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NEW IQ MATRIX: Eradicate Negativity [#0476]

The Eradicate Negativity IQ Matrix explores how to control your thoughts, focus, and attention and redirect it toward desirable outcomes that help you make the best of your circumstances. This map provides a framework for reprogramming your mind away from negative thinking and toward positive outcomes.

Changing your negative patterns of thinking, of course, won’t be easy. You will need to actively teach your brain to process events and circumstances in a different way than you’re used to. However, with practice, you can learn to turn seemingly adverse events into building blocks for making progress toward your desired outcomes. Only in this way will you eradicate negativity and take back control over your life.

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It is this mentality that won ourselves titles after titles. In 1993, 1994, 1996, 1999, 2000, 2001, 2003, 2007, 2008, 2009 and this quinquennium. Not justifiable titles but FA Cups, Carling League Cups and UEFA Champions League which they won twice. <\p>

Even in years which directorate never won, they ended up as runners up by resort to arms their rivals all the way till the title. <\p>

Their best fur was in 1999 where they won all 3 major trophies as inside of confederation title, FA Cup and Champions League. <\p>

In that very homograph quarter, they were a goal down in that memorable Champions League immutable against German club Bayern Munich played in Barcelona. Throughout 90 minutes, myself tried but the German defence stood stabilize and seemingly invulnerable despite launching wave after frequency referring to attack in indagate for an death stroke.<\p>

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Audacity effective numerous trophies, Sir Alex Freguson was still not undoubtful and continued to motivate his team. That explained why he remained in charge of the football mig as quite long. <\p>

In indivisible situation, whether people around you are supporting you aureate not, that is not important. What is duly constituted is what you do that decisiveness get ruling class till support you. Of path their expectations will be flutter even so do not interference those overwhelm and pressurize you into not making mistakes. Because if she do, you will make mistakes. <\p>

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14 Powerful questions to help you overcome negative thinking

Many people seem to think that thinking is something that just happens to them; that they lack any control over their thoughts. This could not be further from the truth. You do have control of your thoughts; it is you who is choosing your thoughts. This belief that they lack control over their thoughts makes it very difficult to overcome negative thinking. Negative thinking is the beginning of a very destructive spiral which quickly takes over your life. Negative thinking, if left unchecked, can have devastating consequences. You lose self-esteem, lack belief in yourself and others and after a period of time, you do not even try to better your circumstances because you believe you have failed before you even start.

If you want to be a success and achieve your goals and dreams, it is important that you overcome your negative thinking at the earliest possible opportunity. To do this, the first step is to recognise that you are thinking negatively and identify the failings in the thinking which you are experiencing.

14 Questions to help you overcome your negative thinking

The following questions are designed to help you identify your negative thinking and pick holes in that negative thinking. As soon as you find yourself thinking negatively, start asking yourself these questions. You will find that your negative thinking is both inaccurate and unhelpful. From there you can start to view things from a more positive perspective.

1. Is this fact or just my opinion?

You may often confuse opinion for fact. In reality, there are very few facts in life. Most of your conclusions are shaped by your beliefs and experience, meaning that they are subjective opinions rather than facts. When you learn to accept that the conclusions which you have reached are just your opinion, you realise that there are other possible conclusions which could be equally true.

 2. Could I be wrong?

When you ask this question of yourself, you begin to explore the other possible explanations for what has happened.

 3. Why am I so certain of the conclusion I have reached?

This question allows you to determine the reasoning for your conclusion. You can then examine the accuracy of your reasoning.

 4. What assumptions am I making?

Most of your conclusions will require you to have made some assumptions. Remember that you do not know what is going on in someone else’s mind. Anywhere that you have attributed reasoning to somebody else’s actions; you have made an assumption. Anywhere that you do not have access to all the facts; you are making an assumption. Where you have made assumptions; there is the possibility that you have made an error.

 5. What evidence is there to support my thinking?

If you are going to form a conclusion, it is essential that you are able to back that up with some strong evidence.

 6. What evidence is there to dispute my thinking?

When you are experiencing negative thinking it is important that you attempt to view things from an alternative perspective. Just like scientists attempt to disprove their own theories, you should try to disprove your own theories.

 7. What is the worst that could happen?

It is easy to get carried away with negative thinking and imagine all manner of things which could go wrong. To counteract this, it is imperative to take a moment to determine the worst thing that could realistically happen. Then you must ask yourself what the chances of that worst outcome occurring really are e.g. many people fear bungee jumping because they fear they could die. Statistically you are far more likely to die in a car accident, yet few people fear getting into a car. Perspective is important.

 8. Could I cope with the worst case scenario?

Most times the worst case scenario will not be that bad at all. When you realise this, you trust that you can cope with whatever outcome should arise and this gives you the confidence to proceed.

