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Yeah sorry you're fucking insane. I followed this blog because I myself am chronically ill. I said mildly disagree because sometimes even if you're contagious you shouldnt skip an OB appointment! But ya know thanks for dragging me for pointing out that its a DOCTOR, you go there when you're sick.

Well clearly we haven’t posted enough about using ableist slurs.  Because calling someone insane for their emotions further stigmatizes mental illness and implies that somehow expressing emotion is bad. You wanted a disagreement, you don’t get to decide the fucking degree. 

I’m sick of people acting like if they coat their shitty opinions in nice ways that they don’t have to face the repercussions for spouting garbage.  You came to me, you wanted to disagree with me.  Again you say you’re a follower, but I just don’t understand how that’s possible if you thought this was going to slide under the radar.

Honestly it’s weird to me that you’ve been following this blog and not learned that we don’t trust doctors JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE DOCTORS. They are human beings not magic fairies.  And the majority of them only get into the medical field for power, prestige and money.

I KNOW we post about that ALL the time.  So where have you been?

And she was a midwife, not a doctor.  So you know try to get your terminology correct when you AGAIN retell my experience.

The point wasn’t for sick people not to visit the doctor you asshat and you know it.  The point was if you’re sick, don’t require immediate medical attention and can reschedule your appointment so as not to infect other at risk people, that’s the correct option.

But it was more important for you to come back and say naw medical professionals above personal autonomy and choices.  My sister wasn’t harming anyone.  She was actively trying not to harm others.  Specifically people like me since she knows what it’s like when I get sick.

And you still don’t have relevant information to give.  DON’T FUCKING SHUT DOWN PEOPLE JUST TO UPHOLD THIS SHITTY POWER STRUCTURE THAT GLORIFIES DOCTORS. 

And again, if this medical practitioner is so fucking great, why is she telling people who are two pounds over ideal that they need to diet?  That could be water weight. It could be the actual baby, since we don’t know how much they weigh until they are born.  It could be plain old muscle mass since she’s a dance instructor.  It could be outrageously scaring to her emotional well being as most pregnant people are insecure about their bodies as it is.

That woman has no business being around pregnant people if she’s going to speak down to them about their weight.  But you don’t want to talk about that, because then you’d have to fucking admit that THIS MEDICAL PRACTITIONER IS A PIECE OF SHIT WITH PIECE OF SHIT OPINIONS.

And the fact that you won’t even address that particular fact in conjunction with defending a midwife, that you’ve NEVER MET tells me everything I need to know about you.  Besides the fact that again, I KNOW we post plenty about fat bias in the medical community, so clearly you’re not reading those posts either.

If you don’t want to be dragged, don’t put your unnecessary and harmful opinions on other people’s posts.  You still haven’t said why you know more about pregnancy than my sister.  How much experience do you have?  Because we have plenty around here.

You don’t give a shit about me or my sister in law, or the vulnerable people at her doctor’s office.  You use ableist slurs as insults.  So I have no further desire to even have you here.

FUCK OFF

I'm going to mildly disagree on the point of canceling. Some illnesses can cause problems for growing baby. And I never could have missed an appointment no matter how sick because I was high risk. Midwife's reaction might have been a little correct depending on the pregnancy.

Um exactly?  Some illnesses CAN cause problems for a growing baby?  So why are you advocating that my sister, who had a highly communicable disease expose ALL THE OTHER PREGNANT PEOPLE at her OB/GYN appointment?  Also fuck you for thinking that it’s ok to expose me to shit like that, when there was absolutely no fucking need for it.

It’s her third pregnancy so I’m going to go ahead and say she knows what she’s about.  And missing an appointment by a week in your third trimester when there have been no complications or hints of issues, isn’t going to affect anything.

I’m not going to go into details, but my SIL’s family didn’t just have the flu.  And what they did had was even more easily transmitted, so taking care of the more vulnerable people was definitely the right way to go.

You don’t know her and did you miss the part where the “competent” midwife told her she was overweight and needed to be on a diet WHILE PREGNANT, when she was two pounds over the ideal. 

Where’s your justification for that bullshit?  Are you ok with fat bias in the medical community?  Do you think a person who is that fucking bigoted towards patients can be trusted with other opinions?  Don’t you think that signifies an individual who’s more concerned with control and power than providing actual care to patients?

EXPOSING PREGNANT PEOPLE TO HIGHLY COMMUNICABLE DISEASES IS DESPICABLE IN ANY LIGHT.  So maybe instead of siding with medical personal, just because they are medical personal, and telling women that they are overreacting to an extremely horrific medical practitioner, you could do us all a favor and trust the actual people who were there instead of assuming that we don’t know what we’re talking about.

Because we already get enough of that shit from able bodied assholes who don’t understand that we DO know EXACTLY what we are talking about because it is in regards to our specific experiences.

You know what, this is my blog.  And you can GTFO, or blacklist my personal tag Admin J.  Because I don’t need you coming in here and retelling MY experiences just to make you feel like you’re educating the masses when YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT.

And if you think it’s unfair of me to be saying this to you when you didn’t have all the details, I would remind you that YOU thought you knew more than me when you spoke up.  And in the future, do your chronic illness peers a favor and TAKE THEIR FUCKING WORD ABOUT THEIR OWN FUCKING MEDICAL EXPERIENCES.  Don’t force people to justify things to your fucking satisfaction.

Because if you don’t trust the people who were in the situation, then there’s no point in having a conversation anyway.

Admin J

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