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Write me a paycheck and I’ll tell you :) I am kidding so very much because I’m more than happy to help !

First, (this is assuming that they edge and know when they’re about to cum) just have them practice tipping over the edge and then stopping. Don’t put too much pressure on when they stop it while they’re learning. The important part is just that they do. Whether they tip over and let it go for a second or two or tip over and immediately stop doesn’t matter. As long as they don’t feel the full effects of the orgasm. That’s what we want. For that really great amazing orgasm to be stopped in its tracks.

Second, they need to figure out how to stop it. This part is both mental and physical. It takes a lot mentally to stop all of that pleasure. Physically stopping it is kinda up to them. If they’re using their fingers, make them take them off. If it’s a vibe, it can be a little trickier because even after they take it off, the orgasm can still happen. Spreading their legs and forcing them to stay still, no grinding their hips, trying not to clench, pinching, slapping, biting…are all ways to help make that orgasm turn into a ruin.

And there ya have it folks! How to: Ruin. (I try every time to keep these short and always fail.)

Is that what people associate with me on here???Ruining? Cuz I don’t shut tf up about it? I’ll take it!

And no ofc I don’t mind. What exactly are you wanting to know? How difficult it is? Because it is. To force yourself to stop the pleasure that’s so so so close to overtaking your body is not easy. It’s painful. But that’s part of the experience. If your ruin isn’t painful, doesn’t make you regret trying to ruin, doesn’t make you use all your mental and physical power to stop it, you didn’t ruin. You probably just had a hard edge.

Ruins should make you ache to the nth degree. They should be overwhelming. Sometimes, they should even make you cry.

Not necessarily the hottest or your favourite way, just something that when you remember it you think "I can't believe I did that, I can't believe I was that needy and desperate"?

Edging enthusiast <3 That’s me, that’s me.

And I have an easy answer for you. I’ve recently discovered that I’m able to edge with no stimulation. No vibrator, no toy, no fingers, no pillow needed. Just grinding against air and pathetic desperation.

exactly! you already understand so well <3

a month is the perfect starting point for that. a month is long enough that you start to forget your last orgasm. your body starts to forget what coming is like. the ache, the need grows, always, but you start to learn to live with it. after a month, it's just like... that's how you are now.

after a month, there's really no point in counting. it's better that way. coming simply isn't a part of your life anymore. sure, you might be made to orgasm here or there for whatever reason, but you don't want it, not really. you know you feel better when you don't come, and you know others like you better that way, too.

in fact, i strongly suggest trying to ruin as little as possible (ideally not at all) for the first month to help your body forget what coming is like <3

p.s. is your help local, or just online?

I do understand!! Orgasms aren’t for me. I’m better when I don’t cum <3 I’m more needy, more pliable, and more desperate to please. Because it’s not about my pleasure, it’s about yours. I’ve accepted this!! It’s just like…how I am now. Edging and aching and dripping and and and…ya know?

And it’s not because I don’t want to cum. I desperately do. My body craves it, begs for it. But my mind knows that I shouldn’t. That I’m so much better when my brain is fuzzy and blank. That’s how I know I’m not supposed to cum. Maybe ever again.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news…but ruins are non negotiable atm. But not because of the pleasure. It’s because of the pain. When I ruin, the ache is so strong, the throbbing is so powerful, that it verges on painful. And I love that pain. It makes me so incredibly desperate, so absolutely needy. It makes me obedient. And that’s how I’m supposed to be…right?

Should I keep her edging and denied for the whole time or try to have her learn ruining her orgasms but cut down the time of no orgasms therefore?

What's the verdict of a professional denial slut?

Oh, how lovely !! I hope you guys have lots of fun together<3 Sorry for the later response, have been sick!

Professional denial slut made me laugh. I appreciate the compliment, although I would never call myself that haha.

So I’m maybe going to give you an answer you won’t expect ? If she’s never been denied that long, I’m hesitant to say go for it. I don’t know how long she’s been able to go, what she’s comfortable with, what her limits are…that’s between you and her! It’s something you both need to talk through and decide.

Just having you be in control of her orgasms is plenty hot. Definitely have her edge though, forrr sureeeeee💗 If your goal is to have her learn to ruin, then maybe have her do that some!