Projecting desire and sx
Why yearning for intensity actually proves you're sx-blind
We're all familiar with the usual descriptions of the sx-dom or rather SX Subtype. It describes an individual preoccupied with finding highs within people, seeking out the intimate and intense to then finally merge with their partner of choosing. Its wishing for psychological nudity and to be indistinguishable from the person you desire.
What if I told you that this is all wrong? Or rather, terribly worded.
Its not all wrong, some of this does characterize sx to an extent, but only a very specific kind. The sx-overfocus. This is due to the fact that most authors attempting to relate to sx-doms failed miserably and were only able to comprehend them through their own sx-blind lense, even mistyping themselves as sx in the process.
The sx-overfocus happens to sx-blinds when their wish to connect through soc is unsuccessful. They feel abandoned, ignored, just not seen. So when they're disgruntled with the people around them and deem them all superficial, yearning for someone or somebody real that actually cares, and to then merge with them. Its an overwhelming desire to live beneath somebody's skin, breathe their air and be one with them.
Its a reaction to their own overstepping of their sp, their boundaries, their privacy, their own protected energy and relationship to themselves. The more they open up the more vulnerable and exposed they feel. The sensation feels addicting, scary, new, overwhelming, and ultimately leads to obsession.
They mistake vulnerability as intensity. And thats the misconception surrounding sx.
In later stages, there's a level of discomfort surrounding the interaction, their own anger at their boundaries being overstepped turns into desire to own another and regain their sense of self. Regain the boundary that was ultimately lost within the other and thats why they believe they can only be whole through merging. Its ultimately an attempt to regain control of their autonomy. You're projecting all of your desire, wishes and needs on somebody.
Through media and culture, our idea of love has become the overstepping of one's personhood and "perfect unity", to compromise yourself, this has become a cultural ideal. Something individuals feel they need to seek out, because vulnerability is only reserved for romantic intimate partners. If you're a romantic, its a high chance you're sx-blind. Essentially its a romantized version of something inherently toxic, but accepted by society which they've picked up through soc. That's why, the popular idea and overall understanding of sx is tainted by this and leads to mistyping.
So ..what exactly is sx?
I'll write that post eventually
