#snake phobia

I wish you a peaceful and joyful journey of learning and growing together as a family.

I fucking did it! I've been terrified of snakes most of my life, to the point where I could almost throw up at the sight of one. Today I managed to hold a danger noodle! 🐍

This is a really tough one because we have to consider the many contributing factors that have resulted in people developing a fear of snakes. It could be a result of culture, miseducation, personal experience, lack of understanding, or any number of other things.You can better understand WHY your mother is afraid by sitting down with her and asking gently and honestly, and really listening. Let her talk it out with no judgements if she’s comfortable doing so and give her the opportunity to choose whether or not it’s something she’s willing to work to overcome. That’s the biggest hurdle in overcoming a phobia: deciding that it’s something you even want to overcome.If she’s amenable to it, you can start by determining what she IS comfortable with and work up from that. That might include talking about your snake to understand what it is physically capable of and how big it will get, or learning about snakes in general, or looking at photos of non-threatening snakes, or meeting a very small snake. It’s really going to be dependent on what she’s okay with and how far she’s willing to progress. It might be easy for her or it might take the rest of her life and she may never get truly comfortable. Let her take it at her pace. She’s spent a lifetime with this fear and it’s not going to magically vanish overnight.I really hope that your mother is able to overcome her fear, but try to be kind and understanding if it’s not something that she can get past. Some phobias require professional help to overcome and that’s okay. Some people aren’t ever ready or interested in facing their fears, and that’s not necessarily ideal but we must accept and respect their choices.I wish you and your momma the very best of luck through this process, and I hope that she realizes how lucky she is to have an offspring who cares about her happiness and comfort this much. If nothing else, I hope that talking helps you to better understand and connect with each other, and helps you to each respect the other’s choices despite your differences.

So I need like a book with only illustrated pictures of snakes. Or for someone to get me a book on snakes with the pictures taped over with their drawings of the snake. Idc if the drawings are bad. Just to get an idea of what the snake's characteristics are.