What high Fe is like:
*Picture related and legit*
Looking for soul mates/kindred spirits since they day you're born
Wanting to be with people all the time
Never getting sick of people
Loving everybody, even though you can see their faults
Wanting to know everybody intimately, to their core
Wanting someone to feel the same way about you for once
Accepting people the way they are
Wanting people to accept you the way you are
Wanting kindness and openness all the time
Okay with productive conflict, hate pointless fights
Brain is always on people watch
Choosing to hate certain people cos you don't have energy to love another person
Falling most in love with the person you chose to hate ugh
Not really knowing the difference between love and IN LOVE cos it's all the same to you
Being told you're clingy
Being told you're jealous, but you're not. You just don't like people actually cutting you out?
Being okay with people ditching you for a while, as long as they tell you they're not mad at you
Always scared people are mad at you
Constantly checking everyone else's mood and feelings are okay
Not knowing how you feel
Not knowing how to trust yourself, because people say don't trust your feelings, and you feel EVERYTHING
Being told you're desperate or insane cos you love everyone
No one seems to love the same way you do, so you get used to it
Expecting you'll never find your 'soul mate', and you just made it up
Crying cos no one takes the effort to get to know you like you know them
Helping everyone cos you love them, only to be used a lot
Copying people by accident
Wanting people to work you out
Grinning and bearing it because you don't want people to hate you
A bad friend is better than no friend at all!
Scared of losing people
Feeling like a whole person, but knowing you NEED other whole people in your life to be happy
Doing things you don't want cos everyone else wanted to and they're happy, so you're happy
Not doing things you want because people said it was a bad idea or just wrong
Being told you need to be more independent
Paranoia
Also bring told you need to open up more
Lots of shame feelings. There's always someone saying you're doing the wrong thing.
Keeping things to yourself cos it's just you and they don't matter
Being told you're over sensitive
Finding joy in other's interests
Being accused of being fake or a suck up
What Ti development is like:
Carving out your own interests.
You still like other's interests and copy them a lot, but you have a strong core sense of self
Realising no one can love you for who you are until you show WHO YOU ARE. So being more open
Okay with losing the people, as long as they weren't super close
A bad friend is a good friend if they're doing their best. A nasty friend isn't worth keeping.
You can be content in your own, but happiness depends on your relationship with others.
Finally understanding that real love is true connection, which explains why sometimes your long term friendships are less fruitful than newer ones.
Now you can finally get the difference between love and IN love. A two way connection with two people trying to keep it that way and working for it. Not just you trying to understand someone and them ignoring you or being like 'OH, you're so over-sensitive'.
Learning it's okay for you to love everyone, but learning to show love in tiers. Not everyone is entitled to the same amount of energy from you
Being chiller about the idea of 'non productive' conflict, because sometimes people seem to make friends after they fight which is weird.
Realising people SHOULD be treating you like you treat them. That's what love is.
Getting better at sticking up for yourself and not being used
Realising the kind of 'soul mates' you wanted are real, but they don't just come and start demanding things from you like other people you've wasted your time on.
Being pickier about friends and not feeling guilty about it
Less guilt!
Deciding your own opinions and beliefs matter and are valid.
Realising your feelings ARE your opinions and thoughts. Emotions are entirely different.
More confidence
Able to risk things to help people, because you're less worried about how they'll take you
Concerned with giving a true impression of the inner self rather than hiding in fear and shame
Realising no one is going to be able to work you out because you just smile and go along with everyone. So only doing those things if you mean it
Being less paranoid
Still doing things you don't want to because everyone else wants to, but feeling less stuck about it because you're okay with leaving if you actually hate it. You're not going to grit your teeth and bear it anymore, because then you give a false impression of self.
Doing things because they're right for you, so long as they don't hurt others
Deciding your sensitivity is valid, so long as you treat others with the same consideration you want
