[1/?] re: the post about homophobia - i think that it's important to recognize that -phobia comes in two forms, which are aggressive and passive-aggressive. april and i have talked about this at length in the past. i honestly think that it depends on where you live and what your community dynamics are like, in terms of which form of -phobia that you're the most likely to experience. heck, even then, you might experience more of one over the other! yet, still, i wanted to talk about the latter.
[2/?] i've experienced more passive-aggressive -phobia than aggressive. it's because of where i live. the two recent examples that come to mind are: 1) many of my family members giving me the silent treatment after i came out as transgender, and 2) my grandma (on mom's side) insisting that the pulse shooting was because of sin. these are real-life examples that aren't on tumblr. yes, they aren't as harmful as aggressive -phobia, yet they're still hurtful in an emotional context.
[3/3] as far as tumblr is concerned, i really dislike the discourse that's against cishet allies. the only issue that i've ever had that's against allies extends itself to other -phobias and -isms. it's the mentality that, "because i know someone of X group, then that means that i know what it feels like to be X!" that's it, and, even then, you can educate someone on why that mentality is bad. you can't really do that with someone who is passive-aggressively -phobic. same with aggressive.