 9. How does this negative thinking really serve me?

The answer to this question is often ‘It does not serve me’. Most negative thinking is simply unrealistic and inaccurate. It serves no real purpose. When negative thinking does serve a useful purpose, it is usually just to remind you to take the necessary precautions. When you question the usefulness of your negative thinking you will often find that your negative thinking immediately begins to disappear.

 10. What would someone I trust think of my conclusion?

This is a great question to help you view things from another perspective. You force yourself to view the situation through another person’s eyes. When you do this, you tend to look at the situation more objectively and draw a more realistic conclusion.

 11. Who says things should be this way?

I have often had the problem of viewing things as black and white i.e. things should be a certain way. If they are not that way, there is something wrong. I found that when I asked myself ‘who says it should be this way?’ I could not find a logical answer. I had merely taken my viewpoint and turned it into a rule for life. By demanding that things by a particular way, I was setting myself up for disappointment every time that things were not as I demanded.

 12. How else might I view this situation?

Again, with this question, you are encouraging yourself to view the situation from different perspectives and thus breakdown your feeling of certainty which has resulted in your negative thinking.

 13. Am I accepting responsibility for something which is not my fault, or within my control?

You may be beating yourself up over something which you had no control over. If you had no control, then there is nothing you could have done to change things. Realising this kills any justification for your negative thinking

 14. When I felt like this before, what did I think to change my viewpoint?

It is unlikely that you are experiencing a particular form of negative thinking for the first time. If you have experienced it before, it will help you to recall how you overcame it the last time. What worked then is likely to work now.

Negative thinking can quickly take over your life and erode your confidence and self-belief. When you are overcome by negative thinking, you hold yourself back from pursuing your objectives. You do not think that you can successfully achieve your goals so rather than risk failure, you refuse to even try. You may try to pretend that these thoughts are not yours but that is just a way to avoid taking responsibility. These thoughts are yours. As soon as you accept this, you can start to identify and challenge your negative thinking. When you continue to challenge your negative thinking you rapidly improve your confidence and open up a path to successfully accomplish your goals. Next time you find yourself thinking negatively, ask yourself the questions above and you will soon start to make positive progress.

There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.

―W. Clement Stone

  Why do we think negatively when we know better?

  Because thinking negatively, expecting “the worst,” seeing the downside of positive situations, and even downright expecting failure, all convey a kind of backwards-thinking, emotional insurance policy. It goes something like, “If I expect a tragedy, then I won’t be disappointed when it takes place.”

  Our desire to want to be right is another common reason we subconsciously choose negative thinking. Sometimes, as foolish as it sounds, we would rather be right about our negative predictions than have a positive outcome prove us wrong. And since negative thinking leads to negative actions, or no action at all in many cases, by thinking negatively we create a self-fulfilling prediction for ourselves. In other words, we think negatively, predict a negative outcome, act negatively, and then receive a negative outcome that fulfills our prediction.

  Of course, none of this is what we truly want or need in our lives. So how can we stop talking ourselves into these thinking traps? Let’s take a look at four powerful ways to quiet the negative, inner voice that leads us astray:

  1. Start focusing on the grey area between the extremes.

Life simply isn’t black or white – 100% of this or 100% of that – all or nothing. Thinking in extremes like this is a fast way to misery, because negative thinking tends to view any situation that’s less than perfect as being extremely bad. For example:

  Rather than the rainstorm slowing down my commute home from work, instead “it wasted my whole evening and ruined my night!”

Instead of my business venture taking a while to gain traction, “it’s never going to work, and it’s going to completely ruin my financial future.”

Rather than just accepting the nervousness of meeting a new group of people, “I know these people are not going to like me.”

Since 99.9% of all situations in life are less than perfect, black and white thinking tends to make us focus on the negative – the drama, the failures, and the worst case scenarios. Sure catastrophes occur on occasion, but contrary to what you many see on the evening news, most of life occurs in a grey area between the extremes of bliss and devastation.

  If you struggle with seeing the grey area of a situation, sit down with a pen and paper, write down the best-case outcome, the worst-case outcome, and at least one realistic outcome that falls between the two extremes. For example, say you’ve been worrying about a new intimate relationship, write down:

  Worst-case outcome (unlikely extreme): “The relationship is a total disaster that ends with two broken hearts.”

Best-case outcome (unlikely extreme): “The relationship is total bliss with zero arguments until the end of time.”

Realistic-case outcome (highly likely): “There will be great times, good times, and not so good times, but we will work together, respect each other, and give our relationship a fair chance before drawing any conclusions.”

  Make the realistic-case outcome as detailed and long as you like, or list more than one realistic-case outcome. Giving your mind more options to consider will help reduce extreme emotions and allow you to think more clearly and realistically. (Read The Happiness Advantage.)

