Helloo
Um... we found out about the "forceID" label, "Where one was or feels like they were forced into identifying as [thing]"
And one of us (currently unavailable to talk, writing this for them) felt the label really fit them in a lot of ways, but apparently its heavily associated with transID and its community and due to past experiences, they're extremely uptight about not using labels even somewhat related to transID stuff...
So, alternatives? Or, I have a feeling already existent alternatives wont really sit right for them, so coining suggestions would be nice too I guess? Or something like that
(coining as in like idk we could make our own label with a similar definition but strictly separate from the transID community)
Sorry this is ramble-y, tired lol
Hey, thanks for sending in this ask. So, myself and another mod looked for a couple days to see if there was an existing good-faith equivalent.
When it comes to feeling forced or otherwise made to identify as something, this was all we found:
Lured objectum: A type of objectum identity where one was/feels they were "lured" into being objectum. This can be for any reason, but an example might be associating an object/thing with someone/something you are already attracted to, eventually developing an objectum attraction towards the object. This can also include already being one type of objectum but being "lured" into another.
Dissoforcedmute: A subterm of dissomute(link) that can fall under dissotrauma(link). This is connected to thinking one is mute by external force and makes the person, whether it be because of delusional or IRL attachments, being an alter that voice differs from the body, psychosis, etc., feel disconnected from their external voice. This is not for "fun" or voluntary "I wanna have this", this also doesn't override the external voice the person has.
Depending on how you and this headmate feel about things, some of these other labels might fit but not all of them have that outright "I was forced" element to them and instead describe being changed by an event or something similar.
Tamenity: A term under the alterhuman umbrella describing an individual who feels that something has interacted with and/or affected their current (alter)human identity. Said identity did not fundamentally change as a result of it, but it is undeniably affected to a relevant extent. It may, for example, feel like one's identity was stained, dyed, or decorated by the interaction. Tamenous experiences can occur in this world as well as exomemories etc., and can be annotated positively or negatively.
Sedivitrauma: An offshoot term of dissomei/dissotrauma coined with blessing from the original coiner. There is no exact original term coining post, but there are reblogs of various subterms like sedivicsa, sediviisolation are archived. It exists as a way to say that delusions, psychosis, exomemories or some other feeling make the user feel like they have a trauma, and they want to distance themself from that trauma. Like dissomei, it's not intended to be treated as a fun "I want to be this" or "I want this to happen", but rather an acknowledgment of an experience and wanting to distance yourself from it.
Contraumia: Contraumia are identities which one are not and/or cannot be, but find themselves drawn to due to traumatic experiences. This is a vague term, able to refer to identities one wishes that they had, identities one heavily connects to, identities one has shared symptoms with, identities one keeps intrusively thinking they have despite not, and more. Contraumia was created as a way to express these feelings without being forced under the transid label. People with contraumia do not actually believe they “should be” these things or want to transition into them. They acknowledge the feeling is a result of their trauma but still wish to identify with it.
So, it doesn't look like right now there is a specific term umbrella for "feeling like you were forced into identifying as XYZ." One option is definitely coining some dissodic terms for it, since at least one person has made a term already that starts with "forced," and the definition of dissomei is having a disconnect between yourself and your actual situation, and it can be used because of involuntary disconnect caused by trauma, delusions, being a headmate, etc.
If you prefer to work on a new term to describe this experience, here was my idea at a definition:
An "identity" that the user feels like they were forced to identify as, and is now attached to the user whether or not they feel it fits properly or benefits them. They may feel distress about the identity, but are (currently) unable to detach from it, or feel like it will be a permanent scar/mark on their overall person.
If any of our followers know of terms that might fit these experiences please feel free to add on!
-Mod Ally🍄
