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-First and foremost, MINORS DO NOT INTERACT. There is literally no reason for you to be on this side of Tumblr. I don’t want you here. You will be blocked. Ageless and blank blogs will also be blocked. Put your goddamn age in your bio or else!!!!!!!

-Everything on this blog is fantasy. If you can’t respect that, I’ll add you to the above list and you’ll be blocked xoxo

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Fun stuff belowwww <3

Write me a paycheck and I’ll tell you :) I am kidding so very much because I’m more than happy to help !

First, (this is assuming that they edge and know when they’re about to cum) just have them practice tipping over the edge and then stopping. Don’t put too much pressure on when they stop it while they’re learning. The important part is just that they do. Whether they tip over and let it go for a second or two or tip over and immediately stop doesn’t matter. As long as they don’t feel the full effects of the orgasm. That’s what we want. For that really great amazing orgasm to be stopped in its tracks.

Second, they need to figure out how to stop it. This part is both mental and physical. It takes a lot mentally to stop all of that pleasure. Physically stopping it is kinda up to them. If they’re using their fingers, make them take them off. If it’s a vibe, it can be a little trickier because even after they take it off, the orgasm can still happen. Spreading their legs and forcing them to stay still, no grinding their hips, trying not to clench, pinching, slapping, biting…are all ways to help make that orgasm turn into a ruin.

And there ya have it folks! How to: Ruin. (I try every time to keep these short and always fail.)

This is my first venture in denial. I only know self-denial. I would love to experience being denied by someone else, though haven’t found a “someone else” worthy of the honor. I want to want it and be told no. Self-denial feels like a very different experience—more like practicing the discipline to go to the gym on days I really don’t want to. In that regard, I think I’d feel a better sense of accomplishment. Still, I wonder how the two compare.

Hi there !! I’ll be honest anon, being denied for someone is an entirely different feeling. I’d almost say that the two are incomparable. That being said, everyone is different and has different preferences so this really is just my own personal opinion. Some thrive doing self denial and don’t want to have someone have that level of control over them.

I thrive in denial when I have someone taking away my pleasure on a whim. Like you said though, it is absolutely an honor to have that control over me. Be very, very careful on who gets to have that. You’re handing over one of your most innate rights as a person, something that is so precious and personal. Not just anyone can have access to that. Don’t hand it over to someone that just wants to get off and likes the thought of saying “no”. Denial is so much more than that.

That being said, once you do find the right person? It’s a really lovely thing. It’s hot, yes. Oh my god, it is so hot. Having someone that knows all your little turn on and is able to make you beg for the smallest bit of touch is quite literally one of my favorite things. But there’s also the part where you have hard days. And you need reassurance. You need help getting to the next day. It makes a big difference having that support.

Is that what people associate with me on here???Ruining? Cuz I don’t shut tf up about it? I’ll take it!

And no ofc I don’t mind. What exactly are you wanting to know? How difficult it is? Because it is. To force yourself to stop the pleasure that’s so so so close to overtaking your body is not easy. It’s painful. But that’s part of the experience. If your ruin isn’t painful, doesn’t make you regret trying to ruin, doesn’t make you use all your mental and physical power to stop it, you didn’t ruin. You probably just had a hard edge.

Ruins should make you ache to the nth degree. They should be overwhelming. Sometimes, they should even make you cry.

Last month I stayed denied through the week and just came on weekends.

I'm so glad someone else is also posting about self denial, I can't shut up about how great it is 💕💖

That’s great! A little reward on the weekends for being good and staying denied 💗 Seems like a fair trade to me!

I can't seem to break the two week denied mark lately, I've done three weeks a few times before but I get stuck after edging, around the two week mark because I can't transition from edging into doing anything else easily.

I get to the point where I'm so horny it hurts, I want to cry after I've edged more often than not. I'll wait a few hours to see if it passes but, I just end up cumming because It's too uncomfortable and I can't sleep.

I love the discomfort in the beginning, when the discomfort is just me being horny but I find my hips get really sore, tight and I get muscle knots in my back. I don't know if any of this is relatable? Or if you have any tips

Truthfully, I don’t have many tips. Sometimes I do cry because that’s the only release I can have. Pinching myself really hard can help bring me out of the fog a little haha. I’ll take lots of deep breaths. Drink some water. Give myself aftercare. But mostly I just…ache. I deal with the discomfort. My desire to be denied overrides everything else.

Not necessarily the hottest or your favourite way, just something that when you remember it you think "I can't believe I did that, I can't believe I was that needy and desperate"?

Edging enthusiast <3 That’s me, that’s me.

And I have an easy answer for you. I’ve recently discovered that I’m able to edge with no stimulation. No vibrator, no toy, no fingers, no pillow needed. Just grinding against air and pathetic desperation.

exactly! you already understand so well <3

a month is the perfect starting point for that. a month is long enough that you start to forget your last orgasm. your body starts to forget what coming is like. the ache, the need grows, always, but you start to learn to live with it. after a month, it's just like... that's how you are now.

after a month, there's really no point in counting. it's better that way. coming simply isn't a part of your life anymore. sure, you might be made to orgasm here or there for whatever reason, but you don't want it, not really. you know you feel better when you don't come, and you know others like you better that way, too.

in fact, i strongly suggest trying to ruin as little as possible (ideally not at all) for the first month to help your body forget what coming is like <3

p.s. is your help local, or just online?

I do understand!! Orgasms aren’t for me. I’m better when I don’t cum <3 I’m more needy, more pliable, and more desperate to please. Because it’s not about my pleasure, it’s about yours. I’ve accepted this!! It’s just like…how I am now. Edging and aching and dripping and and and…ya know?

And it’s not because I don’t want to cum. I desperately do. My body craves it, begs for it. But my mind knows that I shouldn’t. That I’m so much better when my brain is fuzzy and blank. That’s how I know I’m not supposed to cum. Maybe ever again.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news…but ruins are non negotiable atm. But not because of the pleasure. It’s because of the pain. When I ruin, the ache is so strong, the throbbing is so powerful, that it verges on painful. And I love that pain. It makes me so incredibly desperate, so absolutely needy. It makes me obedient. And that’s how I’m supposed to be…right?