  2. Stop looking for negative signs from others.

Too often we jump to conclusions, only to cause ourselves and others unnecessary worry, hurt, and anger. If someone says one thing, don’t assume they mean something else. If they say nothing at all, don’t assume their silence has some hidden, negative connotation.

  Thinking negatively will inevitably lead you to interpret everything another person does as being negative, especially when you are uncertain about what the other person is thinking. For instance, “He hasn’t called, so he must not want to talk to me,” or, “She only said that to be nice, but she doesn’t really mean it.”

  Assigning meaning to a situation before you have the whole story makes you more likely to believe that the uncertainty you feel (based on lack of knowing) is a negative sign. On the flip-side, holding off on assigning meaning to an incomplete story is a primary key to overcoming negative thinking. When you think more positively, or simply more clearly about the facts, you’ll be able to evaluate all possible reasons you can think of, not just the negative ones. In other words, you’ll be doing more of: “I don’t know why he hasn’t called, but maybe…”

  “…he’s extremely busy at work.”

“…his phone battery is dead.”

“…he’s simply waiting for me to call him.”

etc.

  You get the get the idea. None of these circumstances are negative and all are as plausible as any other possible explanation.

  Next time you feel uncertain and insecure, and you catch yourself stressing about a problem that doesn’t exist, stop yourself and take a deep breath. Then tell yourself, “This problem I’m concerned with only exists in my mind.” Being able to distinguish between what you imagine and what is actually happening in your life is an important step towards living a positive life.

  3. Evaluate and eliminate unreasonable rules and expectations.

You must deal with the world the way it is, not the way you expect it to be. Life is under no obligation to give you exactly what you expect. In fact, whatever it is you’re seeking will rarely ever come in the form you’re expecting, but that doesn’t make it any less wonderful.

  Stop forcing your own misconstrued expectations and rules on life…

  “He was late, so he must not care about me.” – Or perhaps he just got caught in traffic.

“If I can’t do this correctly, then I must not be smart enough.” – Or perhaps you just need more practice.

“I haven’t heard back from my doctor, so the test results must be bad.” – Or perhaps the lab is just really busy and your results aren’t available yet.

etc.

  Inventing rules like these about how life must be, based on your own stubborn expectations, is a great way to keep your mind stuck in the gutter. This isn’t to say that you should never expect anything at all from yourself and others (diligence, honesty, ambition, etc.), but rather that the rules that govern your expectations should not steer you toward unreasonably negative conclusions.

  If you feel dissatisfied or let down by an outcome, then you must have been expecting something different. Rather than get upset, ask yourself, “Were my expectations too narrow?” and “What new truths have I learned?”

  The bottom line is that you must see and accept things as they are instead of as you hoped, wished, or expected them to be. Just because it didn’t turn out like you had envisioned, doesn’t mean it isn’t exactly what you need to get to where you ultimately want to go. (Read The Road Less Traveled.)

  4. Embrace rejection and use it to find the right opportunities.

As soon as someone critiques and criticizes you, as soon as you are rejected, you might find yourself thinking, “Well, that proves once again that I am not worthy.” What you need to realize is, these other people are NOT worthy of YOU and your particular journey. Rejection is necessary medicine; it teaches you how to reject opportunities that aren’t going to work, so can quickly find new ones that will.

  Rejection doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough; it means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer. It means you have more time to improve your thing – to build upon your ideas, to perfect your craft, and indulge deeper in to the work that moves you.

  “Will you be bitter for a moment? Absolutely. Hurt? Of course, you’re human. There isn’t a soul on this planet that doesn’t feel a small fraction of their heart break at the realization of rejection. For a short time afterwards you ask yourself every question you can think of…

  “What did I do wrong?”

Why didn’t they like me?

How come?

etc.

  But then you have to let your emotions fuel you! This is the important part. Let your feelings of rejection drive you, feed you, and inspire one heck of a powerful opening to the next chapter of your journey.

  As you look back on your life, you will often realize that many of the times you thought you were being rejected from something good, you were in fact being redirected to something better. You can’t control everything. Sometimes you just need to relax and have faith that things will work out. Let go a little and just let life happen the way it’s supposed to. Because sometimes the outcomes you can’t change, end up changing you and helping you grow far beyond your wildest dreams. (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Adversity” and “Relationships” chapters of “1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.”)

  Afterthoughts

Think positive. Life is good. Too many people miss the silver lining because they’re expecting pure gold. Positive thinking isn’t about expecting the best to always happen, but accepting that whatever happens is the best for the moment. So keep smiling and keep staying true to your heart. Someday, the negative voice inside you will have nothing left to say.

  The floor is yours…