#the apps

So tell me why it's so normal to put that you are "looking for a gym buddy" or pickleball partner or "someone to go hiking with" on dating apps?????

Because I'll tell you what it's not, normally. It's not usually a statement of the person's actual hobbies. They aren't going hiking every week, they aren't that into pickleball. Additionally, those are hobbies that you can do without a romantic partner.

But it is never framed as extra information about the person's interests, it is always about the "requirements" for their future partner.

So it acts in much the same way as that "lifting 25 lb" statement: a way to exclude and alienate disabled people. And fat people, for perception more than reality.