#thatfckingay

1. dish face or roman nose? why?

I am more partial to roman noses than dished faces these days purely out of rebellion because my aunts are fucking weird about Arabian horses. (My grandfather bred Arabs...this is my annoying piece of personal trivia.)

6. Stock horses or sport horses?

Sport horses because we love a purpose-bred animal and I need to make sure people recall that I’m a Warmblood Elitist.

14. Most expensive piece of tack you own? Still technically my dressage saddle even though it’s garbage and I am actively trying to sell it. (Well actively is questionable). 

27. Least favorite discipline?

That I’ve personally participated in? Oh god, I guess back to when I was a wee child and technically doing Western Pleasure classes?? In general... I think saddleseat is more inherently rife with abuse than Western Pleasure so saddleseat for sure.

42. A bad habit your horse has? Eats fucking dirt. 

STRAIGHT UP like either they want you to carry the convo for them and do all the leg work OR theyre so chockablock full of their own opinions and bull that they dominate the convo... either way theyre not asking you about yourself ��‍♂️

every les mis adaptation NEEDS something to mess it up and make it iconic in itself that’s just a requirement at this stage

can’t wait to see what the bbc adds to the excellent and ever-growing “why did you include THIS in your les mis adaptation” list, including such highlights as:

valjean’s bf robert

the incredible somersaulting javert

secretary eponine

sexy santa

immortal gavroche

valjean dying alone and unloved 

@goldhornsandblackwool its so bizarre like do yall literally not know how conversation works.... ok.....

yooo your point about essentially needing a near academic understanding of the current constructs of identity and politics in order to navigate queer spaces without being challenged or whatever?? suuuch a good point. and pretty much puts a finger on why i stepped away from intensely queer spaces, esp online spaces. i have other shit to do in my life , i dont have time to dedicate that much effort into keeping up with the rapidly changing discourses in order to be seen...

(cont) as adequately non-problematic. i value and treasure being gay and trans, but more and more im coming to understand myself as a whole person with goals and ideals outside of those parts of my identity, and i no longer feel the need to so savagely identify myself like that. like i needed to do that once upon a time, but im like. a person now. i got other shit to do and my life doesnt revolve around being queer in the way that (online) queer spaces seem to want it to (end, I assume?)

EXACTLY.

Like yeah by y’alls metric I’m queer, I’m bi, I’m ace, I’m nb, etc etc etc, but FUCK who gives a shit???? What’s the prize!? I’m supposed to be prioritizing participation in an endless dialectical battle so I can get a ‘Good LGBTQ+ Person’ badge or some shit? Y’all paying my bills?

My body may be my vehicle in life but my life does not revolve around performing the identities it’s saddled with-- I don’t see how it’s any more taxing to have to ‘fit in’ with broader society than it is to ‘fit in’ with a hyperdefensive hyperspecific ever-changing queer space by keeping constantly up to date with the rhetoric, the constant who’s who of problematic terms and etc etc liek?/? HOW IS THIS DIFFERENT!? I’m still performing for your acceptance! 

The only time I was at all really ‘involved’ was for the sake of social justice- it wasn’t even a personal thing. I didn’t need the group for self exploration or acceptance- and I could see that the latter wasn’t necessarily going to be forthcoming. People are people wherever you go, and I staunchy believe that just because they may share a label or interest doesn’t actually mean that they’ll be your friend. If I don’t vibe on a human, spiritual or base level with someone/something, I don’t bother. I’m not gonna use a proxy for acceptance or inclusion, ever.

I love who I am, and yes you could call it many things, but I’ve never felt compelled to participate in LGBTQ+ spaces beyond adolescence because it seems like such an endless battle. The people in it are just as happy for fleeting acceptance as they are depressed and miserable because they’re being denied and made to perform in a space that was supposed to accept them as a human being. In queer spaces you don’t get to be a human being, you  have to be the correct version of whatever ID you are at the time. Being on the sidelines and seeing the endless blowups over how people talk about being bi/pan how people defend/refuse gender how people divide within the queer community via transmisogyny etc it’s a mess. Like I’m not stupid, y’all are not all my friends just bc you’re not straight. And I’m a grown ass person with shit to do, my life doesn’t revolve around this, just like you said.

This is the clearest distinction ive ever read dude

Glad to hear it bc I had to process this issue in my head all night to get this distilled. Had a convo with an inclusionist that left a bad taste in my mouth and it was honestly so triggering to try to explain what homophobia and transphobia feel like as experiences and as background violence, including me talking about being from Orlando and being LGBT post-pulse and the response was

“So are you saying being oppressed is what makes someone queer?”

This coming from someone who said they knew what homophobia was like bc they’ve seen their lesbian friend (TOKEN TOKEN TOKEN) go through it. When I said knowing what something looks like and experiencing it firsthand are two different things, they agreed, but still said that bc they experienced ANY discrimination it was basically the same.

Like the white redditor 4chan argument dialogue just JUMPED out. It feels like cultural appropriation bullshit all over again. “Oh so you’re saying I can’t be part of this dialogue because I’m white? Sounds awfully racist of you, I thought you believed in equality”. Like yes, actually, not experiencing something or being less vulnerable to it does in fact make your voice less relevant to it as an issue.