#spiritspousing

i wish i could talk about being a spiritspouse on here without being associated with little miss school shooter freak (idr her url but if you go into this tag and look around shes the snow white motif'd one) and SOME SCAMMER DUDE WHO IS DATING JEFFREY DAHMER AND RICHARD RAMIREZ? (current url @/nonbinary-vedmak)

im so fucking exhausted, i wanna talk PUBLICLY about how anton walbrook is super proud of me maturing and evening out mentally! and vincent price was super exhausted from something (he gets stressed out easily) but said "your presence is enough, thanks for always being there for me"!

Metabonds (or Metaphysical Bonds) is a term I came up with that basically encompasses all consensual (emphasis on CONSENSUAL) bonds or relationships one can have with a spirit, entity or egregore.

These relationships can range from PLATONIC (e.g. mentor/menteeship, patronageship, acquaintancships etc.), FAMILIAL (soul parentage, soul adoptionship and even considering a spirit/entity/egregore to be a familial/parental figure) and DEVOTIONAL (devotee/practitioner and the spirit/entity/egregore they've devoted their life, work and practice to (whether permanently or for a specific amount of time) bonds.

To WORKING/PROFESSIONAL (working/helper relationships, where the spirit/entity/egregore helps you with a spell, a specific task, path, project etc. and priesten/oracle hood), ROMANTIC (18+ ONLY (romantic spousalship and boyfriend/girlfriend (or whatever you identify as) type of relationship)) and SEGGSUAL/INTIMATE (18+ ONLY (seggsual/intimate spousalship, seggsual/intimate relationships (like F.W.B, D/S etc.) and so on)) bonds.

These bonds are NOT for MINORS. A lot of these bonds, especially working/professional (specifically when it comes to priesten/oraclehood), romantic and seggsual/intimate bonds require consent and to LEGALLY and ETHICALLY consent to ANYTHING, you need to be EIGHTEEN or OLDER.

You can also THINK about possibly offering some of these bonds to the spirit/entity/egregore only AFTER you're of age, you and the spirit/entity/egregore have a strong bond and it's a direction BOTH you and the spirit/entity/egregore are interested in moving your relationship in). Don't force anyone or anything into anything they don't want to do and don't allow anyone to force YOU into anything you don't want to do. Respecting their boundaries is just as important as them respecting YOUR boundaries.

NO MINOR is allowed to participate in any of these relationships and practices at all! Wait until you're eighteen or older before even considering going down this path only after it's been CLEARLY hinted at and CONFIRMED that it might be a path you'll walk in whether now or in the future. This is not a path you can walk down if you're not mentally, emotionally, spiritually or physically prepared for it.

If you have any questions and such related to metabonds please feel free to ask me!

UNSHAMELESS SELF PLUG BECAUSE I CAN

You can support me on tiktok here, here and here.

I offer metabond confirmations (and other divination services here) here and here.

The narrative that only spirit, specifically deities can propose a spirit bond (especially in relation to spousalship) has been showing up on my feed a lot lately and in my opinion (and many others) it shouldn't be the only narrative encouraged. I don't necessarily care that that narrative is being shared because it's not my narrative and therefore has nothing to do with me, what I do mind is the WAY that narrative is being shared.

All the posts I've seen so far makes it seem like relationships that don't necessarily fall into that narrative is "fake". The narrative that only the spirit can propose a spirit bond invalidates and demeans (whether intentionally or not) those in relationship with spirit who's relationship doesn't necessarily fall into that box.

It makes it seem like that perspective is the only "right"/"proper" way one can have a relationship with spirit with. Which it's not. Sure, some bring up the argument that it's considered disrespectful for the mortal/human to propose a spirit bond (especially when a deity is involved), but that belief stems from the perspective that "you have to be called by the God to do anything".

I'm not saying that that perspective is wrong or trying to invalidate it in any way. If that's a perspective you're subscribed to than that's cool! Everyone has a right to their own perspectives, beliefs, opinions and experiences. What's not okay is invalidating or making it seem like others' perspectives, beliefs, opinions and experiences (that harm no one) are wrong or impossible just because they're different or even contradicts yours.

Just because a belief, opinion, experience or perspective is contradictory to or different than yours, it doesn't mean it's wrong. Neither, does it mean that yours is wrong either. It just means people have different beliefs, opinions, experiences and perspectives and that's completely okay and valid and no one should be ridicule or insulted just for having different opinions (again, as long as those opinions, beliefs etc. harm no one).

I've spoken to people who's narrative match up with the narrative that's been shared in some way or form and I've spoken to people who's narrative doesn't match up with the narrative that's being shared at all. Heck I fall into both AND neither categories because the relationships I've formed with spirits and the way I've formed those relationships aren't necessarily considered "conventional".

