GOSH! How have I missed that MV? It was either my blind eyes or YouTube was playing tricks on me! and I go with the latter! He-he!
Thank you for the video @nerjaveika
As for the mind set of some people you have addressed in the description I just can't believe someone would say something like that! For real?! Are those thoughts for real?! How is it even related?!!! Goodness! What do bed play and sexy times have to do with the person's will and his/her character traits? What is weakness? What is strength? It's like saying all those people who like to give up control or prefer to be guided in sex are lesser of a man (person) and a cripple of some kind! Helloooo!? Bottom / top (hate the words in general, sounds like labels on a person's forehead, meh!) terms can be so reversed in respect of an action itself, like you can top right from the bottom position ;) and quite the opposite, be a passive one from a top view! God, what am I saying! Kama Sutra for crying out loud! LOL Trust in a lover is a strong feature just like that!
Getting to the point of our favourite boys I have never thought of Shao Fei as a weak person even if he is pictured as a bottom (meh term!) guy in the novel. TV is canon for me! And the vibes it gives and from my point of view on a pair is the guys are equals, even if not by physical strength, and that is so great about them! They are playful, charming, beautiful in love.
Shao Fei is one of the strongest characters I've ever met in a fictional world. He is willed and upstanding. I wouldn't say that he has a better coping mechanism cause he has not been through all the things Tang Yi has but he is more stable at the point, yes. Plus his good- and light-hearted nature is exactly what Tang Yi needs.Sometimes it requires a lot of inner "you" to be on a bright side of things, always easy going, always cheering up for another person instead of giving in into the darkness and letting things go. Shao Fei tbh had planty of reasons to at least consider the thought but he never (I presume) did, he fought for life, he fought for love. So? Who is weak here? Yea, that's what I thought! :)
Even if someone has a fixed preference or a kink for the dynamic it is ok, no pressure, but saying a person is week to take a bottom side, for example, that point of view on human relationships as general is not just sad but dangerous!
Sorry for ranting! Was a bit irritated. 😅