#support matters

What it feels like:

Me:

An illustrated guide using terminology from both tumblr and Ao3

Me-an author- when I get a like or a kudos on a fic: 

Me when I get a bookmark, Reblog or tagged in a rec list: 

Me when I get COMMENTS 

me when the comment is just a message telling me to fix a typo

Me when I post something and it get’s no response but still has a ton of views: 

As a reader you have the power to inspire authors and artists with your reactions to their work. Use that power for the greater good of the fandom, and remember to treat others as you want to be treated. 

It is fine to want to send comments and critiques to authors- some of us even appreciate it. But Its so rare to get comments that as a reader its important to remember that if you DO send a comment you are talking to a person who put a lot of time and effort into creating and sharing something. Be nice, be courteous, and if you do send a correction- consider taking the time to send some positive encouragement as well! 

For those of you don’t leave comments- consider taking the time to do so. They mean more to authors than you realize. 

And for those of you who consume content, enjoy it, and don’t take the time to leave any sort of reply- come on… you can click a button >_> 

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Volunteer with Point of Pride (a nonprofit supporting) by writing supportive letters to trans folks. Provide powerful reminders that they are seen, supported, and valid. 

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Keep in Mind When Writing Your Cards 

The message must use encouraging and positive positioning. (Think “You’re awesome!” and not “You’re not a bad person.”)

Keep your message vague enough that the card won’t out anyone as trans to unsupportive family or roommates.

Be careful not to infantilize the message or card.

Your message can be a quote, an original thought, or a combination of the two.

Avoid identifying information. (First name and home state/country is okay, if you choose to sign the card and add a bit of personalization.)

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Mail your notes to:

Point of Pride PO Box 7824 Newark, DE 19714

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