#split positivity

It’s a normal part of how humanity, and presumably other species with similar attraction schema, plays out.

The split attraction model doesn’t sexualize anyone, and you don’t sexualize anyone by using it. It’s a useful tool with its own specific applications, and if it helps you with you’re identity you are well within your rights to use it.

Your orientation is yours to define, however you see fit.

Remember: Whether you use the split-attraction model or not; whether you have two different allo orientations, or one allo and one a-spec, or to different a-spec; whether you use an a-spec orientation to modify your allo orientation, or your allo orientation to modify your a-spec one; your orientation is your own, and no one has any right to dictate how you can or cannot describe or conceptualize it.

All split-attracted LGBT+ people, a-spec or not, are amazing! It can’t be easy having a different romantic orientation from your sexual orientation, but let me tell you: you ROCK it!

Assimilation is death. Don’t be ashamed to be radical. You don’t need to fit into a box, and you don’t need an identity that’s easy for Straight Society to understand. Your uniqueness is strength.

The Split-Attraction Model only “encourages internalized homophobia” to the same degree that the existence of any non-gay identity does. There will be people misidentifying with or without it. You aren’t wrong for using the Split-Attraction Model. The fact that others have identified with a split orientation before settling on a non-split identity does not mean you will or that you must.

No one has a right to redefine ace and aro orientations as something else just because we seem to have split orientations more often. A-spec orientations are orientations, period.