tonight I'm exceptionally tired so I'd really rather not go anywhere. Guess it worked out in the end. Moral of the story: DATING SUCKS! Especially on tinder.
