Well, STBX- the games STBX plays. Heās inconsistent with the court ordered emergency financial support. He advised that he gets paid every other Tuesday. Bank transfers make it effortless and instant. Here it is, Thursday. Nothing. I cannot wait until itās auto drafted. 2 more months.
Iāve asked weeks ago for help with medical for this kids. Itās agreed upon in our parenting plan. Nothing. One specific Med for 15/16 is giving the insurance company a stroke every month. I pay the full $300+ price (after trying all discounts possible to see what sticks) and wait for a post authorization. Iāve asked for temporary help and told him that heād get a full refund once it comes through. Nothing. Thatās been 2 months of her meds.
My cards are all closed. Iāve consolidated through my bank. I donāt expect any help with those. He has our āfamily cardsā still open, active, in use and in perfect standing of course. 1/2 of my 401k is going to be used to pay off cards I had no access to. He most certainly can help. He just isnāt.
Couples? Protect yourselves. Pre Nup or No Nup. Make sure your investments, which you began, paid attention to and nurtured remain your own. Make sure that you have a stipulation that if one cheats there is a consequence. Make a clause for marriage counseling. Above all? Ensure that your children are protected. If one of you leave? The standard of living for your children remain. Meaning, if there is a salary difference, the children are made whole.
Youāve entered marriage with love, hope and a belief in āforeverā. My hope is that this never happens to you. Just know: Divorce and greed changes people. Protect yourself and your children. If itās never used? Awesome!!! But, on the off chance it must happen? You will be protected.
