How do you know that? How do you magically know that he would never have told me? Interestingly enough, we never slept together, so *he would've had no reason to tell me*. Also, this was the end of that conversation, he could've been some twit who doesn't even have herpes, and sent that as a joke. This is a harmless exchange on Tinder. This doesn't bother me. At all. Occasionally I'll look back and notice whenever I sleep with someone I'm *always* the first to disclose. Does that bother me, personally? No. Because I know there's a stigma that makes disclosure hard, that's why I try to set an example. Do I find it irritating the likelihood that they are practicing safe sex without disclosing to other partners? Of course. That's why I try to set an example. If more people disclosed on a regular basis more people would become educated and the stigma would become weak. Every time a gifted person does not disclose it sets the rest of us back and removes agency from their partner.