I've spoken to those who's relationships have been proposed to them by the spirit/s AND I've spoke to those who proposed those relationships to the spirit/s WITH the encouragement of said spirit/s. No relationship is the same, neither should it be expected or encouraged that a relationship should fit perfectly into a specific box. However a relationship is formed, it should be formed according to what's best for all the parties involved in that relationship.

No one person's needs will be the same as another's. No one person's perspective on relationships, especially relationships with spirit is the same as another's neither should it be expected or assumed to be. What one relationship requires doesn't necessarily mean another's relationship will require the same thing/s.

Remember when it comes to spirit communication and interaction, your experiences will never exactly match up with another's experiences. Neither should it be assumed, even if another's experiences seem familiar to yours there will always be some difference and that's okay and valid.

The way spirits communicate and interact with someone will also not be the same as the way they communicate and interact with another. A spirit might for instance prefer proposing a spirit bond themselves when they're with you and they might prefer the human/mortal propose the spirit bond themselves when they're with someone else.

The human/mortal proposing themselves might even be something the spirit has been helping the human/mortal work on. Both is valid and okay and it doesn't mean that the spirit is a "trickster"/"imposter" just because someone's experiences with them doesn't match up with yours. Spirits are multi-faceted beings.

Before anyone throws a hissy fit, this is my opinion based off my beliefs and my own personal experiences and what I've gathered from others' beliefs and personal experiences

I've noticed that people use the term spiritspousalship (especially godspousalship) as a catch all term for most (if not all), "unconventional" (and even some "conventional" relationships like priest/priestess/priestenhood or oraclehood) relationships one can have with spirit.

I'm not saying this is always the case, but I've seen it happening a bit more frequently that's it's a bit concerning to me in my opinion.

Doing that is neither a completely accurate use of the term or a responsible and safe use of the term. Using spiritspousalship as a catch all term is confusing and misleading especially when it comes to familial and other platonic and non-romantic type of relationships.

When people talk about spousing, they think "marriage" and other life long adult relationships and pairing spousing with a term like familial or parental is misleading and kinda "icky". You're not getting married to your parent/aunt/sibling, so why use a term that sounds like you're talking about marriage to a family member (I know some don't mean it like that, but it still sounds like you're talking about "that")?

In my belief familial/parental "spousalship" is essentially adoptionship, where the spirit adopts you into their family, either as their child, sibling and so on. Yes, I admit I used to use the term familial/parental spousalship myself, but that's only because I hadn't know another term for that kind of relationship yet.

The term made me uncomfortable and I didn't like using it (especially in relation to minors) and it causes a lot of confusion especially because of the type of relationship it is. That's why I came up with the term "Spirit Adoptionship" and have decided to use that one instead of familial/parental spousalship, because like I said familial/parental spousalship is essentially spirit adoptionship (in my belief).

Spiritspousing is an eighteen or over practice, meaning its not a minor safe or minor welcome practice, but because many use it as a catch all term (i.e. familial/parental spousing) it denotes the idea that it is a minor safe and minor welcome practice, when it is not.

Consent is a crucial aspect of spiritspousing (among others) and minors (especially those fifteen or younger) cannot legally consent to anything yet, especially not to certain aspects that's inherently involved in spiritspousalship.

Not every relationship whether romantic, intimate/seggsual etc. will necessarily fall under spiritspousalship and not every relationship whether romantic, intimate/seggsual etc. can be (and should be) considered spiritspousalship.

You can have a romantic, intimate/seggsual etc. relationship with spirit without it being a spousalship, because relationships like those do exist and they're just as valid as a spiritspousal relationship (or any other type of spirit bond).

Also I've seen a lot of people also use the term "godspousing" itself as a catch all term and from what I've seen some even consider it to be an "umbrella term" when it's not. Spiritspousing is technically the "umbrella term" because it more or less encompasses all spirit classification. Godspousing talks about spousalship to a God/Goddess/Deity not an angel or demon or fae or whatever else.

some general info about me, i'm a proud nonbinary and aceflux person of colour and my pronouns are she/they, i've got some trauma messing around with my head (and body at times) and i'm neurodivergent (basically my brain is wired differently), i'm a sag sun, taurus moon, pisces rising and scorpio venus, an infp-t, an author and self taught graphic designer (with about six years of experience) and I'm socially awkward at times.

some meta info about me, i'm a diviner, pagan, spirit and energy work, animist, metabonded (i'm soul bonded to a few spirits and entities) and i dabble in a few other (open) cultures and practices that catch my interest.

if you've read this far, thank you so much for your patience and willingness to get to know a bit more about me and i hope you have a wonderful rest of your day wherever you are in the world! feel free to check out my carrd if you've got the time!