Be the TO, Not the You!!!
It's beginning to feel a lot like Christmas. The temperature is dropping, the days are getting shorter, the rain is forcing snow and in times like these we all want to be close. Sharing has become the theme of the remaining months of the year and the innate feeling to give and/or be given to has been drilled into our subconscious. So its by no mistake that during this time of year we all want to be snuggled up next to someone. We find ourselves wanting the love arrow hit us in the heart. Our insides flutter, our hearts melt over the simplest things, we want to hold hands and be caressed in fact every Prince Charming wants his Princess, and every King wants his Queen or which ever way you like it! While righting this blog a great friend asked, how do you know when you're in love? I responded with my perspective, he added his and I now have the top five reasons you know your are in true love, not seasonal love: 5. Meeting the Team: We all have people in our inner circle that protect us. They are our eyes and ears, we trust and value their opinions and/or advice on a continual basis. If you are in a relationship and begin meeting the team, things are a changin...' 4. Lingering: The more your special someone wants you, the more he/she want you around. True to definition lingering: lasting for a long time or slow to end is exactly how you all began to feel about the stolen moments being shared. In essence, he/she want to spend unplanned time. 3. No More Booty Calls: Any hanger on's or "old faithful(s)" late nights become a non factor. "The tie over," the person who will tie/hold you over until you get what you want become nonexistent! Now when I first heard the term "tie over" I was a bit taken aback but every male and female surveyed said the same thing 'tie overs' exist, but when you are in love no one can satisfy you like the one you want. The "old faithful" or "the tie over" become less appealing and/or a general non factor. 2: Money Talk: When conversations about how you will spend in certain situations, begin you are being tested to see if you all have the same money values. This is a big one, If you don't have the same values but your partner is in love he/she will make suggestions to see if you 'coachable!' This can be a make or break for any relationship so if its worth the trouble be open to making adjustments. 1. Willing to give your last: When your special someone begins to put your need in front of their want, it's LOVE! On an added note: when anyone is willing to bypass the first rule of thumb, self preservation, to please the one they are with it has definitely gone beyond the friend zone. Now with these simple truths you can mark where you stand in your relationship. If you are not sure and you want the relationship to move forward in this direction than I leave you with a little free advice, from a sister friend who just married the love of her life (Mrs. Vanessa Renner), "be the to, and not the you!" Just so I know you have it, I Love You TO! <<<
