#thoughtson

this is a friendly reminder that there is a big difference between loving someone and making sure that they feel loved.

learn the right way to love the people around you, and your efforts will not go to waste; learn their love languages to make sure that they feel your love.

Ada tulisan ini di galeri, lupa kapan dan kenapa nulisnya. Tapi selalu mirip-mirip ini lah perasaan di berbagai keadaan. Saat ketemu orang baru, bikin sesuatu, atau mempertanyakan ngapain milih susah-susah yang ini instead of yang anu.

Mungkin satu paragraf penenang dan pengingat aja biar jangan sampe kita gak jadi ngapa-ngapain karena takut kenapa-napa. Karena ujung-ujungnya toh apa-apanya bisa aja untuk selalu gak apa-apa.

it was definitely a pleasure being surrounded by my brothers and sisters from Isabela, Nueva Vizcaya, and Cagayan. i have never felt an overwhelming amount of hope for our future. i used to think that all hope is lost since most people around me, excluding a selected few, supports BongBong Marcos and his idiotic campaign, but attending President Leni's rally yesterday (yes, i am claiming that she will most definitely win this coming election), the hope in my tiny, little, beating heart is reignited! i will continue to fight for and stand behind her, i will continuously show my support, my opinions and my views regarding her campaign, and i will endlessly critique her opposition's moves and intentions.

i am a government employee, both on my day job as Development Management Officer and on my part-time job as a College Instructor, and Civil Service Commission prohibits government employees, regardless of the nature of their appointment, as well as members of the armed forces, from “engaging, directly or indirectly, in any partisan political activity" but to hell with that! i surely felt restricted and restrained from showing my full support because i need my jobs to fully support me and my family, as well as to fullfil my desires and chase after my dreams, but the time to fight is NOW! the CSC, as well as the COMELEC, and other government agencies keep on saying that we shouldn't bite the hand the feeds us, but i say, our fellow Filipinos feed us! we provide for and support each other in times when even the government failed us!

we only have 57 days until May 9, 2022, the National Election, and every vote counts! gone are the days of mistreatment and injustice, gone are the days when we tolerate mass killings and silencing of the media, gone are the days when we sit and observe while our fellow Filipinos die at the hands of the government that should protect and nurture us! gone are the days when we cower in fear!

I am from the North, and the North will always remember. I am from Isabela, and my President is Leni Robredo.

ako ay isang mamamayang tubo pa sa City of Ilagan, at isa akong IsabeLENIo!

I was talking to some friends who are data analysts (intended for market prediction/assessment) and they said that there is a huge possibility that VP Leni may lose this election.

BongBong Marcos is so much stronger that what is currently being interpreted in the surveys. It turns out Marcos's team have a well thought of strategy.

If you think about it, the debate attendance may even be planned. It's classic textbook "bad publicity is still publicity", because his absence would be a hotter topic than his actual attendance. We're being played.

So, what they suggests is that we should focus our attention more on ma'am Leni rather than engaging and mentioning other candidates.

I'd like to preface this by saying I absolutely loved reading and watching Heartstopper! It was very beautifully written and the characters were portrayed in a very tangible way that speaks volumes about the authenticity of the author and the casts of the show.

Heartstopper is about a budding romance between two school friends. Heartstopper’s 15-year-olds don’t take drugs, don't drink alcohol, don't have sex, don't swear or even argue with their parents! Instead, they go out for milkshakes, perform dutifully in school music concerts, and have chaste movie nights. They are sweet, chronically polite and partial to an early night. It is quietly radical. It is a gay love story aimed at young viewers. Sensitive, incessantly apologetic, sweet Charlie meets charming rugby star Nick in class, and the spark between them slowly blossoms into love. It’s a flirtation punctuated by much classically British romcom awkwardness, reams of Instagram messages, and plenty of panicked Googling. It's a good book and television series!

However, I do feel sort of bad for the younger queer generations discovering the series because they're going through this right now.

