#thatitis

As we often see, a common form of reasoning is that in order to obtain change, we must begin with ourselves. " Change must begin with yourself". While some aspects of this is true, most use it as an excuse, for themselves or against others. Most use it in the form of debate and lack of understanding rather than encouraging a deep soul change for the other person. Think about it, how often do you go to someone with a problem or dilemma and their automatic reply is  "only you can change this, only you can do this, you must begin with yourself" which so often translates to " don't bother me, I don't have time for you, can't you go somewhere else with your problem, I don't know what to say to you, "nothing I can do will make 'your' situation better"   which, when we look even deeper translates to " I am just a shitty selfish person who has no sense of obtaining apathy nor do I plan on getting there anytime soon so can you pass the remote".  Think about how quickly these responses come from people. These "speeches" are prepared before you even sit down for this "heart 2 heart" due to the fact lack of understanding towards other people comes so naturally at this time and place in our corner of the universe.   Less than 10 seconds pass before someone is blindly spewing the words " you can do this, you got this buddy ol' pal, no matter what choice you make I will be there for you". In these mere seconds no time is taken to capture or process what reality requiring a cognitive response just took place in front of them. They say  " I WILL" be there for you, do they not realize they are a living, breathing body with ,by scientific levels, states they have 'normal' levels of dopamine which therefore does not impair their motor skills and/or levels of emotional response standing  in front of you but yet they are not taking ' that moment' to ' be there' when they 'are there.'My personal belief is that change does not begin with ourselves, but rather in the way that we treat others, and in this we gain the knowledge spiritually, mentally, and physically that we were needing the whole time because it came to be through practice and in motion rather than being stagnant. Change comes to be through a conscious effort rather than thinking about the change that needs to take place. We learn by what we are moved by and what serves as a moment of influence.