Restriction is the science of pleasure. Its as good as you can lose it. How to have more pleasure and enjoy life? Restriction.
What do I mean? Hedonism (biological. The avoidance of pain/lack and the pursuit of pleasure/surplus) is mammalian nature. Its is the operating systems of mammals. Your laziness is your operating system that's why its so hard to get rid of. So its in your programming to lay down all day and chase the cheap dopamine of tiktok and want junk its literally pursuit of pleasure and avoidance of pain. This is your base system. Except if you do it with no restraints, it stops being pleasurable and becomes an addiction.
Let me explain this. Money makes me happy but it wouldn't make Elon Musk happy. Because I don't have a lot of it, it still brings me pleasure. When I close a deal I do a little dance and a little twerk because I have stuck to my base programming of gaining surplus. BUT if I go shopping it doesn't make me happy. At this point its no longer surplus its just a thing I do so it triggers no satisfaction. Back in the day when I was dirt poor broke a thrift store run had me panting tongue out salivating etc etc etc because it was in pursuit of surplus so my brain rewarded me with thank-you chemicals. I used to plan those trips. I had a list of what I want my budget etc etc etc and it brought me so much pleasure shopping was such an experience but now meh. If I need clothes okay I'll go get it but there's no joy there. If Elon Musk closes a new deal its just meh. No joy there. Because at this point its no longer surplus its just a thing. I get ONE call from a potential and my heart is beating I can't sit I'm adrenaline pumped I am daydreaming all the ways this could go I am checking my calendar etc etc etc etc.
So how do you bring pleasure back to experiences? By creating a sense of urgency and restriction. During covid when I had my phone 24/7 and wifi and I was watching tiktok 24/7 it stopped being pleasurable to me. It got to a point I sighed when I opened the app because at this point its force of nature more than desire. Because I have created neural pathways and habits for this I am compelled to do it but zero pleasure. I'd scroll on a video after three seconds because my pleasure threshold was that high. Then I got me an app blocker that only allows me 30 minutes of tiktok and till date its a treat. I salivate for it. When I tap the app and my app blocker reminds me na-uh. Its not yet time haha. It creates this idea of lack and I am compelled by my programming to want it even more. SO when its finally 9 pm I JUMP straight to the app and watch videos for 30 minutes and all of a sudden its fun again. I laugh and I watch reels beginning to end. Because I created an idea of lack. So I'm compelled to want it more and value it more. Because my hedonistic nature wants to avoid lack because lack=pain.
Once when I was single I went out with this billionaire-adjacent guy that was 33 and the most dead man I had ever seen. Nothing to look forward to nothing to bring him joy nothing. And when you look at it, it makes no sense like you can do whatever you want? BUT THATS EXACTLY the problem. Because there is no restriction there is no pleasure. I've never seen eyes that dead. Coming from an already wealthy family so everything has always been available all the time. You see me I have SUCH joy in achievements because its not baseline for me. First time I flew on a plane is etched in my mind because I wasn't sure I would have it ever again. First time I took myself with my own money that I earned to a cafe? I still have that picture in my phone. Etched into my brain. Tattooed on there. It was such an experience! Looking at the menu knowing I don't know 90% of these things so I want to try them all but budget!!! Experience. He never had that because daddy's money and mommy's money let him know he could do that anytime. So it wasn't experience it was just Monday. There was no lack there.
In my house no snacks and I do calorie counting except I need to balance my calories with nutrition so most of my meals are very basic/ organic/ nutritional. For this reason when I see I can fit ONE ice cream into my diet I could die. I bite into that thing with so much pleasure no one gets it. Like no I run a STRICT program with my body but today I have space for 999999kg of atrificial sweeteners this is a treat for me. I take pictures and savor the bites and think about it for hours like ugh. If I calculate my nutrition x calories for the day and I have some space for 200 more I start fantasizing about all the junk I can finally choke down and spend time at the supermarket picking it out then I find a seat and get my headphones and bite into it. Midnight snack people can NOT relate at all. Because no restrictions. When I had access to YouTube all day I had trouble picking which video to watch and had choice paralysis. But now I only get 30 minutes I KNOW what I want to watch even before i log on. I only get 10 minutes to use AI in a day so when I use it I make sure its something I actually need it for. Unlike back in the day when I was asking chatGPT what should i wear today?
Restriction leads to pleasure. Pleasure is proof of a desire met. Desire is the science of free will. Free will is the blueprint of a god. Be a god.
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