It's every queer person's dream but realistically, in this society, it's not a lot of people's kind of reality, and this is not to invalidate the experiences of the lucky few who got to go through what is being portrayed in the series.

It's just depressing because I know a lot of young people will be reading and watching the books and the TV series and they would be wondering why it isn't happening to them. I know I would have.

It is such a cute story and it makes me so happy to see queer representations on TV with an actual happy ending, but I'd be lying if I said that it didn't fill me with pure jealousy and I bet it did a lot to others, too, and I think that that's completely normal.

I know it's wrong to be jealous of other people's successful relationships, but I don't want other people to think that it's a problem innate to only them.

That kind of love isn't necessarily real to all people, and I know that it's comforting to cling to the idea that that kind of love might happen to you, but most times, it will just tear you apart as you go on living and continuously putting yourself out there only to be judged and hurt and disappointed because of your expectations, which were never high, to begin with, but are just too unrealistic, and will only end up with you feeling lonelier.

I haven't been around Tumblr that much these past couple of weeks so I am mildly surprised at how toxic it has gotten.

I just want to say that it's extremely easy to "cancel" people and to "call them out" but, please, before doing that, remember to get the facts straight by doing some research and getting firsthand information from credible sources and to always, always deal with it privately at first. It's also important to understand why we are calling out these alleged predators and perpetrators, and that is to:

warn potential victims;

provide potential victims the necessary information for them to make a very well-informed decision upon engaging with the alleged predators and perpetrators; and

allow the alleged predators and perpetrators to see that what they allegedly did was wrong and for them to own up and be responsible for the consequences of their actions

and I hope that it is never about the clout or chasing popularity.

It is also important to remember that just because we're ready to "cancel" or "call out" these people, it doesn't necessarily mean that their victims are. If we can, please, reach out to the victims first before proceeding to do whatever needs to be done.

If/when posting, please make sure to put a trigger warning as it may cause excessive recollection of trauma to other people who experienced the same thing or who are currently going through the same situation.

Take note that we are dealing with other people's lives, and to always be proactive in handling the consequences of the decisions we are about to make.

canceling or calling out is not as black and white as we may think.

That is all, let's always try to maintain Tumblr as a toxic-free social media platform for those of us who want to escape :) I hope you all are having a nice day, and if not, I hope things get better on your end!

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Maybe, just maybe, some people underestimate pain. Pain is eternal. It doesn't disappear. It'll always be there. And anything minuscule that will remind you of it will make you feel everything again like the pain is new, like it was yesterday: the music you listened to while you were crying at 4 in the morning; that funny show you watched which made you cry instead of laugh; the friend who was there to just listen through it all.

Pain is not just a feeling, it is a memory.

Several years from now, when you feel serene because you've found your peace, the pain will still be there, existing, and you might not know it, you might not even be aware of it, but it helped you get to where you are.

It broke you, it made you, it completed you.

Yes, you read that right! let's talk about gay sex...

This is a public service announcement to all tops, versa tops included, to always be gentle to your bottom's bottom and their feelings! Let me remind you that you are not fucking a vagina that's naturally self cleaning... you are screwing an asshole that's originally not meant for fucking, I'm pretty sure you guys know this by now.

Thing is, a person can douche, a person can clean, as much and as long as they can, and they could still end up with a messy situation. The last thing they need is you telling them how icky it is and how much you dislike the circumstance that you are in. Again, you signed up for that, you knew full well what you were getting yourself into.

Excluding versa tops, I think you guys just don't realize how much effort and how much pressure bottoms put into having penetrative sex. Some of them don't even eat for days on end just to prepare for a 10-minute, 15 minutes tops, sexual encounter that's not even satisfying because some of you just don't know how to make them feel good!

Also, I just don't understand why some of you refuse to reciprocate? What makes you feel good can sometimes make them feel good, too!

This shouldn't be news to you, but what you see in porn is not necessarily what happens in real life! I hope you're not fooled by content creators of what should and what shouldn't be when having sex.