#stuff like this

You nominated a few times that you were apart of certain secret,fandom and that you pre 2017 and you post 2017 were iinda 2 different people

my dark past is mine to deal with 🤐

no but. to answer you fr. it wasnt that bad. it was just a genuinely intense fandom experience where we were a smaller subsection of a Huge fandom, and we felt very strongly about it. im still friends with soo many ppl from back then, we always joke we have a veteran-like bond bc we fought in the same war. i met soo many irl and like. my wife is one of these ppl!! my best friend too (met them for the first time irl only last year after 11 years of friendship sigh). i have been to multiple of these ppl’s houses and countries and that fandom gave me experiences as a teenager that genuinely i dont think i can ever recreate. it was so fun and so many of us use this one social no one else uses just so we can forever stay in touch 🤧 it was That intense.

Oh my gosh, hi!!! And, THANK YOU!!! 🥰

It's so fun to hear and to see people are enjoying it!!! The first few were just some silliness rattling in my brain that I threw up on here JUST KNOWING no one would care or like them but DANG IT I thought they were funny.

But then: people DID LIKE THEM!? 😱😱😱

Now there's fuel to the fire and I plan to continue it as long as I have the ideas...so you guys did this to yourselves at this point. 😆😆😆

since tumblr indirects aren't really a thing I propose we create tags for each other so we can like still keep up our weird beautiful indirect culture here. so you can use the tags kinda like indirects but they muse be sought out. (also they're gonna have to be specific enough that other people won't commandeer our tags. also would have to be somewhat universal so its not overly difficult to search.

some example ideas in my tags

What are some ways I can dress that'll subtly incorporate being queer in some way?

The 4th of July is coming up. Cutting my entire family off is not an option, as there are people there that I dearly love. But there are members of the family that are not safe to be out around, and there are people who might technically be "safe", but will take any overt symbol of queerness as a challenge or even an attack on their beliefs (I know, I know.)

With so much of America being anti-lgbt+, I don't really want to celebrate patriotism, but I don't want to miss the family events coming up because 1- I miss certain people there. 2- I suspect certain people there may also potentially be queer, and I don't want to leave them there with toxic influences without someone there who will at least say "Ooh hey I don't think that's a view shared by everyone, but let's not talk about that now, alright Auntie?"

BUT I am 31 and have spent most of my life blending in with straight conservatives. My immediate family knows the truth now, but my outing in one occasion was violent- though we are on tentatively civil terms now (I don't want to risk being "antagonizing" by wearing something overtly queer. Even if it doesn't get a violent reaction, it could easily be seen as me trying to "start a fight" by family).

BUT, I have a large family, with lots of cousins, and I know- even just through statistics alone it is very very unlikely that I'm the only queer one. I want my wardrobe to at least HINT to other people in the community that I'm also queer. It would also make ME feel better to wear something queer in the middle of all that blind conservative patriotism.

Like, I heard of one lesbian with a conservative family wearing Home Depot merch? I'm asexual, and I don't know if that's too (idk the right way to put this sorry) lesbian-coded to be appropriate for me to wear? A friend suggested wearing a men's button up but styled femininely?