Okay, so I read so much of your kid related asks and wasn't sure if I wanted to chip in but here I am.
I'm a mom, I'm 32, I have a 1,5 years old, who I loooooove more than anything in this word. I never in my life wanted children or wasn't sure if I wanted them and till this day sometimes I break down and hate myself for changing my mind and wish I didn't. Other days I'm overjoyed and can't imagine never experiencing this. BUT! Two of my best friends are childfree and fully intend stay that way and I never understood the people who attacked them because of that or told them they'd change their minds. Ever since having a kid of my own I am supporting people even more who make the conscious decision not to have them. Not everyone needs to want kids and spending 2-3 hours with someone's kid (which is a curated time, carefully planned around their naps and snacks to have the happiest versions of those kids) then changing your mind would be the worst idea ever. I'm so in support of people who want to be childfree, while having a child of my own, and the longer I have her the more I can support those people, because whatever the fuck parenthood is, "hard" or "difficult" doesn't describe it at all, not even close and the sacrifices it requires. If someone doesn't want these? Great, good for them, sleep instead of me too please.
Saying "You'll change your mind." sounds like when I have a horror day and wish everyone else to suffer too because I can't reach my therapist lol
And also if anyone does change their minds, great, just make sure you are doing it for the right reasons because this shit is mind, body and life altering for forever.
Hi lovely!
Thank you so, so much for sharing your thoughts on this discussion as a mom. This insight is incredible, and the way you've worded this entire ask is an absolute work of art.
I have zero notes, aside from the fact that you sound like a wonderful mom to your little girl. She's so lucky to have you. ❤️



















