#terfy

A year ago I was about to end it all. I had quit my job, was thinking about ending my relationship, and might have even killed myself. Why did I feel this way?

I have suffered from gender dysphoria my whole life.

If I let it, it manifests into this deep feeling of my very existence being wrong. And without work to have to put on the act on for it was becoming unbearable. I found r/egg_irl and so many of the memes were relatable. I felt like I was home... but transitioning would mean losing my relationship and put me right back where I started at my mother’s house. Feeding those feelings made it worse and almost unbearable.

(My mom WOULD support me in that decision, had I made it. She’s awesome like that. Like as far as  human rights related things, my mom’s fucking gold. I could go on for a hot minute about my mom being awesome in that way. We just have other issues I’d rather not have to cope with again making her house a non-option)

But then I discovered the Gender Critical and detrans subreddits. A lot of people feel the way I do. I realized something important. My “femaleness” isn’t defined by anyone or anything but my genetics and myself. My transitioning wouldn’t help these feelings once the praise is gone. My accepting that I am GNC and living my best life as a different kind of woman, but a woman none the less, would do more to help me and those around me.

Once upon a time, I had nothing but mad respect for trans individuals and TRAs. I still have some respect. If you’re cool and straightforward about it and don’t act like a creep, I’ll call you your chosen name and pronouns. I have good childhood friends who are trans. I know their trauma and I’m not going to cause more of it for them which I know “misgendering” will do in their particular cases.

In that last year, I’ve thrown out what little make-up I owned and have only worn a bra for work (even then there have been quite a few shifts without) and working out. My razors get touched once and a while, but only because I want to shave, which is when my pits get so hairy that they visibly distract me in a tank top. I wear boxer-briefs because they’re fucking comfortable as fuck.

The thing that saved my life is realizing that none of it means I have to be man. All of these things are feminine because I am female!

It terrifies me knowing if I were born today, I would likely be forced to transition too young to know what that really means because I’ve had GNC traits my whole life. But here I sit at 25 a proud female who doesn’t buy any of the shit they’re selling about what being a woman means.

If we truly want to make a better world and break down gender as social construct, we’re not going to do it by calling everyone in a dress female or every person who doesn’t do performative femininity male. We will really start making headway when a male shows up to the board room in a dress and makeup proudly declaring he’s a man wearing a dress.

Here’s a link to the article

They claim they “didn’t realise” and don’t support discrimination, or that it pre-dates those “rules put in place” but it’s like? Wouldn’t you RESEARCH a charity (it’s a pressure group rather than a charity) that you’re giving THOUSANDS OF POUNDS to? Literally even googling them works. I call bullshit.

Oh and let’s not forget them posting about giving gifts to police 1 DAY after George Floyds death, because they’re “needing a bit of love and care” at the moment.”

Oh and they don’t actually apologise either.

People saying it’s a shame to not use them, there are plenty of decent brands out their otherwise to use!

And to those who continue to, just be aware that your money might support the abuse/attack/discrimination of a human being, because that seems to be where some of their funds are going.

Big donations like this to a anti trans radical group could enable them to hand out negative pamphlets at Prides about us. It can muck around with the GRA reform. It can assist with the banning of puberty blockers. It may seem like nothing to some but these people will use it to their advantage to conduct this behaviour and rally further against us. You can bet they announced that Lush are With Them to gain more attention.

Ignore the Avatar part

They could afford 2 gay flags with the ugly brown and black stripes

3 Bi/pan flags

Fucking aro and ace flags

And 2 trans flags